Maybe it's because I was gone but... - I can't get into posting anymore

CAMSMOM1 wrote: Maybe it's because I was gone for a week, but I can't get into posting anymore, or replying. I only get on at night, and usually just PM people. Any one else feeling like this, or is it just cause I got out of the groove of posting? I don't feel like the "posting queen" anymore! What happened to me?

Edward's Mommy replied: I've been feeling the same way. I just don't feel that this place is as friendly as it used to be.

holley79 replied:
I hope that no one is making you feel this way. We are all really sweet around here I swear. We have a few bad seeds but those get weeded out really really quick.

I get out of the loop sometimes too when it comes to posting. I think it's because things so down every now and again. It'll pick back up I promise. Before you know it you will be the posting Queen again.

Edward's Mommy replied:
Not you, but some other people. I think you're a sweetheart!

holley79 replied:
Thank you sweetie. You are a sweetheart also. If you EVER have a problem with anyone on this message board please make sure that you talk to a Mod. They wil get things straightened out. We love having you and don't want to loose people like you.

CAMSMOM1 replied: I have to say I agree with Brandi (EdwardsMommy). I feel like things have changed too. I have made so many great friends here, but things are different lately. But I'm glad for the close friends I have made and the ones that I keep in touch with on the boards. You know who you are!

Nina J replied: I've been a bit slack on posting lately. I'm just not in the mood, I think. But, I love this place, and everyone here, so I'm sure I'll be posting like I did when I first came soon
I love you post's Ann, I hope you start posting more soon. You really do bring so much laughter and fun to the boards

Crystalina replied: I think it's because everyone is ready for spring and people are doing other things.
I visit other boards and they are all slow.

I haven't been posting as much either and when I do it's usually something dumb. I've been busy spring cleaning. It seems I'll be spring cleaning until winter.


I'm sure when the days start getting too hot it'll get back to normal.

Kaitlin'smom replied: I dont get to post or reply as much as I use to, Work is busy and I dont get onmuch at home. Also my computer at work is doing funky things when I am online.

PrairieMom replied: I kinda go in phases. sometimes I get on here and read posts, but i just don't have much to say, and other times I just . I haven't noticed a change in peoples attitudes or tone tho.

My3LilMonkeys replied:


Like Crystalina said, I think it has a lot to do with the change in seasons - more people are spending time outside, planning vacations, etc.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I'm finding it difficult myself to get back into posting on the board. I only have access to the Computers at Ronald McDonald House and occasionally at the Hospital. I try to answer a few posts each time I'm on, but sometimes I just don't really have the time. Maybe you could start with just a few posts and then you might get back into the swing of things.

luvbug00 replied: I'm in and out on posting too and I'm sorry that recently I've been whining but I know I can count on everyone here for the support I need in any avanue of my life.

I like everyone arround me here and I hope that eventhough we live apaprt and our lives take differant turns we can be there for eachother.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: I think it's more the time of year...

I've been busy preparing the house for me to stay home with the kids (re-arranging furniture, cleaning out closets, sorting toys, preparing crafts etc...) and we found out dh got laid off, we we may be moving next week. Lots of stress, very little time...

and my computer was busted last week, that didn't help. For all the time I spend on the comp - I don't get to reply much... too many posts to read and catch up on!!

ETA - we try to "keep the peace" around here... so if you have a problem with someone, let us know what it is - we can try to help out to find a solution.

booey2 replied: Oh, I am sorry you are feeling this way. I know that I have been very sporadic these days in my posting but I always love to read your posts, they give me a smile more often then not (when thery are on a funny topic) especially when I am having a real tough time here in RL. Sometimes we all get out of the posting groove, but may you find your quickly - cuz I needs my smiles.

luvmykids replied: I know that week I was sick and didn't get on much I started my "other" hobbies again, reading a lot and things like that. And the nice weather is a big factor, I think. I know we've been outside a lot more, during the bad weather I would sit here while the kids did other stuff but now when they go outside I do too!

coasterqueen replied: Wow, I didn't notice it being unfriendly around here and I consider myself on here way too much as it is. Sorry to those of you who feel this way.

As far as phases, I go through them too. Some days I feel like being chatty and others I just want to read and not really post.

My2Beauties replied: We all get in our slumps. Sometimes I go days without posting and other times I post a lot.

I'm sorry if you feel that anyone on here was rude EdwardsMommy, if that ever happens please notify a mod immediately. We try to keep that stuff at a bare minimum around here!

Maddie&EthansMom replied:


Edwardsmommy...so sorry you feel that way. I think you are so kind and would hate for your feelings to be hurt.

aspenblue1 replied: I have just been so busy. Trying to finish school, working full time, taking care of the girls and trying to find time to spend with my DH. Its crazy but hopefully soon it will calm down.

3xsthefun replied: I was kinda suprised anyone would say this place seems unfriendly. I think I'm on here to much myself. So maybe I have not noticed it?

