Just wanted to let you know - I'm taking a break
3_call_me_mama wrote: After spending almost 2 years on here I have started to feel like something doesn't fit quite right. Just wanted to let you all know that I will be MIA for a while and taking a break. A lot of things have happened on here lately that I am having a hard time dealing with. In almost everytopic I see the words (or type the words myself) "I don't mean to offend anyone, or hope no one is offended" and quite frankly I am tired of it. I am tired of not being able to respond how i honestly feel, aboutsomething and worrying about how others take it. I always try very hard to answer the topic that was posted or not reply. I feel like I take others into conmsideration when I post, not necessarily sugar coating things but being tactful and considerate of others. Lately I feel like I don't even want to reply to half of the posts because it's going to turn into a hugh debate just for sharing an opinion. And I was under the impression that this wasn't a debate forum. I have some very close friends on here and I don't want to lose those friendships, so I need a break before I call it quits all together. I personally have been on the recieving end of some hurtful things and have found tactful ways to respond, but I am tired of what is beginnig to become a very dramatic board. Insights and opinions are great, but picking fights isn't and neither is posting a question asking for help/advice and then turning it into a debate. Maybe it's just me and my own personal problem, but I have a feeling I'm not the only one who feels this way. So this is not goodbye, just see you later. I'll check back occasionally to keep up with all the new births and changes. And to the ones I am close to, I'll pm and email you. I'll be back.. hopefully, but for now I'm going to seek a closer less dramatic place. Good luck to everyone... I'll be in touch:)
moped replied: I am very sorry you feel that way..........................come back soon!
Insanemomof3 replied: Sorry you feel that way.  Hope that you feel better about it soon. Come back soon. 
JessC replied: I hope that your not posting this because of my post, because if so, I seriously have NOBODY to talk to. And seriously dont want to offend anyone.
Im sorry you feel that way, im guessing that maybe people come here because they want opinions and it just turns into something else, but I guess that is life.
I hope you come back soon.
luvbug00 replied: I too am sad you feel that way. I haven't been here half as long as you but what I have seen is that most of the debates are about children and their issues. Today and yesterday were the first posts I've seen regarding political and Religious Issues. The dabates we that invove the children I like because I hear others perspective. If I put up a post I want to hear all honest opinions. I also try to be tactful but if somone is offended there isn't much I can do and I won't sacrafice my beliefs to appease anyone. But I'd love to hear another persons reasoning and I thinks the more we share thease oppinions the more we can expand each others knolage and Learn somthing ourselves. All the people on here have so much to share and hopefuly when you return I can learn somthing new from you. 
kit_kats_mom replied: Carrie. I hate that you want to leave but I understand taking a break. I have been in lurk mode lately too...not because of anything that happened but I've just be too busy tending to my regular life. 
Do think about what would happen if all of us with conflicting ideals chose to jump ship on the board. I for one have learned a lot about other peoples POV's by participating in some of the more lively discussions. What would this place be if Jeanne, AmyNicole, DansMom and the other "liberal bunch" left instead of taking place in the discussions and holding their own against the majority. I know for a fact that Jeanne has enlightened many people with her eloquent wording (except for that one time...LOL) of the issues. Honestly, Kimberly & some of the other more "conservative" mom's have helped me to be more understanding. I now know that not all religiouis people are crazy-nut jobs like my MIL and I have a better idea of why some people disagree with homesexual marriages...not that they've swayed my opinion on the matter but I will agree to disagree and move on.
I do hate when the discussions turn ugly and I know that among such a great bunch of women, the ugliness usually comes from a mixture of strong feelings on a hot topic and oftentimes a misinterperatation of verbage. It does tick me off when someone uses language and someone else lashes out at them for something that was most likely unintentional.
Good luck finding another place that is not dramatic. From what I've seen of the message boards, most of them are more drama filled than this one on even our worst day. They are fun for a bit but then it gets really ugly. I think the mods do a great job keeping this a happy place for us even though sometimes it does rain a bit on the parade. 
Hugs and see you soon 
mammag replied: Hmm, now I feel bad, like I had something to do with it. I hope not. I hope I didn't make it sound like I was really upset about the closed minded thing. I just hear it a lot and it irked me at that moment but I didn't take it as a personal attack and never felt that the whole discussion got out of hand.. 
For the most part I feel like most people here can have these heated discussions in one post and then be sending hugs and prayers to the same person in the next. It's like a family, you don't always agree and sometimes you feel like ringing their necks but you're still there when it's all said and done. Take me and Jeanne for instance, we are as opposite as could be in most of our political views but still have a mutual respect and caring for each other.
