Men - ugh
Kristigirl wrote: I swear, what's the point of even being married 
My husband is so freaking clueless. This is just the tip pf the iceburg on some of the problems we've had but he has a habit of being unbeliveably self-absorbed and just bailing whenever he wants. Like today, he just bailed and went out to a shooting range and then he worked on his 4 wheeler and then went out to dinner with his family. Sounds fun. So I was left here and had to take care of both kids all day (like I always do)...on a Saturday...when he was able to be home and be involved. So I carted them around the mall because I wanted to try out this new stroller we just got. It's always a pain to go anywhere with 2 young kids, as many of you know, because my toddler is chatty and always wants something and the baby wanted to nurse every 15 minutes and everyone kept calling so I was trying to push the stroller, nurse, answer my 3 yo and talk on the phone at the same time. And look at shoes, but that was for me 
So I'm tired and ready for some kind of break when dh calls and says he's "going out to dinner with his family because his dad bribed him to". Right. Great. So I drive through a fast food restaurant and get us dinner and drive home with the baby screeeamming in the back seat. They both needed a bath so I carry everything inside, try to calm down my baby and get my reluctant 3 year old in the bath. Then I go downstairs and give baby a bath who is incredibly traumatized and angry with me after screaming for so long. Then I help 3 yo wipe after going potty. Then I dress baby. Then husband comes home as I'm putting laundry in and then carrying the vacuum up the stairs. Does he offer to help with anything? Course not. Of course not!!
So I lock myself in the bathroom and take a long shower. Then come downstairs to find baby crying and dh on his game. 
Ah, a day in the life. 
I don't expect anyone to respond since I'm new and everything (and what a pleasant way to begin posting huh? ) I'm sorry, I guess I just needed to get this off my chest. MEN!!!!!!!!!!!
0-10andbackagain replied: MEN!!!!!! Im so sorry. I hope it gets better!
GavinsMommy replied: I haven't read the whole post yet bc Gavin is screaming, but I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN and I AM READY TO GIVE UP grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
GavinsMommy replied: girl, we have 2 much in common. jer shoots too all the time 
Kristigirl replied: MEN!!!!!!! I swear, they're all the same!!! Now he's somewhat redeeming himself because he's been playing with Audri for the past half hour or so AND he's gonna put her to bed. Woohoo. But I feel bad. Just ignore me. Lol.
0-10andbackagain replied:
They are!
CMJ replied: My husband is outside with our two boys right now. I really needed the break. He has been away all day at a hockey tournament. I know what you mean...I am one of the lucky ones though.
JessC replied: I am not married yet, I TOTALLY understand how you feel, with the whole guys not helping out with anything. Or them NOT telling you where they are going... but you have to tell them where you are going?!?!? Yeah totally understandable!
Sorry can't help you with the kid info, but it sounds frustrating and hectic!
I am so sorry for your bad day! Hope it gets a little better!
Your fine with posting whatever, everyone here is very understanding with anything so when you need to vent and get some things of your chest we are hear to listen! 
Boys r us replied: Oh Kristi, I'm so sorry that you're having a rough day!!! I can TOTALLY sympathize!!!!!
I've tried so many times to explain to Rick that I work 40 hours a week and then come home and do EVERYTHING..cleaning, cooking, kids, homework, baths..did I mention cleaning? It's beginning to wear on me too! I know he works really hard..a lot more hours than I do, to give our family the things we all want..but some days, I'd gladly trade the new cars and nice house for a little bit of help from him!! I can't really complain about him being self absorbed, he's great playing with the kids and helping me when he's not busy..lol..yeah not very often. Like this whole weekend I'm stuck here with the kids b/c he's gone on a roadtrip to Missouri with my brother to buy some equiptment for their company....and on the way home tonight, they're staying the night in Nashville and living it up on the town..then coming home tomorrow, when he could have just come straight home tonight and been here to help me tomorrow. But no!
And the real kicker, I'm going on a road trip with my girlfriends in 2 weeks to Savannah, Ga he's supposed to be here with the kids...I've been so excited for him to be alone with them for 72+ hours and see how hard it is..but nope..he's already lined his mom up to watch them for him...GRRRrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
OOoopps..this was your vent..lol..sorry! but as you can see..most all of us can FULLY understand where you're coming from! 
bwalkerletters replied: OK, here is a new rule..........no more MEN lines......just start saying "ALL MEN, BUT JASON" .....haha..........I get to experience what all of you are complaining about every other week. I know that's not FULL time, but when I'm off work, I have my kids, so I have to balance taking care of the kids, mowing the yard, doing laundry, all of the above, so the new rule is WHAT?? haha
That's right..........ALL MEN BUT JASON 
Kristigirl replied: Thank you all. It's so frustrating. I'm not a lesbian (obviously ) but I swear I just need a WIFE!!! LOL
Cary Lynn replied: My DH gets that way too. We finally had a long talk about it and he has been helping alot more. I hope it stays this way.
Hope your Husband gets his arse in gear and helps out more.
GavinsMommy replied:
I will marry you...we can both leave our DH's and marry each other. We'll compromise by moving in the exact middle of our distance from each other. You do wifely duties one week, I will do them the next. What do you say?
LMAO...
