My son is Obcessed!!!! - Need some help figuring this out

CAMSMOM1 wrote: Ok, my son is obcessed with cars. I know a lot of boys like cars, play with cars, ect. But Cameron takes it to a whole new level.

Not only does he take his cars with him eveywhere he goes ((to bed, eating, bath))But he's even more obcessed with my DH's cars. This started at a pretty early age, but it's gotten worse, and worse.

Everynight Justin takes Cam into the garage to see his cars. Cam will sit in his El Camino, and want the stereo blasted as loud as possible, he has to steer it, ect. Then he wants to go on DH's motorcycle, and he has to turn it on, and rev it up loud. Then he gets on his Quad, same thing. Then he has to get in the truck, ect.

The whole time he's saying, "Vroom, Vroom!" And shaking his body back and forth like you were reving an engine up.

Ok, so I'm sure you're thinking....why do you need help with this? The problem is that he doesn't want to come inside. Justin can keep him out there for an hour, and he still isn't satisfied. When he takes him inside, he has a BREAK DOWN! Literally, he's banging his head on the back door, crying, screaming, and beside himself. It takes me forever to calm him down, and we go through this everynight.

I can't even take him outside during the day anymore, because he doesn't want to ride his PowerWheels Tractor, all he wants is to go on Daddy's cars and I won't turn them on for him, so he throws another fit.

From the moment he wakes up in the morning, till bedtime, that's all he wants. He'll tell me, "Side, side..Vroom, Vroom! Cars, Gas, side side!" ((means he wants to go outside to ride the cars, turn them on, and go vroom)) He'll repeat this phrase until I take him outside. That's all I hear anymore. I've tried to tell Cam that the car is sleeping...I've tried everything. It's becoming a problem, but we don't want to stop taking him on the cars, because he loves it so much. KWIM?

Has anyone else gone through this? I have never seen a kid his age so obcessed with cars, to the point that it breaks his heart.

luvmykids replied: I'm no help, Colt is obsessed with horses, cowboys and rodeo (go figure, with a name like Colt ...) but not nearly to that point.

Hope someone else can help you!

MamaJAM replied: Sorry - no tips or advice...but plenty of

fashionmumofboys replied: Both of my younger boys are like that. They are totally into cars, trucks, motorcycles, etc.

They just can't get enough, so I know exactly where you are coming from.

CAMSMOM1 replied: fashionmumofboys Posted on Feb 14 2006, 12:52 PM


So do they cry and act like Cameron when they don't get their cars? I mean I know a lot of boys like cars, but Cam is just way to obcessed to the point where that's all he thinks about during the day, all he wants, and when he has them, it's not enough, and he breaksdown. And I know it isn't a phase, because he's been like since for a long time, it's just gotten worse.

luvbug00 replied: I don't know. Maybe you should stop his visits to the cars at night for a bit? maybe allowing him to keep doing this is more harm then good? but like I said before I don't know. I do know we keep telling you to ask your ped and for this I would ask mine. It sounds a little more then a normal child like attachment.

many

CAMSMOM1 replied: happymom Posted on Feb 14 2006, 12:58 PM



Nadia, I'm not sure what you meant by that?? "We keeping telling you to ask your ped....normal child attachment?"

I was hoping you can expand on that, cause I'm kinda confused.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: I think I'd either stop bringing him to see the cars, or, since there's nothing wrong with how much he likes cars, but with this behaviour, when you do bring him to see them don't let him stay for an hour because then you're just going way out of your way to let him have his way. Then when he throws a fit, deal with it by giving him a time-out or something like that so he will eventually (hopefully) figure out that acting that way isn't going to make you give in.

Good luck with this!

luvbug00 replied:
NO NO No !!! not in a bad way. I ment when you have asked advice in the past on a subject about your child ( the whole weight thing) every post was telling you to seek the advice of his ped. here you are asking advice about your child that I see better suited for a doctor to answer as I am no doctor and I'm not going to tell you any medical opinions I know nothing about.

