Jealous of SAHM

maliksmommy wrote: I had to go pick up Malik from daycare because he threw up so he is here at work with me and can I just say that I am so jealous of all you SAHM. I love just turning around and being able to see his beatiful face. Oh how I wish I would win the lottery

ashade75 replied:
i second that!

MommyToAshley replied: Awwwee... I hope Malik is feeling better.

I understand what you mean, but I don't think there is any perfect situation. I am a WAHM, and it is not as easy as I thought it was going to be. It makes for some long days sometimes. I can only concentrate on work when Ashley is asleep... so that means I work during her two small naps and when she goes to bed at night. I average between 4-6 hours of sleep a night...usually more along the 4 hours of sleep. I do find time to log on here off and on throughout the day when Ashley is playing by herself (but usually in the same room as me) But, I am not complaining ... just wish I would hit the lottery too. When I am feeling tired or worn-out, I just look at Ashley and see that georgous smile, and thank God for this blessing. And, I realize I am lucky (tired, but lucky) to have this time with her.

It sounds like you make the time you spend with Malik very special and I am sure he cheerishes every moment.

Now, here's to hoping that we hit the lottery!!!

mummyof2boyz replied: Oh how I do enjoy staying home with my 2 boys, but there are pro's and con's to both. If you work out side the home at least you get some adult contact. If you stay at home you got the kids and SO. It can be a bit lonley. Work, you can get a break from the kids(hubby says work isn't a break, but I think other wise) SAH, unless you get a babysitter, you never get a break except for nights and naps, and at that instead of resting your usually cleaning or doing something.

But if you do stay home you usually don't miss any of there "firsts".(walking,talking,exc....)
And you get to play with them all day, And watch them grow. They are so much fun!

This is just my point of view. I am always talking with DH about this. He always ask me why I ask so many questions about his day, well it's because I CRAVE adult conversations!
I would try and work outside the home but the price of daycare these days, I would just be working to pay it.maybe after the kids are in school.

dhoppygirl replied: I am not only jealous of SAHM, but SAHDs!!! My DH stays at home and to satiate his need for adult conversations, he talks to my brother's wife (who lives in Colorado and is a SAHM), or his mom, or sometimes a friend or two. We are trying to figure out how I can be the one to stay at home, without depending on winning the lottery!!!
I tend to see work the same way, although I usually come home exhausted missing my baby.

As a WOHM with a SAHD, I sometimes illogically think that staying at home is the easier job..you can sit on the couch and watch tv, read a book, talk on the phone...I think this because if I call home to check on Peyton, my husband is doing one of these things. Of course, he does vacuum twice a week and if I harp on him enough he'll do the laundry and maybe dust....I guess my point is there is always a downside to either one!! Okay, I am stepping down

Schnoogly replied: I have to say that staying at home w/him is the hardest job I have ever had. I have had lots of desk & teaching jobs, including teaching 8 hour days, and taking care of Iain is the hardest. I actually enjoy getting out of the house for a little while because I enjoy him so much more when I come back--don't get me wrong, I love him dearly, but he is a difficult baby and he's getting too big to carry around all the time. I put him in his bouncy seat to iron a shirt this morning for a job interview I have this aft, and I had to stop 3 times to pick him up b/c he can't go that long without being held. I am holding him while he sleeps right now. So of course I feel guilty for being impatient with him, but I really hope he gets more independence soon

Steph

MommyToAshley replied:
I am going to have to call your DH for some pointers...LOL. Ashley keeps me hoppin!! Ok, she is a very active baby, but I don't dare try to read a book. I do sneak on here and try to read a post or two, but I usually have to stop in the middle of my reply to take away the toy she is about to drop on her head, or wipe the spit up off her facel, or sit her down from trying to climb on the entertainment center, or say peek-a-boo when she pulls the cover off her face, etc. Then, there's changing the diapers, feeding, nursing, getting her dressed, and of course, playing with her!!!!!

MomToMany replied: This just my opinion. I LOVE being at home with my kids! I know what they do during the day, what they eat, and how they're treated. When I was working, I always worried about them, and it seemed like Ethan was always getting sick and I'd have to go pick him up. My oldest, Logan, was having a hard time at school; he was getting picked on or starting a fight or something. It was the first time I worked; well, I finished high school when he was a baby. That was hard, leaving him when he was a baby. I graduated with 2 kids and being married ( I'm not too proud of that, I was just happy I graduated! Quentin was 4 days old when I graduated .) So he was having a hard time adjusting to mom not being there. I left his dad, and moved far away. But now I'm home, and things are much better with Logan .

