Ladies...question for you - NOT FOR THE GUYS, lol

GavinsMommy wrote: I'm just wondering what your thoughts are on your DH or SO looking at.........you know. How do you feel about him looking at it on a regular basis? Or just when you aren't up to you know what? Looking at it together is different...I'm talking about just him. Just curious

kit_kats_mom replied: are you talking about porn...or a body part of yours or his?? I"m kind of confused...or dense LOL

Maddie&EthansMom replied:


This is what I was wondering.

A&A'smommy replied: I was wondering the same thing!

kimberley replied: i am assuming you mean adult movies/magazines. i don't care if DH looks at them on his own as long as we have a healthy sexual relationship and it isn't done obsessively. chatting on the other hand, does bother me.

GavinsMommy replied: Lol yes...I was talking about dirty magazines and such. Movies in particular. Lol

mrshires replied: My dh and I had a big row b/c he was downloading it on my computer, and I would come home and he wouldn't even have closed out of stuff. He was careful the first couple of times apparently, but then I noticed ppl downloading lesbian stuff from me! I DON"T THINK SO!!!

I think it's ok, but my dh uses it as a weapon, so that's not acceptable. I think it's normal tho if you aren't up to or can't for a while. Mine just was showing NO respect about it.

Sensitive subject....sorry

mama3x replied: I would have to say that I wouldn't like it at all. He would be furious if I did.

MomToMany replied: I don't think there's anything healthy about it. I think it's wrong for a married man/woman to want to look at others naked. It's a form of cheating to me.

I think it's gross and disgusting, and DH knows my feelings about it. I would never look at that crap, but if he did, he would be in a world of hurt.

Gatalita replied: I personally believe that my hubby is in love w/ porn more than he is in love w/ me. I know it's a harsh thing to say. But, you can't hide from the truth. Inishally it pissed me off and he promised me he wouldn't do it anymore. Then I found out that he had and I had a HUGE fit. I felt like crap and I was FURIOUS... I DO MEEN *FURIOUS* It felt like the worst thing he could have ever done to me. Expecially considering how much he knew I didn't like it and the things I was doing for him to prevent him from wanting to do it. However, I have come to accept it. There isn't anything I can do to stop him...

As for me, I don't like the s***. The only time I've seen it was when I first discovered hubby likes porn and when I'm cleaning out the computer. He has a hissy fit everytime I clean out his Porn Folder. LOL. Sometimes I do it just to spite him. I know it's mean but quite frankly I don't care.

A&A'smommy replied: I don't like it, I put up with dh doing it for a YEAR and finally I lost and told him how I felt about it. He promised that he would NEVER do it again but he did several time that time I COMPLETLY lost it and he knew it he hasn't done it since! I don't leave him alone with a computer, my computer has a password on it, the satalite has a password and he just doesn't get a chance!

kit_kats_mom replied: I personally really hate the stuff but it's my hang up about my body that makes it so.

I know that most guys are thinking "hey! I'm getting some!" when they are having relations with their wife but I can't get it out of my mind that my guy is saying "wow! that lady in the video didn't have stretch marks on her boobs" or whatever. I'm sure he probably isn't comparing me to them but it still really gets me in a funk, so bad that I dont' want to have relations at all for awhile.

I'd never tell him he couldn't look at it but he knows my feelings about it. As long as I don't know about it...I'm fine. Just keep it hidden really well buddy LOL

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Neither of us care to look at it. We have a couple of times together, but I agree with Mollie that it is a form of cheating if you do it alone. DH thinks so, too.

jen replied: I never really thought of it as cheating but it isn't really an issue with us, if it was or he was obsessed with it I would definitely have different views. This life is about ME and HIM and our family NOT some Quadrouple Z CUP. I think it is gross what comes on SKINAMAX so I am sure I wouldn't be able to handle REAL PORN! LOL!

coasterqueen replied: Well if you are talking about movies..DH and I have always watched them together..never had a desire to watch them separately.

I do ask DH not to look at porn online because I just don't want that crap on my computer.

Littlejojames replied: We have never bothered with porn. We both think that we would rather entertain ourselves as its more fun and intermat within us that no-one else sees or can talk about.

Kaitlin'smom replied: movies we usaully watch them together, but thats very rare. Guess I am different I dont mind if he looks at them, I have also by myself. Its more about coursity and sometimes getting a darn good laugh at them. We have learned a few things from them also.

Boys r us replied: I could care less! doesn't bother me if he does it with or without me! I liek to watch them with him and if I'm not there and he's in the mood to watch it..then go for it!
I'd rather have him there watching porn at home than him be in a strip club looking at TANGIBLE naked women!

jcc64 replied: I know dh looks at porn online occasionally, and the 1st time I found some downloads, I did feel pretty hurt. He was actually pretty sweet and embarrassed about it, explained his reasons as best he could, and I can live with them. I find as long as I "hook him up" on a somewhat regular basis, he really doesn't do it much anyway. And, since he left the files on my hd, I have taken the opportunity to pick up new techniques, which thrills him
But I'm with you Cary. If I had more self confidence about my own physical attractiveness, it would basically be a non-issue for me.

Sunflower04 replied: My Dh and I watch it with or without each other. I guess when it comes to that stuff like mags and movie we are pretty carefree about it.

gr33n3y3z replied: Ed and I watched it a few times before we were married but Its not my idea of fun its more like yeah ok another comedy night for D and P and bad acting its always the same lol.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: Neither of us ever looks at it... I would be hurt beyond belief if DH ever did. I agree with Mollie... it's a form of cheating to me.