Major Vent!!!!!!!! - long, sorry

kimberley wrote: i am absolutely beside myself right now! i just had what i hoped to be my last CCAS meeting and again, she says she sees absolutely no safety concerns with our family and would like to release the file and the school has FINALLY signed off on the case because there is absolutely no basis for their allegations. you would think i'd be breathing a sigh of relief right now and actually thinking the meeting i pulled with the superintendent of the school board paid off... WRONG! shortly after the CCAS worker left, Jacob fessed up that his teacher (not the one i have had problems with) has been interrogating him for the past week, asking if i am feeding him, if he is sleeping and if he is doing all the chores while mommy does nothing

this, after strict orders from the superintendent to leave my family along, has me absolutely outraged!!!!!!!!!! first off, if you are gonna pick a fight, do it with the grown ups! My gosh, why scar a 8 or 9 yo child with YOUR BS !!!!!!!! they sicked CCAS on me for a full freakin year!!!!!!!!!! they have gone in my fridge, questioned ALL my doctors (me, kids, dh), scrutinized ever nook and cranny of my life and come up with nothing, but they are STILL questioning my kids! THEY are the ones negligent! THEY are the ones scarring my kids! We proved with a child psychiatrist that Jacob's emotional meltdowns were a DIRECT result of them NOT complying with his IEP and him feeling overwhelmed with homework!!!!!!! THEY are negligent! THEY let my kid go half a day with a concussion until they yelled at him for not doing work and he told them it was because his vision was blurry! THEY are the ones that allow my kids to eat all the "others" of their lunch instead of their sandwich! I could go on forever with the discrepancies i have seen in the past 3 years but i try not to focus on that and accept that people are HUMAN and make errors because that is the CHRISTIAN thing to do and i believe that!

excuse my french, but WTF is that that they feel free to judge me and relentlessly persue this bloody witchhunt coming from a supposed "Catholic" environment! it's not like they even discussed any concerns with me at all!! i go to each and every PT interview and get told what wonderful kids i have and wait for the knife in the back! i have contacted two local media outlets so far and plan to write my MP. i am done being understanding and am putting a freakin stop to this harassment of me and my kids!!!!!!!! thanks for reading if you read it all. you are dear!

ilovemybaby replied: Wow I didn't know about all this but I'm so sorry you've had to deal with all that! I would be removing my kids from that school... or what you are doing! Sounds good! (going to the media and MP) I hope you get this all sorted out soon!

My3LilMonkeys replied: I'm sorry you still have to go through such nonsense. They should really just leave you alone already!!

b&bsmom replied: I am so sorry you have to go through this. It is so sad when the ones who aren't doing anything are the ones that get harrassed and the ones they need to be checking on go untouched. Sending p&pts your way. Hope it is all over soon.

ilovemybaby replied: Hey kimberley I was just looking at your profile and we share the same birthday!!! How cool!

A&A'smommy replied: OH GOODNESS You think they would give you a rest when they come up with NOTHING after a WHOLE year of observations and other crap!!! I'm sorry they are treating you like this I hope that you get it stopped soon!!

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Oh gosh, Kimberley. I'm so sorry it's not getting better.

booey2 replied: Hugs to you and the family. I really don't know what to say, our experience with the Catholic School system has been a good one so far. I am sorry you are having to go thru this. I will pray that they leave you alone, I know you are a great mom and you do only the best for your little ones.

MomToJade&Jordan replied: I'm so sorry that that this isn't going away Kimberly. You have every right to be angry about this. You are a fantastic mother and that has been proven. It's time they dropped this and left you alone.

mammag replied: I'm so sorry Kimberley! What a mess! It sounds like they just can't stand the fact that they were wrong.

I hope it ends soon.

C&K*s Mommie replied:
As you said, if another teacher has an issue, she needs to bring it up to you as the parent, not to your son.