I have gone through phases too, I have felt out of loop a few times. Specially if I've been gone for a week.

I'm sorry for those who have ran into some unfriendly people. I really hope I'm not one of those people. Sometimes I think I word myself wrong and I am afraid someone will think I was being rude to them.

BAC'sMom replied:

Ditto

kayla's mama replied: Sorry that you are feeling that way

I sure its not from me. Like Tina said,
I feel like that too. Its really hard to see how to take things when they are written, kwim!!!!

Well, if its me then pm me and let me know

NEWMOM05 replied:
I agree. Also I love to talk and I wonder if people think I'm mean for sharing my stories on their posts. Sorry if I have ever offended anyone or made you feel that I was unfriendly. I try to be a nice person, but maybe it doesn't come across like that.

Please don't go I just love you all like my own little family on the net.

CAMSMOM1 replied: THanks guys! I'm sure it's just a phase. I guess the reason I feel this way is because I used to spend hours on here, and now I realize I shouldn't. Just because I need to do other things and come on when I can. KWIM? So I'm just trying to come on at night for a couple of hours.


And I know there are a couple of people who don't like me, and have talked about me, and I don't appreciate that. But I know I can't please everyone. And I have so many close friends on here that make up for the 2 bad seeds. I would really appreciate it if someone does have something against me, that you can PM me so we can work it out. I don't like feeling that someone is upset.

So hopefully I can get back into the groove of things, and hold my title once again as the posting queen! And I wanted to thank you all that made me feel welcomed back again after being gone.

C&K*s Mommie replied:
sorry for anyone who has felt offended by unfriendly people. I hope I am not an unfriendly person on these boards. I can be honest, but I try my best not to be rude/offend anyone.

I go through phases too. I am coming off of spring break here next week, so I need to discipline myself with my study habits better than I did at my last semester of classes. And the weather is sporadic with the warm days, so on those warm days we take full advantage of it, like today. There is just so much going on in people lives nowadays as mentioned, but it is still IMO a friendly place to come for top-notch support and friendly words of encouragement. And also a place to come to ramble and share in the good news. I still love these boards!

mckayleesmom replied: Im suprised that it seems unfriendly to someone...I hope you report rudeness to the mods.

I have been in a funk too....I think I have just posted and posted so much for the last almost 3 years and now Im running out of topics . It also doesn't help that everytime I move from the computer to go potty, wash dishes, laundry etc....I come back and my husband is playing a video game...

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I go through phases too. Lately I've only been reading and sometimes replying, but haven't posted for awhile. Just got other things on my mind. I agree, it's the time of year. I think summer is even more slow!

redchief replied: Anytime you get 3,300 or 3,400 people (give or take a few) in one place, there can be no doubt there will be differing opinions. I totally disagree with the political stances of some of the parents on here and I'm sure others feel exactly the same about me (in reverse). Of those people, I count many among my online friends. It is not so much disagreement that makes people feel as some do, but allowing disagreement on an issue to carry into personal interaction. That's just wrong. No one should feel that they are being ridiculed or stripped of their personal dignity. I'm sorry that's happened to some.

I've had it happen to me in the past, but I'm pretty good at letting such attacks roll off my back and, in fact, I find the mods are pretty good at squashing such attacks quickly.

luvmykids replied: I just have to remind everyone again too, just because I think it's easy to forget, on the internet it's difficult to convey a tone of voice, an intonation, an emphasis. It's very easy to think there's a negative feeling of some sort when on the other persons end that isn't there at all.

I'm not making light of it to those of you who have felt any of that, or saying it didn't happen, I love you Ann and Brandi and am not in any way saying you're wrong.

kimberley replied: i am sorry you feel that way, Ann... and others. i can only speak for myself, but my lack of posts is due to RL being super busy and i am often 1ht so i guess my tone isn't coming across properly . it is really hard to know what a person means over the net so sorry if i offended anyone. i usually only get to 10posts or so a day tho i wish it could be more.

jacobsmama replied: I sometimes read posts but don't have a lot to say about them so I just don't reply other days I reply too much . I did use to feel that when I would post a topic I wouldn't hardly get any response so I didn't post much after that. I know that is not intetional but just makes you feel like your posts are worth reading so I can see why someone would have felt this way. But now that I have been here a while I no longer have that feeling

I love this board And I have made some very nice friends here.

ilovemybaby replied: I just want to say sorry if I have offended anyone on here. I know I can come across sounding rude or angry. I don't want to upset anyone.
I know I have strong opinions and I do try to say things the best way I can think of without coming across the wrong way.
And I don't want anyone to feel that I am squashing them down or anything. And I don't want anyone to not feel comfortable posting here.

That being said, I also love posting here.
We all have our own opinions and I know some of mine are probably weird. But I won't hold anyones opinions against them. I still like all of you.

