More on baby showers....
MyLuvBugs wrote: Momof3inMe made me start thinking....How many of you had a baby shower for each one of your pregnancies? Or did you only get one or two for your first child?
kimberley replied: i got a shower for all my babies except Kaleigh. if i felt better and had more time and money, i probably would have thrown my own for Kaleigh too but that wasn't the case. to me, a shower is a party to celebrate the coming of a new life. it is not about gifts. some people see it as rude but i was in love with all my babies in the womb and had to share that 
coasterqueen replied: I had a shower for Kylie. No one threw me one for Megan. We were going to throw our own "meet and greet Megan" party, but everyone we would have invited came to the house to see her, especially with the shock of her coming a month early, so we just never did it.  I agree, it's about celebrating a life, not gifts.
MyLuvBugs replied: So, you through each one of your baby showers? What sort of stuff did you do for them?
MamaJAM replied: When DD#1 was about 2 months old a friend of DH's family threw a little party (I guess it was like a baby-shower) for us. DH, DD and I were all there - it was nice.
When I was preg with DD#2 - both my mother and MIL/2 friends of mine threw me showers (DH and my families don't get along...which is really why there were two). Also - my parents were not a part of my life while preg with DD#1 - my pregnancy with DD#2 was the first time they were involved with anything.
When I was preg with DD#3 - we were in a time of personal transition.....a small shower was mentioned - but since I already had 2 girls and we had everything we could ever need I asked that no one throw a shower.
With the boys - things were very different. We were now officially Jewish and in Judaism parties are not thrown before a baby is born. Both of our boys had their big party on their 8th day at their Brit Milah (circumcision) ceremonies when friends celebrated with us in our home.
Momof3inMe replied: Its funny you ask that b/c when I was PG with DD no one gave me a shower and my last child was a boy and he was 5 when I had DD and I was very upset and my sister who I am giving a shower for said you should only have a shower for your first one. If they are close in age then maybe but its always nice to get new things. I also think that maybe doing a different shower where you bring them meals to frezze or bring diapers. I guess everyone is different
kimberley replied: my showers for my first two were in a party hall with friends and all extended family. we had a buffet of food and decorated for baby. with my second, most people brought small gifts of diapers or outfits tho it wasn't necessary.
for jade we had a bbq/house party and decorated. it was just immediate family and a few close friends. i had gotten rid of all my baby stuff at that point, so we got all the necessities and some outfits.
we really didn't play games or anything. just enjoyed the party and converstations.
booey2 replied: We had one for Matthew after he was born, my cousin held it outside at her house in the country in July. For Thomas (in my family) we don't get a second shower, instead when everyone visited they would bring something either for the baby or mom, I think that if we had had a girl that would have changed and someone would have thrown us a shower. I did get a small one from the company I am at now because Thomas was born while I was working here. They had it the week after he was born because they had planned it for that day and since Thomas arrived 12 days early they decided to still have it for me. It was nice, I really didn't get anything for him, I got 3 nutcrackers (it was around Christmas time), a sweater for me, a huge christmas candle centrepiece I love it and 2 remote controlled motorcycles that the boys still use today. I think every family is different.
Cece00 replied: I had two showers for my first baby.
I didnt have showers for my other two.
Showers are more for presents in my part of the country. Otherwise, you just have some sort of "welcome baby" party.
My MIL wanted to throw me a shower for my last baby (my older boys are from my ex & she was the first girl) but I wasnt really comfortable with it. She ended up backing out anyway so it worked out.
I never had "welcome baby" parties, but always received a lot of gifts when my children were born.
I had 3 kids in less than 4 years so I really didnt need all of the baby stuff again.
holley79 replied: Well I just had my first child. My mom and my sister threw my baby shower for me. There were a lot more people then I would have ever thought to show up. My aunt made all the food. The party was at my mom's house on her screen porch. A lot of family and co- workers were there. I got so much stuff I was afraid I was going to look ungrated by the time I got to open the last few gifts. I was exhausted and a little over whelmed. I made "Thank you" gifts for everyone. I had purchased a bunch of voltive candles and holders, wrapped them in tulle and tied them off with a ribbon and card attached with the following:
Here's a candle for you to light
Once the stork has made his flight.
With the flicker of the flame,
Please say a prayer in Annika's name.
Thank you for celebrating with me.
Everyone loved them and it was kind of nice being able to give something to everyone that showed up. We didn't play games or anything. Everyone pretty much just socialized and told "children" stories. I think that was a lot more fun then playing games.
CantWait replied: No showers with either pregnancy 
~Roo'sMama~ replied:
Aw that's sad!! 
I only have had one pregnancy, but I wouldn't expect another shower for my next one... around here it's more of a first baby thing, or if you're having a baby and there is a big age gap so you don't have your baby stuff anymore.
I would like to have some kind of party though, either before or after the baby was born. Just for fun... no presents. 
MichaelsMommy replied: I had 11 years between my twin girls and my baby boy, so I had a shower
both times.
PrairieMom replied: i had two for The Boy, both after he was born. For the next one I am planning a "meet and greet " for the baby, but we are calling it a big brother party for Ben. It will probably have little boy themed stuff, and no gifts, just cake and balloons.
luvmykids replied:
I LOVE THAT! I never had any showers, we had one planned for the twins but they came early and since they were preemies when the date rolled around we didn't want a bunch of people around. When I was pg with Macie we had just moved to a new town and I didn't know anybody! But both mine and DH's parents are divorced and remarried, and I'm an only child, so between four sets of gparents and everyone else on top we still got tons of the stuff we needed.
MyLuvBugs replied:
See that's kinda how my best friend is right now. She's got a 6 year old girl, and is expecting her 2nd child in August. They got rid of ALL baby related stuff, so it's like starting over for them.
MyLuvBugs replied:
That's really cute....I don't know though if I could stop my MIL and Mom from buying gifts for either child. lol 
My3LilMonkeys replied: I had a regular shower for Brooke. When Madison was born the girls at my work threw me a mini-shower - we all ate lunch together and one of my coworkers made a cake and they all chipped in and got me a very generous gift card for WalMart.
A&A'smommy replied: I had a shower with Alyssa and If I don't get a shower with the next one I will probably throw a party
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