Hoping things finally end once and for all, and you can go back to normality as a family without this unnecessary mess going on.

holley79 replied: I didn't realize you were still dealing with this BS. I'm so sorry. I don't balme you one bit for going to the media and to the MP. I would. I hope you get some relief from them soon. How dare they question your children like that. They should be ashamed.

gr33n3y3z replied:
Very good make sure you do it hun

ediep replied: so sorry Kimberely!!!

amynicole21 replied: That is just insane! I hope you can get some justice somehow.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Kimberly, I'm so sorry to hear yo're still going through that crap.

3xsthefun replied: I'm so sorry you are still dealing with that stuff. I hope it gets better for you.

JAYMESMOM replied: That is ridiculous that this has even gone on for a year. I would contact the superintendant once again and anyone else who has power over the teacher and the school. I would also make sure you contact the media and would start looking for a new school.

THat is utterly insane and they should not be able to question him without the principal or you present. IMO>

kimberley replied: thanks everyone. i am still fuming over all of this. big surprise.. the superintendent is not returning my calls .

even the CCAS worker thinks it is nuts it has gone on this long and feels bad for "harrassing" me every month.. her words. the excuse for this going on so long is that they let the case sit on a desk from June-August last year, then they needed to investigate a few months into school since the allegations were made by the school. fine, it was embarrassing and intrusive but i complied, hoping they would just go away. the worker i had from aug-nov made it sound like she had no concerns and would close the case the following month. well she got sick and they gave me a new worker, who started from scratch. she has been saying she wants to close the case since december but can't because the school keeps making allegations. until they back off, she can't do anything. finally, after my meeting with the superintendent, i thought the end was in sight.. and now this.

i read stories here every week about a baby being abused, malnourished or neglected... but they are HERE! i am done complying and it is on! you cross the line when you interrogate MY kids! we are giving serious thought to relocating. i can't believe i have to move because of this. it is sickening. will let you know if i hear anything back from anyone. thanks for the support.

mckayleesmom replied: Yikes Kimberly.....that is rediculous. Sounds like you made someone mad at some point and they are out for revenge or something. Have you thought about pulling the kids out and homeschooling for a while???

luvbug00 replied: Good for you for thowing a stink !!!!! I sure would too.

luvmykids replied: WOW I can't believe this stuff is still going on, and that teacher is a complete you know what! Hope you get some kind of resolution.

DVFlyer replied: Wholly cr@p........ I wouldn't be able to hold back. Everyone involved would have me in their face until I got an apology or a huge settlement for intential infliction of mental distress. If I do something wrong, I'll take the heat for it. But if someone is screwing with me (or my kids) behind my back, the gloves come off.

I remember a story an ex told me about when she hurt herself in gymnastics. She came "wobbling/ llimping" into class and the teacher made some sort of comment about how "good" of a weekend she must have had. Somehow, he meant it in a sexual fashion.

Her dad was at the school first thing the next morning after hearing about his comment and made sure that teacher understood comments like that are not appropriate.

Kaitlin'smom replied: how aggervating, sounds like the SCHOOL need to be invistagate fro at least a year or more......sorry your still dealing with this

kimberley replied:
well, i am sure calling the superintendent didn't win me any popularity contests but this harassment has gone on since we started at the school. i am sure it is because of our living arrangements and the fact that my kids don't wear designer clothes .

every lawyer i have spoken to (at least 10 by now lol) says the same thing.. taking the kids out of the school makes me look guilty of something and it will just continue the CCAS investigation. they also said that they don't deal with cases like this. that it should be handled internally in the school board. right now, i just pray someone i wrote to will help me out.

dv, that is awful about your ex. i woulda have gone postal!

DVFlyer replied: They are making recording devices (sound or video) smaller and smaller these days

My2Beauties replied: to you Kimberly. I am sooo sorry you are still dealing with this BS. Grr how dare that teacher interrogate your children, I would have done the same things you are doing and probably would have went up there and chewed them a new a**hole. Excuse my french too! Girl I bet this is making you go absolutely stir crazy, they need to worry about children who really are abused and neglected instead of constantly ragging on about your children who are obviously very well taken care of.

DansMom replied: That is so depressing, Kimberley! I can't believe how much you've already put up with, and that it is continuing. They are truly harrassing you.