Edward's Mommy replied:
You're right, I do tend to be a little sensitive! Plus, I've probably been irritable because Edward cries all day and I don't know how to help him or solve the problem, short of giving him the things he wants and can't have. I guess, I didn't mean that people have seemed unfriendly....I guess I meant to say more superficial (sp?). I understand that opinions won't match mine and I don't care about that because I'm extremely open minded (maybe too much for my own good ) but I just feel that it's been slow and superficial. And I'm probably as much of the problem as anyone else. Maybe I've also fallen into a rut. I just hope no one thinks I don't enjoy it here, but I don't enjoy it as much as I use to. (again, it could be I'm stuck in a rut!) I hope I didn't upset or offend anyone with my previous comment.

luvmykids replied: Not me, it takes a whole lot more than that to offend me!

ilovemybaby replied: I've felt that way before and I think it is because I get bored and when no one answers my posts I think that I have offended people and that no one wants to reply to my posts. Silly I know.
I'm a very paranoid person though LOL
And sensitive too.
And pregnancy and low iron levels does not help one bit.
I get grumpy because of that and grumpy because of the heat... it's hot here. And then I take it out on my husband and tend to be a bit rude or irritable to others.
That's why I wanted to apologize.

Sometimes boards go through slow periods where no one really posts. It's hard to think of things to post about sometimes. And I have been on a couple of boards that I've actually basically abandoned because they were DEAD. Really. They were sooooooo bad no one was posting and everyone was giving up on them.

ashtonsmama replied: I don't think I've really been here long enough to judge if the mood has changed around here, but I can say that I feel thoroughly welcomed and everyone has been really sweet to me so far!
*Thank you*
I know how the posting thing goes, I go in spurts, sometimes I have alot of time to post, other times I'm busy busy busy...so no worries, you'll get back to being "Posting Queen" soon I'm sure!

Nina J replied:
I feel like this sometimes too. However, I've never noticed you say anything remotly rude or mean, so I hope it's the same with me, even though I think sometimes the way I say things sounds rude. Sorry if it seems like that

Brias3 replied: I'm the same, some days I feel like posting, some days I prefer to just read and "listen".

Also, I think the situation with wording ourselves correctly is largely due to the fact that you can't hear inflection in a conversation when you type it. Sometimes I'll post something that isn't meant to be rude or come across a certain way in my head, but typed out it seems different. KWIM?

CAMSMOM1 replied: This post really took a turn! I'm fine, really. I'm not upset at anyone. I just wrote the post because I couldn't get into posting or replying. That's all. I still love it here, I just am in a posting slump! Hopefully I can get into posting again. Love you guys!

CantWait replied: I go through spurts like that. I think a lot of it for me has to do with trying to catch up on all the posts that I miss while I'm away, or can't get on. It fustrates me and I end up giving up putting myself behind on replying to posts even more I'm also so busy with work, and the kids, extra curiccular activities, I just CAN'T come on as often as I'd like sometimes.

1lilpeanut2love replied: I hope it isn't me!! I hate arguing and fighting with people. Hate it!! I hope I didn't offend anyone or hurt anybodys feeling either. I really hope!!! I thought it was really going nice on here.

Crystalina replied:
Yea, I think there are some people NOT JUST HERE AND NO ONE INPARTUCULAR (I don't know anyone well enough or have seen enough of one persons posts to judge), some people just take things so personally. I can take someones opinion about a post or something I have said without thinking anything about it. This is a forum and people are supposed to do that. I am very upfront and if I'm thinking it I'm more then likely going to say it but that doesn't mean I don't like anyone. I think everyone on this site is so great. Geesh, it's no fun if someone is always blowing sunshine up your butt because they don't want to upset you/me. Why have a forum if everyone thinks like you?


I hope I haven't offended anyone. No one has said anything yet. Maybe then I would get a pm? I hardly EVER get one. hint hint.

CAMSMOM1 replied:

Girl I 100% agree with you on that one! I've never been one to blow sunshine up anyone's bootie! That's what's great about this board, everyone is honest with their feelings.

Edward's Mommy replied: I'm not mad, upset or offended. All I said was that the boards didn't seem as friendly. I wasn't trying to start anything.

C&K*s Mommie replied: I think that is great that you said what you said, Brandi. It has caused me (I can only speak for myself) to think a little more clearly when responding and trying to convey something that cannot be construed, but still keeping it at the truth and being honest as I can be. It (IMO) has caused everyone to get on the same page, again so to speak.

I personally, am not upset or anything. I welcome opinions all the time. And everyone is entitled to think/feel the way they do, and if they choose they can say that is how they feel. I think I can speak for many people and still say that we are sorry that you feel the boards are unfriendly/superficial, but you are always welcome to post how you feel anyways-- that is what makes these boards so lively we all do not agree, but we can say our peace in a friendly manner.

Edward's Mommy replied:
I agree! And thanks for understanding!