Life just stinks sometimes

coasterqueen wrote: I'm so down I haven't felt like posting so far today, sorry. This is my last FULL week of maternity leave and I'm so depressed about it. I have Monday and Friday next week too. Tues-Thurs of next week I will be out of town for our summer meeting but I get to take the family. I just won't get much time with them. Then it's back to work for good on July 5.

Life just stinks that I have to go back to work. I just can't imagine leaving Megan with all her reflux problems all day to someone else.

DansMom replied: Karen, I'm welling up with tears just reading your post---I remember that last week at home just being filled with dread and depression over having to go back to work. It is a hard adjustment, and even though you've been through it before it's just as hard. I made myself feel better by reminding myself how many good mommies I know who had to do the same thing and still are great moms and have happy, well-adjusted kids. It's just SO HARD.

kimberley replied: hon, i know it must be tearing you up, but Tracy is right... you are a wonderful mom doing what is best for your family and like Kylie did, Megan will adjust perfectly.. and so will you. are you going to be able to work a couple of days at home at first? or half days? it might make the transition a little easier for you . lots of ((((hugs)))) your way.

JAYMESMOM replied: Honey,

I know it is hard. I remember that last week like it was yesterday. Just try to enjoy the time you have left. The kids will be okay. Many moms (including myself) on this board and elsewhere have to leave their children in child care so they can work. It does not make you a bad mom or person.

You are doing what you have to and being a responsible mom. Give yourself credit for the two beautiful children you have born and will raise.

You are a great mom.

amymom replied: I feel for you.

mckayleesmom replied: She will be ok....

3_call_me_mama replied: HUGS to you! Sorry that you are having a hard time with this. Children are far more resilient that adults, I'm sure Megan will be fine. IS she going to the same sitteer's that Kylie goes to? Enjoy your last few days adn don't stress to much, take it one day at a time.

amynicole21 replied: Ugh, I am so right there with you! Waaaah!!! I want to stay home!!!!

Sorry, this was your vent, not mine.

Enjoy your last week with her... don't let the dread of going back overshadow your last few days of being with her full time.

ammommy replied: It's hard, but I think it will be harder on you than her. Hang in there.

gr33n3y3z replied: everything will be just fine

mummy2girls replied: awww hun! (((HUGS)))) I feel for you! I remeber feeling sad on my last week of maternity leave. I just had 4 months but thats because i had to go backt o work..i had no choice. And that was horrible leaving my baby with someone else:(

A&A'smommy replied: awww hun I'm SOOO sorry!!!! (((((BIG HUGS)))))

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Karen it will be just fine. You have an awesome sitter. Kylie does wonderfully and so will Megan.

Gosh, I keep looking at their pictures...they are so beautiful! It will be okay, hun. I hope you have a wonderful week.

JessC replied: Im sure they will do perfectly fine! I wouldnt want to leave my newborn either!

b&bsmom replied: Hugs to you. I have worked in daycare and now I watch kids at home and have seen many a mom tear up having to go back. It is hard but she will do fine I am sure. You are a great mom and are doing what is best for your children. Good luck and try not to stress to much.

ediep replied: awww, (((HUGS))))

I am sure she'll be fine.

Boys r us replied: I remember having to go back with Braedon..it was a horrible feeling! But we all do what needs to be done for our family. Megan will be fine, she has her big sister to keep an eye on her and keep her company during the day!

coasterqueen replied: thanks everyone. I'm still bummed but I know I will get over it. It just seems to take a lot of work understanding a refluxer and what makes them comfortable and knowing when they are in pain, etc. I've had all this time to learn all that and now my sitter will have to learn it all and while she does Megan will have to suffer some.

She will be at the same sitter as Kylie adn the first week of July I will be only working 1/2 days so we can all ease into it a bit.

MommyToAshley replied: Oh Karen, I am so sorry. I can imagine how you must feel. But, you have to keep in mind that you ARE doing what is best for your family. You are a great Mommy, and I am not just saying that to make you feel better. You are one of the Moms that I really look up to and respect.

At least you can share your knowledge with the sitter, what you have learned that works from trial and error. So, it won't be like she is starting from scratch, and hopefully the adjustment period won't be too long.

Lots of HUGS coming your way!

jcc64 replied: I agree with Dee Dee. You have obviously learned ALOT about how to handle Megan's particular idiosyncrasies- and your sitter will have the benefit of all that knowledge- it's not like she's gonna have to start from scratch getting to know her. I also have found that 2 heads are better than one. She might discover some tricks you haven't tried yet, or have some info you were unaware of. I know there have been MANY occasions where my sitter was able to do something that was a big deal for me. She's the one who figured out how to get a previously reluctant Corey to take her medicine without a big ordeal.
It's gonna be ok, Karen. It's normal to feel sad and overwhelmed about leaving your child in someone else's hands, but she WILL be fine, and you might actually benefit from some grownup time away from the kids as well.

Jamielou replied: I know how you feel i had to go back the day after mothers day last year.