Mckaylee just earned herself - the rest of the day in her room.

mckayleesmom wrote: I just went to take a shower after "I THOUGHT" the kids had finally conked out for their naps...WRONG...I get out and as Im drying off I smell nailpolish......I go into McKaylees room and she has nailpolish all over her bedding...all over herself...everywhere. She also had all my jewelry......she must have snuck into the bathroom while I was in the shower. Im so fed up. I told her to get in her bed and plan to stay there till her father gets home....Don't plan to play with toys or watch tv or go swimming...She is grounded.


Cary...I tried your little rock system and it didn't work. She liked getting the beeds and the positive reinforcement, but when it came to warning her and taking them away...she just says "thats ok, I didn't want them anyways"

TheOaf66 replied:

I sympathize with you, maybe the day in her room will settle things, I don't know what other advice to give you sorry.

aspenblue1 replied: I know about the nail polish. Isabella decided to get nail polish out and all over her carpet the other day. I was so angry.

I hope a day in her room helps.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I've had days like this with Emily, when she was small! I'm sure this is just a phase!

kimberley replied: sending lots of ~~~~~~strength~~~~~~~ your way. hope she settles soon.

mom2my2cuties replied: I am so sorry she is putting you through this.

My 7 year old brother in law is VERY strong willed and his mom has done everything short of killing the poor child. She has told me what has helped her the most are 2 books by James Dobson (popular christian author and he has good parenting skills but doesn't pretend his kids are perfect ) The Strong Willed Child & Breaking the Will but not The Spirit.

I don't know your beliefs, but some of the tactics in those books have REALLY helped my SBIL - And I honestly used to not be able to stand that child ...and now he is at least tolerable.

C&K*s Mommie replied: to Kimberley's strength vibes. I would suggest more playdates to get her out of the house, but that may only be positive reinforcement of the misbehaving.

In time hopefully we can have more playdates, but I do not want to overstep my bounds and suggest them too often either if she is misbehaving right now.

mckayleesmom replied:
I think that is alot to do with it....She had calmed down ALOT in Kentucky with just the Nanny 911 techniques and getting to go play with friends alot. She was so busy outside playing with friends that she didn't have time to get into stuff......During the week we can't do a whole lot because dh has the car, but they swim and do crafts and play outside.....But she doesn't have any little friends to play with at home...kwim? Our neighbors have kids, but they don't let them play outside.

Crystalina replied:
Izabella did this when she was small also. I've been reading alot of your posts. How old is she? I hope I don't upset you but by just reading I'm imagining (by her actions at times) that she is about 2-3. But for you to be getting so upset she must be older. I asked her age once before (in a differant thread) but I think my question got lost in my post and among the others.

luvmykids replied: Ah, the old nailpolish everywhere trick BTDT I know how infuriating it is. Hope the day in her room helps .

C&K*s Mommie replied: C is home in the afternoons, and on MWF she does not typically nap. We will have to plan something localized (i.e. without use of a car) on those days.

redchief replied: Brianne, I'm so sorry. I'm trying not to chuckle, but I keep gettng this visual....

mckayleesmom replied:
Mckaylee is 3 and its not so much the things she does....its just upsetting because it is all of the time.....She does things like this on a constant basis....If I blink, go to the bathroom or turn my back for a split second....she is into something......It never fails.....
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I guess I should clarify...Most kids are afraid to get into trouble. If they get into something and get into trouble...they normally either won't do it again or they let a period of time elapse before they do the same thing over. Mckaylee doesn't grasp that. She knows right from wrong, but the crime is worth it to her. She will just deal with the punishment later. I can catch her in the fridge cracking eggs, punish her and she will turn around and do it over and over again till I have to tie the refidgerator shut with something.

Russell is only 1....I can tell him not to do something and he will listen and move on to something else. He might try it again later or something...but again, I tell him no and he doesn't want to get into trouble.....

With Mckaylee it almost seems like she gets something in her head that she wants to do and she can't help but do it no matter what you tell her. She will wait until you go to the bathroom or out to get laundry...whatever and she will do it.

