Katherine's first spend the night party at - grandma's

kit_kats_mom wrote: My little girl is getting so big and I'm realizing that I may have some (minor) control issues. I think, perhaps, that I have a problem.

My mom and I have been talking and we came to the conclusion that since K has been night weaned for a month or so and since we may be moving and with a new baby on the way, perhaps getting her used to spending the night at Grandma's would be a great idea.

My mom bought a TON of toys for K (slide, silly bowling, puzzles, leap pad etc) and we dropped her off yesterday evening. I was excited. We were going to be able to have a free night for the first time in 21 months. We made plans to go to a friends for board games and boxing (I know, wierd combo) to ensure that Dh and I wouldn't just sit at home watching videos of her. LOL

We had fun at the party, and got home really late. We got ready for bed and as soon as my head hit the pillow, WHAM! Evil, scary thoughts about all of the dangerous things at my moms house. K can open the door to my moms house and let herself out if the deadbolt isn't locked and I kept having these horrible images of her tiny little toddler self standing in the cul-de-sac and running down to the busy street. My heart was pounding and frankly, I was FREAKING OUT! So what did I do? I got in my car, at 3:30 am, in my pj's and drove to my mom's to test the door. Seems to me that there is something so wrong with that.

Well, mom called this morning and it went great. She did say that K is a bed hog but other than that, they had a blast. Now I feel really stupid. How lame am I?

amynicole21 replied: WTG, K! I'm glad she did so well on her first outing And sorry that Mommy did not fare as well Don't know if your issue is about control or trust, but I think I have the same issues. It's just so difficult because others don't know our kids as well as we do, and they don't know what they are capable of... I think it's just something that comes with time... I hope!

jcc64 replied: Cary-
You're HILARIOUS! Did you tell your mom about your middle of the night commando mission?! Trust me, all of this over-mothering will come to a grinding halt when the 2nd one comes. You'll be shoving her behind out the door at anyone who asks, lol!

kit_kats_mom replied:
Heck no I didn't tell her. I'm guessing it would only make her feel like I don't trust her. I do, it's just that like Amy said, she isn't aware of all of the stuff that K is capable of.

I'm such a dork. LOL

MommyToAshley replied: Glad you had a great time and K did so well at grandma's house!

I don't think you have a control problem. I think you did better than I would have... I would have been knocking on grandma's door at 3:00am and probably either sleeping there or taking her home with me. So, I think you did pretty darn well!

alice&arik replied: WTG K!!

I was a little worried when Arik had his first all nighter at my brother's. But it went good and the paranoia went away after the first time. I just worried mostly that he would cry or have a stomach ache and wouldn't know how to take care of him. So i just sent everything possible with. But he was 6 months then I think. And believe me, soon you will be looking forward to the all-nighters and having a great time!!

A&A'smommy replied: awww poor mommy!!!! ((((BIG HUGS)))) And WTG K! You not lame at all just a mommy having thoughts of things that might happen to her sweet baby when mommy isn't holding her. I'm glad you had a good time and maybe next time you will be able to enjoy bedtime with just hubby. ((((HUGS)))) AND trust me ever time I even TRY to think about letting alyssa stay the night away from home I change my mind ammediatly!

MomToJade&Jordan replied: LOL!!!!! Cary you crack me up. I'm glad that K did all right during her first night away from home. It's great that you actually got to spend some quality you and DH time. Just think when that new little one comes along there will be no time for that. I would have been freaking too. I freak when I'm gone for an hour and Jade is with someone else. It's just one of those things that comes with motherhood. I probably would have been at that door and banging it down if it was me. You did a great job Mom!

CantWait replied: oh I'm sorry but that is just way too funny, and crazy. Poor mommy, hugs to ya. Hopefully next time will be better for you

jdkjd replied: Holy crap! That's the funniest and sweetest thing I've ever heard. I hope that K appreciates what a great mom you are...

coasterqueen replied: LOL! OMG, that sounds like something I'd do. Glad K had fun!

Kylie spent the night at papa and gama's 2 times now. The first time, we kept ourselves busy so that we were just toooooo tired to even think about it, lol. But I woke up several times in middle of night wanting to go down to my parents, who only live 1/2 a mile away. But I didn't.

I felt guilty the next morning when my mom said she did awesome without me. I wanted her to miss me, lol.

ediep replied: wow!! WTG K!!!! Its great that she did well at grandmas house! I imagine that it takes a few times for us mommys to get used to it. Jason han't spent a night away from us in a long time!!! Last time, my sister came to my house to stay with Jason while DH and I went to Atlantic City for the night.

kimberley replied: LOL Cary! you are too funny! Jeanne is so right when she said it will change when the next one comes. while i still can't deal with long separations, anyone who wants the boys for the day can have them!! lol
(((hugs))) it will get easier. glad K and grandma had fun!