Lock on Mommies bedroom door? - Need help with stupid husband

mommyofpremitwins wrote: Hello so I am in a fight with my DH right now and by DH I do not mean DEAR. I am so mad that typing is difficult because of my high blood pressure.

We are arguing about putting a lock on our bedroom door. I of course want it and he doesn't because well he can't really give me a reason. He says we don't need it now and it isn't to tramatic if the kids walk in during private time. Well that certanly isn't going to be happening any time soon.

I would like to know how many people have locks on their bedroom doors to keep the little ones out.

My3LilMonkeys replied: Our bedroom door locks but I can't think of a time when I have ever used it. But that is a personal choice and if you feel that you need or want one, then IMO there is no reason why you shouldn't have one.

mommyofpremitwins replied: Thank you for replying so fast that is great and I love the answer.

Nina J replied: I don't have a lock on my bedroom door, neither my DH nor I feel like we need one. But, I think if you want one you should be able to get one, it's your home aswell.

Do you want your children to not be in your room at all, or do you just want a lock for when you're being intimate and getting changed, etc. If you just want one for the second reason, then you would only need to lock the door during those times, and unlock it afterwards.

Hopefully you can come to an agreement

My3LilMonkeys replied:
You could tell your DH that if he doesn't like the lock he doesn't have to use it.

CantWait replied: We do, but it came with the house. It's nice if you want to just go to a quiet room and talk, not even to have nookie. Although there's not a whole lot of either going on LOL.

mommyofpremitwins replied: I only want one for the times when we are intamate. I walk around the house naked and could care less about that. I just don't want my children to walk in when we are having fun. It has happened before but Amy is only 3 and she didn't know what was happening. But when she gets older I don't want her walking in.

I had a girlfriends little 4 yr girl walk in on her and the next day tell the whole preschool class about it. I don't want that to happen.

mommyofpremitwins replied: Well yes I do not like the answer but my husband definatly will. He was the one that wanted me to ask everyone the question about the lock. Thank you for your answer.

PrairieMom replied: you could always just change the nobs your self!
you could also try putting child safety locks on your door. that'll keep em out!

mommyofpremitwins replied: I love your little girls room. It is too cute. You have a great decorating style.

PrairieMom replied:
Thanks. It took FOREVER to paint. 2 weeks! Lets just say I was super excited to get my girl.

mommyofpremitwins replied: Oh did you paint the border. I thought it was wallpaper. It looks so nice. Did you do the sewing? I love the quilt. What a great room.

luvmykids replied: We had a lock and in the good ol days we used it LOL

But it was just our personal thing that the kids wouldn't be allowed in our room so from early on they knew mom and dads room was off limits and if any door is shut you knock and wait for an answer.

PrairieMom replied:
The bedding is from target. I painted the boarder to match. One of the patches has floral stripes on it.

Jamison'smama replied: My daughter is 3 and I don't think it is traumatic for her at all to find our door locked--if it is in the middle of the night and she needs us and it was dark...that might bother her but it has never happened. She knows that a locked door..bathroom etc. means someone needs privacy. She is allowed to lock the bathroom as well (to keep her brother out) but it has to be unlocked upon request.

mckayleesmom replied: Well...we don't lock our door at night YET, because I can usually hear the kids open their door..so I have enough time to compose myself and walk out into the hall to greet them. I would put a lock on the door however if they started getting up alot or if I felt uncomfortable with the fact that they might walk in.

Kids are smart...and she might not know at 3, but she will know eventually. My husband has always slept naked, made quick dashes to the kitchen in the buff...and even taken showers with both our kids...a boy and a girl...ages 3 girl and 1 boy. Recently our daughter has discovered daddy's "member" and we have decided that it is time to cover up around her at all times if possible. Not because we want her to be ashamed by bodies or anything, but because even she has become aware of privacy.....Lately she has been asking to clothes the door to potty or even telling me to get out and let her do her business alone....

~Roo'sMama~ replied:
ITA ~ we haven't had the need for it yet obviously since Andrew is still so young, but we have a lock on our door and plan on using it when we need the privacy. We'll explain to our children that they should knock on our door before coming in and if the door is locked we need privacy. We'd never keep it locked all night.

booey2 replied: We do have a knob that locks but the boys are of the age now that they will get a coin out of the coin jar and try and open it. We only lock it for intimate time. However, now that they can open it, it only gives us from the time we hear them til they get the door open. Hasn't happened yet thank goodness.

Terri

Kaitlin'smom replied: We have locks and yes have used them duirng that time, but I have also taught my daughter if the door is CLOSED you KNOCK. locked or not. She has learned that pretty good, I also nock before entering her room, to me it shows respect both ways.

Our Lil' Family replied: We obviously don't have this issue now either but I was happy to read all the responses. We have NO privacy now as Thomas will cry if someone walks into any room and shuts a door behind them...so for now we allow him in the bathroom with us but I can forsee us having to change that soon. We have already started using the word privacy but he's still too young to understand.

Thanks for asking this question it was something I hadn't given much thought to.

holley79 replied: We have a lock on our door but the only time we have used it was pre baby days when we had room mates. I don't see a reason to use it right now. Maybe when she is older. If you want a lock get a lock.

coasterqueen replied:
Totally the same here. Our oldest DD also knows she can lock her bedroom door if she needs privacy from her little sis, but again has to unlock it when we request it.

We have a lock on our bedroom door, all doors in our house has locks on them, but we do not lock our door, especially during the night hours. We will close it if we need privacy, but not lock it.

Boo&BugsMom replied: We don't have a lock, never really had a reason to. The main reason being that all kids, especially our son, are facinated by locks and I don't want him locking himself in the room accidentally. Yes, we could get one with a key, but then knowing us, we'd lose it.

ataylorm replied: From a man's prespective...

Tell him that if you can't lock the door during those intimate moments, he can expect not to be having any intimate moments.

We have a lock on our door, and that's pretty much the only time we use it, that or if we are getting dressed/bathing since our bathroom doesn't lock. But most of the night it's unlocked and the kids can come in if they need to.

I also put a lock on my office door because I just couldn't convince my 2 year old that she doesn't need to feed all the paper out of the printer and throw it everywhere, or climb on my bookshelves.

She locked herself in there one time, because she is facinated with locks as well, however I was out of the house and had the key in my pocket. She had to wait about an hour for me to get home before she could come out. She screamed for a few minutes, then laid down and took a nap. She has never done it again.

(No she was never in any danger, I told my wife if she had to, to call 911 and kick the door down)