I know how you feel. I wish I had a wife sometimes. It would be SO much easier. 
amymom replied: I agree MEN!!!
oops sorry ALL MEN BUT JASON
bwalkerletters replied: Thanks Amy! No one caught on except you! Now you are the exception! All women but Amy! haha
GavinsMommy replied:
HEY! i caught on, but you already knew that
Kristigirl replied: Sounds good to me Lauren
TeagansMom609 replied: I know just how you feel. Yesterday I asked my DH to help me clean so we could get the house straightened up before our trip. Well he helped for about 5 minutes then I realized he wasn't helping anymore. So I called his name and asked what he was doing instead of helping me, and he replies..."watching tv". Ugh, sometimes I just want to throw on some boxing gloves and take his butt down! LOL
By the way, WELCOME TO THE BOARD!!
beckamouse replied: alright!! who cloned my husband?!
ask anyone. a while back i complained about his obsession with the stupid games workshop stuff *which he still has but asks if he can get anything first which is nice* and when he gets home from work he takes about an hour to actually "get home" *changing clothes and taking forever to relax infront of the TV. When he is I hand my daughter to him hoping for a hot shower without interruptions but what happens? *knock knock knock* "Shes fussy she needs you!" *in the background his X-box is making noise so 'she needs you' really means 'this boss fight is hard and shes making noise and i cant concentrate!'
so yea i know what you mean.
i hid the x-box cords at a neighbors house and disconnected cable for a week btw...LOL!! i'm evil but atleast now he helps me with maggie a lot more
Gracee142 replied:
Wow way to go!!!!!! You are a smart woman!! I LIKE YOU!!
bwalkerletters replied: Yeah yeah yeah
GavinsMommy replied:
WHOOHOOOOOOOOO! 
Kristigirl replied:
LMBO, you're so cute 
Kristigirl replied: Jason, your girls are just so cute. Everytime I see that picture I just think how cute they are!  And they look just alike, how sweet!
GavinsMommy replied:
I wonder if they have banana suits for Halloween..... 
bwalkerletters replied: Thanks Kristi! They both have my eyes...........  You have beautiful kids yourself
Kristigirl replied:
I think so Thank you
kit_kats_mom replied: I'm sorry your DH is like that. Is your DH young or just immature and unable to recognize the beautiful family he has and is missing out on?
I guess I'm lucky, mine is very thoughtful and he would probably do more if I needed him too. I can hardly even get him to take a business trip because he misses the girls so much. I know that not *all* men are like that. I've heard enough stories from other women to know that I snagged a great one though. It's probably just cause we are older. We were actually at dinner tonight and the resteraunt had a bar. DH said "god the single life looks incredibly unrewarding, boring and pointless now". LOL Guess we both had lived that part of our lives are were ready when the time came to be "tied down" with kids. The time just passes so quickly. I love having me time but I can't go more than a few hours without the girls. I'd miss them too much.
Kristigirl replied: Aw, that's so sweet Cary. Yes, he is on the young side, he's turning 24 in a couple days. We married when I was 19, he was 20. Everyone keeps telling me to "just wait until he's 30." I guess 30 is the magical age for men or something, LOL. Appreciate your man because you sound like you do have a good one.
bwalkerletters replied: haha........I'm turning 30 in July....... hahahaha
Mylilprincesses replied: Well this post is definitely the STORY OF MY LIFE sometimes I tell ya, even today, Justin was just pain-in-the-butt central too. Its definitely like having three kids. Even though his job pretty much requires him to be a workaholic sometimes, its so frustrating to have zero help with the kids at times. I totally feel for you!
I say we all just band together and move to an island all our own. Create an all girls (except maybe Jason, lol) community where no one is allowed to be a PITA!
Kristigirl replied:
LET'S DO IT!!! I'm in!
bwalkerletters replied: Well, of course, I'm in
bwalkerletters replied: as long as I can have some male companionship, like a dog or something
iluvmysweetiepies replied: heehee I'm in too!!
JAYMESMOM replied: I can totally relate to how you feel because up till recently my husband was the same way. He is getting better though and actually let me sleep in today. I kinda had to force stuff on him in the beginning and now when he does something little - I overly praise him and he makes him feel so good he wants to do it again. LOL
They are just like children.
adamsmom replied: I'm not so sure the 30-thing helps a whole lot unless you work at 'training' him- like you would a child or puppy-lol. They are like kids, you put in a little effort to teach them and they get better- until you back off for a while anyways.
My dh and i married 13 years ago. same story every day until i ended up in the hospital for a month. He got 1st hand experience with kids, job, house, pets, all of it. My children told me later that he sat and cried 3 different times because "he missed me"- probably the things i did, too. When I finally came home, he showered me with help- took over the bills, which he still does, and was helping without being asked even.
Now it's been 5 years and I have to ask again, which i have learned to do. If i don't ask, he doesn't think to do it. Or pretends to not notice. If i ask, he'll do ANYTHING! laundry, baths, cook, etc. I must be a real brat, cuz i still complain that i have to ask and he doesn't just "notice"! oh, well,- guess I'm never satisfied lol!!!
gr33n3y3z replied: I would have to say my Hubby has always helped me out when I needed it
So I guess I'm lucky also.
jasonsmom replied: I was running into the same thing with cleaning. DH would start and then I'd find him on the couch saying he was resting. While he technically works more hours during the month (8 24 hour shifts), many of those hours are spent sleeping and he has 5 days off in a row between tours. I work full-time as a sped teacher. Those who teach know that our actual working hours extend long beyond the school day. We have one son and will be having a daughter in the house next year so the workload will only get heavier. Last month I called a cleaning company and hired them to come do all the heavy stuff monthly. DH was less than thrilled but too bad. In fact, they're coming back today. I can't wait to come home from work today and have a sparkling house (about the only time it sparkles*S*).
Jasonsmom
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