It's hard sometimes, being at home. DH will come home from work and say, "What did you do today?" I just want to smack him sometimes ! He doesn't realize just how hard it is! There's so much that has to get done, and so little time. What I hate is when he asks me at lunch what are we having for supper! I haven't thought that far ahead! He should be thankful that he has clean underwear in the morning ! I tell him that the kids come first, and then I do the cleaning. That way he can help around the house, too! He has his job as a supervisor for a big company, and I have my job taking care of the kids.

KatieLeigh79 replied: Dh wants me to be a SAHM (I tell him only if it turns out we can afford it after the first three months which is what i was figuring on) But people around me trouble me with the comments I hear when i say thats what we are going to try to do "oh so when do you get to be just a mom" and other things like that such as "so what will you be doing all day then" I don't do well trapped in the house *laugh* so im hoping this little one will keep me to busy to realize im not out and working but people are just harsh it seems, even when i was working i kept the house spotless, dinner 5 of 7 nights, laundry done etc (doing cleaning for a living has turned me into a neat freak - i think im in for a surprise) But why is it that people are always jealous of what another family does either if its being able to stay at home or to work? As long as i have a healthy baby and a family that loves me and a safe and secure enviroment i'll be happy and forever greatful . Just my

supermom replied: Well, I think that I've probably got the best of both worlds - I WOHM with my WOHD (DH) and we own our own computer store......Anders has come to work with us since he was 3 days old, and it's been so wonderful. Yes, there are days that being with him 24/7 stresses me out, just like there are days that work stresses me out, but all-in-all it's a wonderful situation. Since we own our own business, we also work at home in the evening if need be, and now that he's older, he's getting pretty good at really charming the customers (of course, he was good at it too when he was a baby, but now he can carry on a conversation with them).

There are days that we've got a big project and the house goes to heck because we're here or just too tired to deal with it, but the rewards far outweigh the problems, and it isn't all "peaches and cream" but I dont' have to leave him and I get to see him all day!!

I wouldn't trade this setup for the world!

MommyToAshley replied: I don't think you meant to turn this into a debate about WOHM vs SAHM...but I think I totally understand what you are saying. My heart aches if I leave Ashley for just a few hours. I don't think I could survive a full 8 hours!

<Hugs> to all those WOHM's!

CantWait replied: That is definetly one thing I will miss about being home again, even if I wouldn't consider my coworkers friends, they are adult conversation, something other then goo goo gaa gaa LOL

MomofTay&Sam replied: I am a SAHM for now and would starve before I went back to work! LOL My children are almost exactly 10 years apart and I worked with my first son. I am ten years older and love every single second, we save like crazy and do without but I cant leave this one. I was wrong to do it before, IMO. I go w/o alot for my children, but I need to be here for my baby. Daddy works overtime and takes care of us. I am to go back to work 9/03 but we will see.

kit_kats_mom replied: I'm a WAHM and today my DH stayed home from work because I have a MAJOR deadline hanging over my head....I'll post more later

Needless to say, the grass is always greener....sigh

ediep replied: I am a stay at home mom at least for 2 years and I really enjoy the time I have with Jason, but I have to admit that I kind of miss my job. I really loved teaching and I was good at it and I miss having adult contact on a daily baisis. I tried joining a baby and me group but it always endedup to be at Jason's nap time and I hated missing his nap because he would end up so cranky by the end of the day.
Oh well, grass is greener....

ashade75 replied:
I also had children young. I had 2 children by the time I graduate High School. I married my DH right after I graduated.

I guess thats why I would have loved the opportunity to stay home with my children. From the time they were little (high school days) I was going to school during the day and working in the evenings and weekends. I missed so much of their childhood. After high school married DH and went to college part time and worked full time....still working full time.

Now they are 12, 10 and 8. This is why we devote every weekend to family time.

I dont think either SAHM or WOHM is easy. Being a mother is definitely a full time job! I used to think when they were old enough to take care of themselves a little it would be easier but then you just have other issues to deal with (homework, peer pressure) I dont think it will ever be "EASY"

CHEERS TO ALL THE MOMS FOR AN EXCELLENT JOPB AT A JOB THAT NEVER ENDS!!!

maliksmommy replied: I definately hope that no one thinks I was implying that it was easy to be a SAHM. I was home with Malik on Monday because he was sick and it's definately not easy to get things done like you want to. Lately he has gotten to where when I drop him off for daycare he starts crying with his hands reaching out towards me and that just absolutely breaks my heart Yesterday it was just nice to be able to see him when I wanted to. With the wayt things are in our family I will never be able to be a SAHM and that just sucks to me. I know that there are pros to each side and yes the grass is always greener:)