MIL driving us crazy about potty training

Celestrina wrote: Some of you might remember that Ben is very resistant to potty training. Everyone that I have talked to says that this cannot be forced. They have to be ready. Now my MIL is harping at us how Ben is still in diapers. She brags how all three of her kids were by they were two. She only does this in front of Steve b/c she knows that I don't put up with her.

CAMSMOM1 replied: I know what you mean. Even though I'm not pressured by family members, I'm pressured by daycare centers. It's 60 dollars more a week if they aren't potty trained. So I feel the need to rush him, even though I don't feel he's ready yet. Like you said, they have to be ready, and it shouldn't be rushed or forced. Good for your MIL that her kids were potty trained by 2, but that's not the case for all children. Try to make it fun for Ben, and he'll catch on soon. What things have you tried with Ben to help with potty training?

BAC'sMom replied: I would remind her who Ben's parents are. He will use the potty when gets darn good and ready.

mckayleesmom replied:
exactly

C&K*s Mommie replied: to Jimmie. And I understand what Ann is saying too. Pressure from all around.

ilovemybaby replied:
60 dollars more?!!! Wow that is pretty harsh. I certainly do not go through $60 to keep Abby in diapers each week. They must be using the most expensive products.


You cannot force potty training. Boys seem to take a bit longer than girls too. It is pretty normal for a three year old boy to not be potty trained fully.
Even some girls don't potty train that early either.
I will be starting potty training when baby number two arrives. I know, seems crazy huh. But I am not going to rush it.

MyLuvBugs replied:
Ditto!!

Just try making it fun for him like Ann said. He'll get there soon enough.

My3LilMonkeys replied:
Well said!!!

holley79 replied: Tell her when he is darn good and ready to be potty trained he will be. I don't think my brother was fully potty trained till he was almost 4. My sister and I on the other hand were out of diapers by the time we were 2. Are girls easier to potty train then boys?

to you. Got to love those MIL.

AlexsPajamaMama replied:
Yup I agree!
My MIL used try so hard to control what happened with our DS....but then one day she realized I really am not such a bad mom after all

mom89 replied: Oh I wouldn't let it get to you(easier said than done,I know!)I've never been pressured,but I can understand.

luvmykids replied: I just said the other day every woman over 60 talked my ear off about how all their kids were pt'd by 2. I think by then their memories are just bad!

This is also the generation who sent their kids out to play and didn't allow them back in the house until lunch or dinner, braided their girls hair so tight they all had upturned eyes, and poured tobasco on the tongues of children who lied! So if their kids really were pt'd by 2, it was only out of fear!!! (Sorry, grandma!)

AlexsPajamaMama replied: Kids may have been potty trained by 2 back then....but things are differant now, times have changed. They say not to rush them now and all that....so whatever the older generation says, I just say ya ya okay My Nana does this to me ALL the time!