Morbid question - Burial plots
coasterqueen wrote: Has anyone looked into burial plots -- have you bought yours? I know this is a morbid question, but with what we are going through with my aunt right now it's got me doing a lot of thinking. We have no information to go off of as to what my aunt wanted for her burial. I don't want my family/children having to go through such a thing trying to figure out what we want for our funeral, where we want to be laid to rest, how, etc. I'm just wondering if anyone else has thought about this or done anything.?
lisar replied: I have thought about it and wanted to do it, but I havent done it yet. It just seems all creepy to me planning my funeral and all.
Kentuckychick replied: I think it's important to at least talk to your family about where (what cemetary) you would like to be buried in and make it a continued conversation as the years pass. Things change, families change and if you don't feel ready to go out and personally buy a plot, at least you've talked about it.
I think a good example would be, my grandmother passed away in 2002 and my grandfather bought a plot next to hers. He has since gotten remarried and it hadn't been talked about much. When he moved to Seattle with his wife her family told my aunt and father that if something were to happen to him while there they would help get his body back here to be buried with my grandmother. It wasn't something we'd thought of, but obviously it's something still important to him and it was good that he'd clearly voiced his concerns to her family.
TheOaf66 replied: nope Jennie and I already decided we want to be cremated so no need to buy a hole in the ground
boyohboyohboy replied: both my dh and i are set up to be cremated also, thru the cremation society, its really a good deal, we dont want our kids to have to decide for us and deal with a funeral..and they are so expensive, this was a cheaper and better way for us, we have prepaid and its all set.
we are now working on updating our will, thats what takes us so long to get going on.
Hillbilly Housewife replied: We bought some spots in a mausoleum a while back.
grandma replied: When my first DH died I bought a plot next to him, as did my mom and her husband and my brother and his wife.
Cece00 replied: We have a private family cemetery. We could pick out spots where we want to be buried in there, but I dont care. I just wanted to be buried inside the cemetery. If my parents pick out their spots, I will pick out mine & DH's next to them.
msoulz replied:
Stacy, I haven't heard of this before - is there a web site that you know of to research it more?
I had a friend who was a funeral director whose funeral home helped me to preplan my grandmother's funeral, the prepaid thing. It was a nice thing for it to all be taken care of. We have no plans for this but we do have our wills all set. My only concern with the prepaid thing is I am not sure if you do it now and you die 40 years from now, if the funeral home is no longer in business or has changed hands will the contract still be valid? That wasn't something I considered when arranging for my grandmother but I would if I were to do it for myself.
Kentuckychick replied:
What happens after cremation though? Do you have plans for burial or scattered ashes or anything like that.
holley79 replied: Not morbid at all, it's reality. We btoh want to be cremated and our ashes spread. I have spoken in depth with my parents and they want the same.
luvmykids replied: We haven't, but my parents and grandparents all did and paid for their entire funerals, including caskets, headstones, etc years and years ago. It made things very easy for the family.
boyohboyohboy replied: its the cremation society, let me get the link..
or at least a number for you, i know its good all over the united states.
see no matter where or how we die, or when...when the time comes someone calls the card we carry..and the people come and get us, and take us to the funeral home, there are tons i assume in business with the cremation society, and then once we are cremated we are going to be spread out to sea, but there are options to pick from.
i know that the desert was one.
you just pre plan for all that you want, there can be a service, there can be announcements, all kinds of options..and it cost about $1200 a person.
that was 4 yrs ago when i did it.
its a real piece of mind for us..
http://www.auergroup.com/amh/
My2Beauties replied: No, I haven't thought about this  I know that the thought of being buried 6 feet under gives me the heebie jeebies and so does cremation, I don't want to be burned either. I thought about a masoleum (sp?) but....then there are those what if's like earthquakes, horrible tornadoes, those things may not be very sturdy. I don't know what I want to do. This really is something that DH and I need to talk about though!
luvbug00 replied: book and cook us. we want to be spred together so whoever dies last holds the ashes until Mya and her siblings will distribute us. ( our hope is to ash in the breeze of antartica)
TheOaf66 replied: Jennie won't fulfill my dying wish, I want some of my ashes spread over the Demolition Derby pit
luvmykids replied:
Dh wants his spread over a golf course  He hasn't decided which one yet, wherever he has some kind of official big win 
redchief replied: I want to be cremated as well, but religion insists my ashes be interred respectfully. Fortunately plots for cremated ashes are very small and reasonable.
boyohboyohboy replied: my husband says when he is cremated he wants his ashes spread on my living room carpet so i have to pick up after him one more time!
mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: We plan to be cremated. My parents have done the same, and I have the info as to where they want it done so that I don't have to worry about a burial spot, funeral, etc.
I'm sorry you are dealing with this Karen. Must be hard. 
jcc64 replied: We don't even have a will yet, so obviously, we're not big planners. Pretty sure we'll go the cremation route, though.
lovemy2 replied: I can't bear the thought of being creamated - must be the italian in me - I will have a funeral - calling hours at the same funeral home all the rest of my family has been (hopefully it will still be around) - pre pay it at sometime - and be put in a masoleum - I want my kids to have someplace tangible to go to if they need to - my Dad is in a masoleum and it is a very peaceful, beautiful place that brings me great comfort when I go to it - most of the cost of the funeral though will go to the party for the living after 
Remember not to put your funeral plans in your Will or with your Will or in a safe deposit box - most of the time those things are not looked at or found or able to be accessed until after you die and are buried - they don't do much good then.
Anthony275 replied: well my grandpa that died 11 months ago is in an ern placed in a glass case at the cemetary, and also in my basement in jars. we have most of his ashes and my grandma does not know about that but thats ok because we hate her
when my other grandpa died, my grandma has a spot next to him, along with her daughter and my aunt
my other grandma, that died when my mom was 8, is buried in a different cemetary where i dont know where that is, my mom hasn't visited in years
Mommy2BAK replied: larry's uncle died last night and i have actually been thinking about this same things, i'm only 23 but reality is death doesn't have an age. Sorry about your aunt karen.
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