Mini DH vent

coasterqueen wrote: I'm so irritated at DH right now! My dcp has been using my only huge swaddle blanket to help swaddle Megan during the day when she has her. She sends it home with every night because I use it some at home and every time we go out. So I wanted to make some for her so we don't have to keep traveling it back and forth. I don't know how to sew and can't seem to get my mom to quickly sew them for me so DH suggested we take them to a seamstress. He has this little old lady down by his work do all our sewing since I can't sew. He offered to drop them off today so I let him but told them I wanted them done before the end of the week, preferably picking them up tomorrow. I also said if she can't do it that fast then I'd see if MIL could do them. I just called him to see when he can pick them up and he told me the lady said the earliest would be Saturday. WTH? Did he not listen to me? I told him no later than Friday and he thought it would be ok to extend that to Saturday or possibly even longer if it takes longer. What part didn't he understand? Why couldn't he have just called and said "hey Karen, the lady told me the earliest would be Saturday. Do you still want me to leave them here or what?". Doesn't seem like a hard concept to follow.

I swear he acts more like a child than an adult THREE-FOURTHS of the time.

Sorry, I know it may seem childish and not a big issue. It's not really except that it is just one more thing to show how he DOES NOT listen to me. Most days I wonder why I even waste my breath if he isn't even going to listen.

Edit: Is it just my spouse? I mean seriously, am I only the one to get lucky enough to have someone who never listens?

Sarah&Mackenzie replied: I hear you!!! I have to ask my DH to do something for me a least 100 times and then most of the time I end up doing it myself. The thing that irritates me most is that if a friend calls or someone else and asks him to do something for them he jumps right on it.

coasterqueen replied:
Oh gosh, here too.....I could rant on that in a different vent...but I'll refrain for now.

mammag replied: Karen, it is definitely not just your husband. I swear I want to buy dh a hearing aid sometimes because he either is hard of hearing or just doesn't listen. It can be so frustrating!

Kaitlin'smom replied: Oh Karen I feel for you. I get that way with DH also. He will ask a question and not listen to the answer or not fully pay attention and then ask more questions that I already answered! Here is am example I so need to clean the carpets (will be replacing but not till fall) so when he asked when I was going to to this I said 'I am going to cal around and see who can come early in the morings so I can have it done during the week and then take Kait to the sitters so it will have all day to dry' he then asked your going to do it saturday, we wont be gone all day? gurrrr

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: No Karen, your DH is not the only one. I definitely do not have a solution to your/his problem, but I can definitely relate. I just think our DHs hear things differently. Certain things (ie: sewing of swaddling blankets) are apparently not as important to them. All I can say is give him credit for at least doing the errand and taking it to this lady...show him that you appreciate his attempt, and then tell him that it would have been nice if he discussed the "late" finish with you before confirming it with the sewing lady. I know it's easy to get angry and to just do things yourself, but when we don't show our appreciation for even the smallest things our DHs do, even if they're wrong in our eyes, we'll never get any help at all. That's what I've learned.

A&A'smommy replied: I KNOW how you feel my dh doesn't listen very well either!! (((((HUGS))))

mummy2girls replied: Im not married as you aready know but i must say jennas dad does not listen at all! He just thinks everything is the best his way! And it gets so frustrating!

I feel for you hun(((HUGS))) I wish i could reassure you and give you advice but im not married so i dont think i can give you any!

moped replied: All I say is a waste of breath here too - sorry!

coasterqueen replied:
Thanks everyone.

Shelly, believe me you don't have to be married to give advice on spouses. You deal with Aaron.....so you obviously know what it's like to deal with the opposite sex .

Josie83 replied: Mini vent?!?!

I'm sorry Karen. jason does listen to me but it doesn't make a difference because he just forgets everything I tell him He is hopeless. So I know how frustrating it can be . . . maybe write it down for him next time!!! xx

TANNER'S MOM replied: Selective Hearing..

If I say we are out of beer.. he hears

If I say we are out of toilet paper..He forgets and it seems I am the one how is always stuck..then he can't figure out why I am mad..

Mel

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I completely get it! Scotty doesn't listen to me AT ALL!! (on top of other things...like the jumping to do things for others) I can understand how this would be a big deal to you...especially if all these things are building up. Hugs to you!

coasterqueen replied: Thanks everyone. He knew how angry I was about it and called the little old lady and she had them ready the next day. He suprised me by bringing them home yesterday. I was shocked! And he made up for not listening in the first place .