Monica - gifts for twins

mysweetpeasWil&Wes wrote: We are invited to a birthday party next week for twin girls that are turning THREE. Help! Do I get them one big gift, two seperate gifts that are completely different or two gifts that are duplicates? I know your twins are opposite gender, but I was hoping you could help me determine what's the best option. I really don't know them all that well.

Anthony275 replied: im a twin. ive always recieved something different than what my brother had. just think of it this way: two different people, two different gifts

My3LilMonkeys replied: I think definitely 2 gifts. I knew a pair of twins growing up and when they were younger, they loved getting identical gifts. Past 7 or so, they were more into individualized things.

MoonMama replied: I had good friends who are twin girls growing up. I remember they hated getting gifts as a "unit". I'd say 2 different gift, but its hard to say what since you don't know that well what each is into. But I'd call their mom/dad and ask them flat out what the girls are into. Sorry I'm not more help.

Calimama replied: I agree, I'd get two separate gifts.

MommyToAshley replied: I'd probably get each of them a gift. I would call the Mom and ask her opinion as to what they like -- then I'd slip in the question if they prefer identical gifts. I have a friend that has daughters very close in age... they're not twins but they're about as close in age as two sisters can be that aren't twins. Anyways, she always buys them the same gifts at Christmas, otherwise they fight over them. Just a thought.

luvmykids replied:
True, but I think at age three and being girls that is asking for trouble, Kylie and Macie still fight over gifts if they think the other got something better

I would do small individual gifts that are the same and one to share, like a dress up dress and two pairs of shoes, or something. Or two small gifts that are the same but different colors.....but even that can be dangerous

I agree with Dee Dee, maybe just ask the mom if they have the same interests or not and see if she kind of leads you to an idea.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
This is EXACTLY why I asked, because I know how siblings fight over things. And I've seen these twins do it several times! I have an older sister, 3.5 years apart, and we still fought over what we got. Even in different colors.

So I'll get two seperate gifts. And I think I'll get them identical gifts to be on the safe side. Oh btw, I did ask the mom what they are into and all she really said was that they are sorta picky.... I think she said craft stuff and possibly Dora if I remember right, but that's about it. Doesn't leave me much.

Thanks for the tips!

grapfruit replied:
3 year olds that are "picky"

jem0622 replied: As a mother of 3 yo twins, I can tell you that we get very upset when they get one gift. You could get smaller, cheaper items and ensure they are treated as individuals and not a unit.

Hope it's fun! We just had a very fun 3 yr bday party for the girls on Sunday!

Our Lil' Family replied: My best friend has twin 3 year old girls (will be 3 on the 27th). When they turned 1 I got them the Little People doll house, joint gift...they were still young, didn't care. Last year I got them matching outfits, I think one was pink and the other purple but same pattern. I plan on going with clothes this year too. With Christmas being so close they won't need toys! My bf is a-ok with this!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Thanks for the opinions. Overall, it's really the thought that counts. Shouldn't really matter I guess which way I go, but so you all know, just got back from Target and bought each girl these cut-out wooden dolls that you can mix and match their clothes with magnetic wooden pieces. Really cute!! And not too expensive. I liked that they were made of wood, seemed like they should be from more of a boutique type store. They aren't from Melissa & Doug, but similar looking stuff. Each of the dolls has different faces, but the concept is the same and they will each have their own. They can swap clothes if they want. I then added a craft type thing where you color on the paper and a photo of little pony appears. I'm done!!

jem0622 replied: Great choice! I love Melissa and Doug things. Some of our local shops have it. The kids love their puzzles!

They will love that they have something of their own, but can play cooperatively if they wish.