I know it seems like Im complaining about regular stuff that toddlers do, but this is stuff she does all day long....I spend a good 85% of my day cleaning up stuff that she did....Paint and crayon on walls, dumping cereal out of the carton, picking up toilet paper she unwound, cleaning up food she has smashed into something or other...etc. When Im cleaning one mess...she is off making another one...She is also extremely sneaky. Shes like a flippin Ninja....

On average...I vacuum about 4 times a day...on a good day.

I know when I post it seems like typical stuff, but its not. I have 10 nieces and nephews, have babysat all my life and no child has given me a run for my money like Mckaylee.

My sister babysat Mckaylee one time and called my mom 20 minutes later to tell her that she now had the most respect for me in the world.....And she has 2 kids the same age apart as Mckaylee and Russell.

My mom said she is just like me....only more destructive. A good thing about that is I was a really good teenager....so there is hope for the teenage years....

Kaitlin'smom replied: girl I dunno how you do it. deffinalty sounds liek she needs some outlet, almost like she is board. Have you thought about pre-school for her? Even if its just a couple days a week.

Brias3 replied: AHH...nail polish, what a mess.

Hope the day in her room straightens things out!

mckayleesmom replied:
Moving here pretty much wiped us out financially at the moment. I was hoping to put her in this year, but its not financially possible at the moment.....The military paid for us to move here, but they didn't pay for everything..kwim? Right now we are just trying to work on getting ahead. I was thinking of maybe trying to get her enrolled in tumbling or something like that....Something where its just her and me and she gets to play with other kids a couple nights a week. Ive been looking, but I haven't found anything yet.

mom2my2cuties replied: What about a local Moms club or a Military Wives club or something?

mckayleesmom replied:
That is a good idea...I have been curious about these moms day outs people keep talking about,,,but I haven't seen anything advertised about them yet.

mom2my2cuties replied: Usually you have to hunt them down. A lot of them don't advertise. I know we have like 10 different moms clubs in the little part of town I live in and I never knew about them


Also ask when you see other moms at McDonalds or something

mckayleesmom replied:
I know they have a magazine...kind of like the Pennysaver...with stuff for kids, but I haven't found anything age appropriate for her yet.....Right now most of the advertisements are for daycares and preschool. Im hoping they will be gone by the next issue.

How did you finally find out about the ones in your area?

mom2my2cuties replied: I did a google search for Mom's Clubs in Franklin, TN And asked LOTS of questions of the other moms at McDonalds.

We also have a publication here called the Williamson County Parent which has a full months worth of activities listed in thier calendar section, and a lot of them are free or really cheap.

mckayleesmom replied:
see...that is kind of like the paper Im refferring to...but right now it is full of daycare, preschool, and school ads because of school starting.....Im hoping that now that most of the kids are in school...they will come out with somenew things in there.

Crystalina replied: I'm glad you said she was 3 because I'm thinking if this kid is between 5-7 then you just need to get a padded room for yourself now. She's only 3. Maybe she's going through her terrible twos late? How about giving her chores? have her clean up little things. Evan just turned 3 on the 25th and his chore is to get the Mr. Clean Magic eraser and do the walls. He loves it. You can teach her how to fold socks and let her do that. I don't think she's bad but like someone else said she is very bored. Get her a carpet flick. Evan has one and he loves it and my rugs always look nice. It's the orange Swiffer flicky thing. I made it short for him. They also have those great big huge Magnetix blocks for younger kids. I can sit there and play with them forever. I definately thinks keeping her busy is key. Sit down and make a schedule for things for her to do. I bet when she finally starts school she'll do great. She's just a busy little bee.

mckayleesmom replied:
I am really hoping it is a stage...PLEASE let it be a stage... ....I am going to sit down and make a scheduled day.....Cary put that thought into my head before. She does help out around the house a little..She dusts, puts laundry in the machine for me and I do make her help clean up her messes.....Im going to buy her her own vaccum soon so she can start cleaning up the stuff she puts on my carpet....