Just a bit sad

coasterqueen wrote: I'm so depressed . In order to get an extended maternity leave I agreed to work from home to plan our upcoming summer meeting as well as do my payroll/accts payable/receivable responsibilities. This requires some time and I've been able to do it all except I'm lacking behind in my meeting planning, but it's still getting done. Anyways, the girl who is subbing for me at work has been bored with nothing to do and my coworker asked me if she could design the brochure for the meeting since Megan has been a handful and it would help me out. I didn't want to say yes, but did, and now it sounds like my coworker and my sub has taken over the entire planning for the meeting

The email I got this morning clearly stated some of their plans they were working on for it. I responded with a not-so-nice email hoping they'd get the picture that I'm upset. A part of me wishes I wouldn't have sent it though

This meeting is mine to plan and I don't like someone just taking it over for me as if insinuating (sp?) that I can't handle the task. I'm sure that's not what their intentions are but it still hurts and my coworker knows my personality so I KNOW she knows how this would upset me.

My emotions have been so up and down since giving birth to Megan and Ryan being sick, a death in the family over the weekend and now this.

TANNER'S MOM replied: I am soo sorry Karen. I know what it is like to worry about your job. It really gets your insercuity's up.

Just don;t forget that they do NEED you..and that she is just that ..your SUB!

And soon you will be back prof woman mode!

Mel

amymom replied: You are still handling alot of responsibilities from home. I hope that you can pull back the parts you want and deligate the parts you don't want.

Good Luck

Kaitlin'smom replied: awww hon I am sorry sounds like its been a bit ruff, with everything going on and then work on top of that. I hope you can get it worked out.

My2Beauties replied: I'm Sorry Karen, I find it a bit rude that you asked them to do one task and it seems like they have taken over the whole kit and kaboodle. You have a right to be upset and hopefully they understand how you feel from your email. Don't be worried about sending it, you need to speak up for yourself and be assertive when it comes to the business world!

A&A'smommy replied: awww Hun I think I missed the part about you doing work from home and the death in your family but I just want to say I'm SOOO sorry things have been so difficult for you lately!! ((((((BIGGEST HUGS))))) I'm going to keep you guys in my P&PT's!!

DansMom replied: Work stuff STINKS! We all need to win the lottery and not deal with this stress and strife! I'm sorry there's so much going on in your family too

A&A'smommy replied:
I second that!!!

kit_kats_mom replied: Sounds like you are having a really rough go of it.

When you are working from home, the office politics dont' go away. Unless she has been like this before, I'd say that she was probably really just trying to help you out. You do sound overwhelmed. If she got it wrong, I'd just thank her for her offer to help but let her know that you've got it under control.

((hugs))

JAYMESMOM replied: I am sorry to hear that happened. I know it is really hard being off on maternity leave because you wonder if they function without you will they need you. If they don't respond to your email. Call your co-worker and let her know what you have planned and that you appreciate what they are doing but you only need help with the brochure for know and will let her know if and when you need something else.

Unless she has went behind your back and taken over stuff before she was probably just trying to be helpful. Yet hurtful just the same.

Hang in there. The beginning can be rough. I hope you can get some time to do what you need to do.

gr33n3y3z replied: I'm sorry to hear that
But they still need you

aspenblue1 replied: I'm sorry Karen. I would be upset also if somone took over what I was doing.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I can totally see why this would upset you so badly. I'm sorry to hear you are having a rough time right now. God I wish I were there to help out.

Boys r us replied: I'm sorry Karen!! I'm sure they meant well and thought you would be pleased to have the extra hands..maybe them telling you what their ideas were was their way of getting your approval and keeping you in the loop while trying to help you out!

lisar replied: I am sorry I hope it all gets better for you. We are hiring a temp to do some of my work while I am on leave and I hate the fact that someone is going to be handling all these things while I am gone. Its like they dont need me. But I know they will be happy when I return.

lisa

coasterqueen replied: Thanks everyone. I feel a bit better about it today but it still makes me sad.