Losing my patience

jacobsmama wrote: Lately I feel like a terrible mother I catch myself constantly yelling at Jacob..He is going to start thinking his name is NO! hahah As much as I laugh I feel horrible just when I'm at my last stand I'm ready to scream he looks at me and says

"Mom, don't be mad!" haha or something so sweet that I can't help but smile and then cry because I feel so terrible for yelling..


Why does it seem like my patience are so much shorter now than they were a year ago? Do the rest of you have this? I mean I only have one imagine those of you with more than 1!! aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhh I think I would be nuts

Thanks for listening.

luvmykids replied: Of course we have this! I've been working very hard on not yelling, it doesn't do any good any way, I'd rather save it for when I'm REALLY upset. But sometimes I'm so close to the end of my rope that I can't help it. Then, when I check on them at night and they look like babies again and so sweet and peaceful I kick myself and can't imagine how I could yell at those precious little faces.

Don't beat yourself up! Take a deep breath .......

holley79 replied: I used to think I was the queen of patience but I have been proved otherwise. From what I gathered from everyone here it is perfectly normal. LOL

to you.

Mom2Boyz replied: I totally know what you're going through

There are days I feel like all I do is yell at Conner and I feel just awful for it, but from what I hear it is normal
~*~*~*~Patience Vibes~*~*~*~ for you!!!!

CAMSMOM1 replied: Cameron is going to be 2, and is throwing tantrums! I'm pulling my hair out! Thank God that he isn't like this all day, but when he does act up...I have little patience for it. Maybe it's his age, but I can't stand it when he throws himself on the floor, or screams. And guess what I do??? Act just like him! I ask myself, "Who is the parent here?"

I deal with kids everyday at work. And when I get home, to be with Cameron, I'm needing to unwind and find it hard to deal with him. But like you said, he'll end up doing something so sweet that makes me melt, and then the guilt sets in. I have to keep reminding myself, that sometimes Cameron doesn't have the words to express what he wants/needs, and crying is how he gets it out. So what's my excuse?

I wonder the same thing, how on Earth do Mom's handle more than one child? I love Cameron to pieces, but sometimes he's a handful. I can't imagine how 2 of him would be like!?!

I'm in the same boat. But thank God we have more happy times then stressful times. And thank God he made babies so cute, or else we would go nuts! Just looking at their chubby cheeks, and big eyes...and we calm down...most of the time!

Ann

C&K*s Mommie replied: the good thing, at least for me with having two children~~ is that they conspire and act up together, but at least one will tend to listen and I am only yapping at only one. It is normal to raise your voice, despite what the parenting books may tell you nowadays. As long as it is done in a controlled manner, I think it is healthy.

Besides if they never understood that different tones of voice from the same person usually means business, how would they make it in the school or anywhere else?

MamaJAM replied:

I've been dealing with a lot -- A LOT -- of stress lately.....sadly, my kids and DH are the ones that feel the brunt of my stress. I'm way too short with all of them so often lately.

It's so hard sometimes.

kimberley replied: you are human. i find when i am overwhelmed, overtired and everyone is making a mess or wants something at the same time... my patience evaporates. especially if DH is home and not helping. i have caught myself sounding off on the kids but the truth is, i am really annoyed with DH.. not them and shouldn't take it out on them. i am working hard to correct this. and when i am overwhelmed, a well deserved time out for ME is in order. even if its stepping outside to breath for 30 seconds or washing my face in a locked bathroom.. it helps me to take it down a notch and realize my babies will only be babies for a few years, so the cleaning etc can wait. they can't. hope you feel better soon. we are here to listen.

jacobsmama replied: Thanks everyone for the encouragement It is nice to know Im probably not the only raving mother on the block...thanks again!

fashionmumofboys replied: I to find myself sometimes yelling at the boys and then feeling so guilty when you see their cute little faces or they say something so sweet. You are not alone. I guess somehow somewhere we are all in the same kind of boat with this issue.

Hang in there.

BAC'sMom replied: I admit I am gulity too. But I am working on it.

MyLuvBugs replied: Yeah. I feel like that alot. But when you say "Please do not do that" or "Please stop" it doesn't seem to affect them in anyway, right. So, yelling just happens to get their attention and get them to stop, but then you feel bad b/c of having to resort to yelling....UGH. It's a viscious cycle. But what helps me...Kids test you to see your limits and if you don't show them that you are boss and there are limits to things, then they will walk all over you. I guess that's just part of being the parent. Gotta be tough. But it doesn't mean that we love them any less.

You're definately NOT a bad mommy. I think you're doing a great job.