Jenna is falling behind in alot:(

mummy2girls wrote: but the school speech pathologist reassurred me she will catch up. Before her app with the ENT a speech pathologist came for a home visit to talk to me about where jenna is at in different skills in her development. And aside from her severe delay in speech she had moderate to severe delay in gross motor skills and fine motor skills as well:(

in gross motor skills she needs help with her balance... she isnt able to balance on one leg for more than 2 seconds, she cant stay on her tippy toes for more than 1 second, she isnt able to walk backwards without falling. The physical therapist working with her is having to strengthen her muscles because they are saying that is one big reason of her balance and such and because she is unbelieveable felxible from the waist down they feel that is a huge reason for all this.

in fine motor skills they are working with her cupping her hands wehen doign things. its ahrd to explain but it attributing to her drawing skils, folding stuff anf picking up stuff.

The therapist says that she will need to have another year of this intensive therapy at the school so she wont be able to go to kindergarten this september:( They said she isnt ready. So the following september when she does enter kindergarten she will go to that school so if she still needs some help she can get the help. and its all government funded BUT once she hits grade one and if she needs individual care throughout school where they pull her out of class for a couple hours each day to work with her i have to pay as its no longer funded.

So she does have a learning disability and some mild physical disabilities with her motor skills...

TANNER'S MOM replied: Shelley, I know this is alot to hear at once. I have been there. I don't talk about it a lot. My son Justin has learning disabilites. He was born premature and has suffered some set backs at school. He is like Jenna in that he is very handsome (where she is pretty) he has an awesome personality which he uses with the other kids to make up with the learning side, now that he is older. But I remember all the small things when he was Jenna's age that used to hurt me. I remember the feeling that hurt me the most was when I was told my child wasn't perfect. For me I was once sitting in a school counceler's office and they said Justin was slightly mentally retarded. Those words made me want to hurt someone.

I just want you to know that I understand how sad it makes you to hear those things. As mothers we sometimes feel like we failed at something. But we haven't failed We just play the cards that life gives us.

Our children maybe different, maybe they grasp and learn differently. But they are still perfect to us..we love them. We see all the special things about them and that's all that counts.

I just want to tell you that.. I hope I haven't said anything that would offend you.

A&A'smommy replied: I'm sorry she will catch up and I'm sure the therapy will help a lot!!!

moped replied: I read Mel's post - she is so good.......

Everything will work out just fine with Jenna....you wait and see!

luvmykids replied: Mel hit the nail on the head, Jenna is still your perfect girl I can't imagine how overwhelming it all seems right at this moment but you are a strong and loving mom who I have no doubt will continue to do what is best for her.

amynicole21 replied: I'm sure it was a really hard thing to hear, Shelley. I'm so glad that Jenna has you to help her through all of this

Jamison'smama replied: I know that was hard to hear. Like Amy said, Jenna is a very lucky little girl to have a mom that is willing to go those extra miles. It is fantastic that you caught this early, she has lots of time to work on those skills. It sounds like you are getting good care, I hope you are getting the support and care that you need as well. Sending big hugs to you Shelly.

mummy2girls replied:
you are explaining me and Jenna to a tee:(

Yes its hard to hear as a mother but I do feel she will get the help and get all the help throughout school! They reassurred me the help will always be there and when she hits grade one if she is still having problems then there will always be a teacher there to help. I just feel like i did something wrong as a mom. I just feel that everything has been thrown at me in the past coupel months thats its hard to take in.


no you didnt offend me

Kaitlin'smom replied:

Well look at it this way now Jenna and Kaitlin will graduate the same year.

sweetie I know its hard to hear, but at least she is getting the help she needs now and your there to help and support her, some parents wont acnowlage there child has something wrong and wont get them help weither it be physical or mental. Hang in there she will be fine.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I'm sure that everything will work out! She's a smart little girl with a mommy that loves her very much. Just keep encouraging her, that's all you can do!

TANNER'S MOM replied: Oh I wanted to mention that with my son, who has some of the trouble you mentioned.. he might not be the best reader, but he is the best artist. His math skills aren't the best but he is the most creative in class. I have come to find in children what they lack in one area they are great in something else.

I think once we learned a style to help him learn, and once we learned what he could do and encouraged him ..it all fell in place for us.

I know as a mother I worried and worried. But know I know Justin is a child who fits in well, he is a smart child..and I know that you have those worries. But just know that no matter Jenna will find what she excels at..b/c you will be behind her the whole time.

mummy2girls replied: Thank you guys! you are the best!!! I can always count on you all to help me through any hump.