In other words I was just thinking out loud that I have no awswers medically to give and I would be concerned if Mya showed this behavor. so I will say I would ask his ped the next time you go see them about it since they are medicaly educated to answer your questions it's not worth a special trip.

I'm sorry if you were offended or confused I just feel bad I'm not able to help more then say "see the doctor".

CAMSMOM1 replied:

Offended, no way! I was just confused, and wanted to understand more, I really value your input and just wanted to hear more of what you thought.

With the attachment thing you brought up, do you think he's overly attached? I'm asking this with a sincere heart.

Lexismama replied: hmm...sounds like the me has "just like daddy" syndrome LOL!!!

b&bsmom replied: I have kind of a similar problem. My son is obessed with bowling. When we are not at the lanes he bowls with his little wood pins and a lb exercise ball in our kitchen. When he has tv time he wants to watch his bowling videos He loves bowling. We had a problem in the beginning when he would throw a fit when bowling was over or we wouldn't let him bowl at home. I have found for my child the best thing to do is give him warnings about what is coming next. For instance, I will tell him ok you have 2 more frames and then your game is over. It was tough at first but then he started realizing that that is what was going to happen so now when I tell him that he will say ok. I have also told him things such as if you don't pick up your bowling pins you will not be able to use them tomorrow. In your case I would tell him before you go out that you are going to see the cars but if you can't leave when it is time to go then we will not be able to go tomorrow. The most important thing is to be consistent. I don't know how old your son is my son is 3 and has been bowling since 2 weeks before he turned 2. This is JMO. I hope it helps a little. Good luck!!!

luvbug00 replied:

the last line struck me the most because If he can't make it threw a day without riding his trucks then how are you going to get anything done without going insane? and how is he going to manage in school where there are no daddys trucks? If this is causing a problem that severe then I would ask your ped next time you go about it and if he says no harm done then ok .

CAMSMOM1 replied: Thanks Nadia, very well said. Sorry, sometimes I just need it to be explained so I fully understand. But you are exactly right, it is a problem. And I need to figure out what to do. Thanks again for your input!

b&bsmom Posted on Feb 14 2006, 01:40 PM


THANK YOU SO MUCH for sharing that with me! I was starting to think I was the only one who's child had a problem/obcession. Good tips, I know I need to be more consistant. And he needs to know there are boundaries, and acceptable behavior.

Besides the car & hair cut issue, he is a happy boy. He plays fine by himself, and is very loving and kind. We just have some issues. Thanks again!

luvmykids replied: What about using a timer? Like show it to him and explain it and tell him when it dings times up? It will probably still be rough for a while but maybe he'd get the hang of it? Maybe DH can tell him no going to the garage when DH isn't home?

CAMSMOM1 replied: He knows he doesn't go on the cars when he's home with me. I have to put my foot down, so even though he asks, I say no...not until Daddy gets home. But as soon as Justin walks through the door, Cam runs him, and asks to go out. I guess its good that they have a hobby together. Justin likes that time with him. But it hurts Justin and I to see him get upset afterwards. He's starting to understand that "Side, Side" is only at night-time. So when he wakes up he asks me, "Ni-Night?"

I think the timer is a good suggesstion. He needs to know what to expect. Thanks again for everyone's input! It has really helped me out alot.

Edward's Mommy replied: Something you could try is use his cars as a reward for good behavior. (Not that your little angel misbehaves!!) My grandma always did that with her boys!!! Hope that helps you, Ann!!!

PrairieMom replied: sounds to me like he is just being a normal toddler. He knows what he wants, and will have a fit until he gets it. We had the same problem here with Trains, and also get it with TV and snacks, playing out side, you name it.
Unfortunately for my Poor Boy, mommy is the boss, and what I say goes, and no ammount of screaming is going to get him his way. I usually just let him lay on the floor and have his fit until he is ready to be done. They aren't so bad any more becuase he has figured out that it dosn't work on me. I don't negotiate with terrorists!

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