My niece who is 17 is getting married

TANNER'S MOM wrote: I am so floored and saddened. She called and said that she sat a date for April for just after her 18th. I told her to think hard and live life. But what do I know?
She knows everythign! I am so sad

mom89 replied: Oh wow! Thats young! Well,good luck to her. I doubt you or anyone can change her mind.

mckayleesmom replied: WOW.....thats young, but you never know, she might prove you wrong and be married to the same man at 70 or 80.

5littleladies replied: I got married at 18 and it has turned out quite well for me. I do look at people that age now and wonder what we were thinking, but I wouldn't change a thing.

ETA:We've been happily married for 8 years.

WillnCare replied: WOW! Hopefully she will come to her senses in the meantime!

Ah, the good 'ole days of being obliviously "happy in love" without any worries! Maybe she won't have to face the reality of marriage so young!

A&A'smommy replied: Try not to worry too much she may know a little more than you think... then again it really depends on her maturity level. I got married when I was 17 when I got married and my best friend got married on the 22 she is 17, I wasn't as mature as she is now when I got married but the biggest thing for me was the shock of having to grow up so fast because I was pregnant and going to be a mommy. My friend got married because her husband (almost 19) is in the Army and he is real mature!

gr33n3y3z replied: I dont know what to say about this But all you can do is hope for the best for her
Hugz

goodgollymissmolly replied: Wow that's young. I hope she will be happy. Do her parents support the idea? In a lot of states if someone wants to get married before age 18 one of their parents has to sign the marriage license.

Stayathomedad replied: All you can do is give advice. At 17, kids think they're grown up and know it all. I have a daughter who's about to turn 18 and I keep telling her not to get serious with her boyfriend and not to make college plans around where he's going to go. All I get is the eye rolling yawn and a "Sure Dad, whatever". As I keep telling her, "I was 17 once and I know what it feels like" but of course that also goes in one ear and out the other.

Your best bet now is be supportive and try not to be too judgemental. I'm sure she's already getting that from the rest of the family.

Good luck.

FroggyJK replied: I got engaged at 17 and married right after I turned 19. I think it depends on their maturity level. Once she turns 18 there won't be anything you can do to stop them if that's really what they want to do. I lost all of my friends and got crap from everybody when I got marred, but I knew that it was the right thing for us. We will have our 7th anniversary this April and we will be together for the rest of our lives. Don't be judgmental just because of age. If there are other issues to be concerned about then you could gently share them, but ultimately it's their choice.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: I think it depends on the person. Some 17 year olds I know aren't ready to get married, but I've known a lot of very mature 17 -18 year olds that know what commitment means, and would have no harder of a time than a 30 year old.

LaurenAnthony replied: I am not going to go into detail on this because it is very near and dear to my heart and I get very passionate about such things.

I just hope that you will consider taking my advice and supporting your niece no matter what her decision may be. Your well wishes and support will be much more needed and appreciated than your questioning and disapproval. She'll probably get plenty of that from others anyway.

Good Luck to her and her df! May they have many happy years to come!

MomToMany replied: Yes, its young, but they could be ready for it. I got married when I was 16, and was pretty much forced into it by my own mother. I got pregnant, and she didn't want any daughter of hers to have a baby without being married. I didn't want to get married, but she didn't care what I thought since I screwed up already. He was 16 too. We still went to the same high school, and there was quite a bit of gossip among the teachers. We graduated from high school, and I had #2 4 days before graduation.

We are since divorced since he was cheating on me while PG with #3. We were married for almost 7 years. While I don't call it a mistake, I do wish we weren't forced into it. The only good thing about it was my sons . I can't imagine not having them in my life. They are 11, 9, and 5 years old now.