We all have the most important thing in common, children, and that is what this place is truly about. I hope that you will return soon to us as I hate it when any one leaves the boards but especially if I in any way had anything to do with it.
Well wishes to you! 
A&A'smommy replied: Oh Carrie I'm SOOO sorry you feel that way!!!! I think we all have our breaking point and I'm glad your JUST taking a break before you get to that point!! Again I'm SO SO SO sorry that things that have happened on here that have pushed you to this point!!! (((((BIG HUGS)))) I will miss you but I TOTALLY understand!!
Alice replied: I'm sorry you feel that you need a break, but glad to see you're doing what's right for yourself. It's so easy to get caught up in all that goes on here.
Our thoughts will be with you-- please keep us all informed on what's going on with you.
Take care.
jcc64 replied: I'm sorry you're feeling badly about the board. I think the thing that keeps me coming back is that this is an incredibly diverse group of people that still manages to find common ground. I have been part of other online communities that more closely mirror my own views and politics, and while it was certainly less challenging at times to have these kinds of discussions, I honestly didn't feel the human connection that I do here. And it's been a real learning process for me too. My mom sometimes says things that hurt or offend me or make my blood boil, but I know she always wants the best for me. I think the same dynamic exists here. I hope after you cool off a bit you'll realize your voice is a cherished one around here, and you'll come back to us. Much love and happiness to you and your family in the meantime.
kimberley replied: well i am sad to hear that you feel the need to leave. we will definitely miss you around here. you are a dear and valued member and i do hope you can come back soon. 
ediep replied: wow! I am so shocked!!! I am so sorry that you have been insulted at some times and I hope that you come back soon
mom2tripp replied: I haven't been a member long or gotten to know you but I wish you all the best. I think the one thing that keeps me coming back to this board is the flavor that everyone brings. No matter our spats and opinions I think we all learn something from one another. I hope you are back soon and wish you well in the meantime 
Maddie&EthansMom replied: Carrie I'm really gonna miss you. I hope you do check in often and decide to come back soon. I'm sorry things are a little heated right now.
stanleygirl replied: I am so sorry that you are leaving
Whether it is related to me or not I do feel bad bc when I posted on topics I hadn't really thought of anyone getting into an argument or wanting to leave over posts, and if my post created bad feelings I do apologize.
I think I will be much more careful as to what I post here, and I really hope you come back for what it's worth.
redchief replied: I'll miss you too Carrie. Hope to see you back soon!
Josie83 replied: I'm sorry that you feel this way Carrie! I'm really going to miss you, I enjoy reading your posts and think you always bring an interesting and eloquent side an argument. I enjoy talking to you and I'm sorry that I won't see you for a bit. Good luck with everything though, and tke care of yourself and your beautiful kids xx
Boys r us replied:  Carrie, I'm really sad that you're going to be MIA!! I always look forward to your posts and replies b/c a lot of times they're light and witty! I know the board has grown a lot in the last 6 months or so and sometimes I think it's hard for all of us to adjust to loosing that really close-knit, family like atomosphere where all of us knew everything about all of us. But as with any change there is good and there is bad, the good is that this place is never boring, there is always someone keeping the joint hopping with posts and replies and also there are more people to learn from and lean on! I think on any board there are going to be a few dramatics..when you get this many people together, it's near impossible not to have at least a couple of people who turn the drama drip on!
I hope that your absence is short lived Carrie b/c I truely will miss you!
Sunflower04 replied: Sorry to see you go and I hope you come back soon. I actually enjoy reading your views as well as all the ladies here because it has helped me learn things that I didn't know about. Take care.
gr33n3y3z replied: I will miss you Carrie
Take all the time you need
Cya soon
((( HUGS )))
amynicole21 replied: You've always been very tactful, Carrie. I hope you know we all appreciate your insight and views. I understand completely, though. Come back to us soon.
My2Beauties replied: I think Cary said it best. I hope you decide to come back soon, we will miss you greatly. Even my own husband and I have differing views on certain topics (like the time he said we should just nuke Iraq  , he was joking but still) and I still love him dearly. After all he's my DH and my family and that is how I think of everyone here - as family! Sure we have our disagreements and arguments, but even an hour later they may post for P&PT's and I'm right there offering (((HUGS)))! I love y'all nomatter what you say or do Please come back soon!
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