Its 5:30am

A&A'smommy wrote: And Alyssa thinks its time to be awake!!! This is the first time she hasnt let me sleep more than four hours at a time....i think it may be because she got that shot. Do you guys know if there is something in infant tylenol drops that keeps them awake because when she first got her shot all she wanted to do was sleep (after screaming her head off) and when i give her that medican the only time she will sleep is when im holding her and i dont want her to think she can sleep with me all night all the time ( i dont sleep well when she sleeps with me) so we are sitting here (i think she is fighting sleep) rocking and being a little fussy and then smily she is going back and forth. If dh hadnt took that stupid nyquil he would be up with her right now and i would be sleeping....he is taking care of her when he wakes up and im sleeping until 130pm and if he wakes me up for any stupid reason (like wanting me to change a diaper when he is perfectly capable) i will i dont know what i will do but it wont be pretty!!! He is so frustrating!! Sometimes i dont think i understand him at all i dont know what the heck is going on in his thick head. Dont get me wrong he is a pretty good husband and a dad (he loves us and says it all the time) but he just isnt much help. How did i get off on dh again i just keep complaining and complaining about him....im sorry i dont mean too its just im so frustrated with him right now its starting to get better but he still really makes me mad about this same issue! I think what finally got to him after begging and asking and even letting him do it on his on time (never), i had begged him (again) to do the dishes (he messed up the kitchen big time) he was messing around with me and i was pretty upset because of what he was saying even though i know he was just playing with me i started crying and when he asked me what was wrong i told him while bawling and i almost made him cry, i wasnt being mean but i think it finally hit him that it really bothers me when he makes a mess and leaves it for me to clean up when i already have other things that i need to do and dont have time for. anyways it has gotten a lot better and it has only been a day and most of it we werent home so im anxious to see how he does when he wakes up. Anyways sorry for going on and on about all this but i really need someone to talk to and you women are pretty much all i have!! Love ya'll and thanks so much!!

Kirstenmumof3 replied: Hi Jessyann! Claudia was the Queen of Party Time when she was a newborn! She would wake up in the middle of the night and just decide that she wanted to be awake! I've never heard of Tylenol keeping them awake though, It's probably because of her needle. Hopefully you can get some sleep this afternoon!

amynicole21 replied: Sorry Alyssa is giving you a rough time I bet it is because of her shots - I don't think it has anything to do with the Tylenol.

I think that DH probably got the point after your talk. I hope so anyway. He really needs to understand that he has so many more responsibilities to take care of now that the baby is born. Caring for her is a full time job in itself, let alone taking care of the house. I hope it gets better soon.

aspenblue1 replied: I have never heard of tylenol keeping them up. I hope she lets you get some sleep and that DH got your point!

ediep replied: I don't think the tylenol would keep her up, but maybe it makes her feel better so she is happy and wants to play.....just an idea

anyway, about your DH.....I felt the same way when Jason was first born. I was a first time mom and my Dh was completely helpless...he would wake me up in the midle of the night when it washis turn to be on baby duty, to ask where the mylecon is, or where the extra wipes are GGGRRRR!!!! All I can say is....give it a few more months. Some guys take a little longer to get comfortable with a baby.

kimberley replied: sorry you had a rough night. i agree with the others, it was probably because of the shots. tylenol should have the sleepy effect on babies.

as for DH, he is young and acting like it. just be sure to communicate your concerns to him because little issues can become huge issues if they keep repeating and exhaustion doesn't help. Big hugs to you and Alyssa and for DH to knock some sense into his head

MommyToAshley replied: (((HUGS)))

I agree that it probably wasn't the tylenol. I just hate when babies get their shots.

As for DH... I hope he got the point. Hang in there, the first couple of months are the hardest. It does get easier, I promise.

DansMom replied: It does take dads a while to adjust to feeling competent with their first child. I was really irritated and irritable with DH the first few months as he seemed to be clueless and helpless in many ways. Of course, I also wanted to be taken care of a little, and I wanted him to "step up" to his responsibilities right away. Now that a year has gone by, things are really different. I'm jealous of their relationship sometimes, as DH is better at certain aspects of parenting than I am. It took some time for him to get comfortable, but now he's doing such a great job and does more parenting research than I do. Hang in there---your DH just needs to grow up a little, and he will. With my DH, it took me going back to work and him doing a lot of childcare without my being around. He worked some things out on his own that way, like diaper changing, bottle feeding, burping, consoling a crying baby, etc.: all the basic stuff! As long as I was around he was self-conscious and unsure of himself. Now he tells ME what I'm doing wrong!!

Babies don't really get a stable sleep/wake schedule until they are 4 months old. So you can expect lots of weird changes before then. I remember that Daniel started sleeping fewer hours in a row, not more, after the first month.

coasterqueen replied: ((HUGS)) I think it was probably the shots. Although, Kylie loved playing in the mid of night and still does on occassion. *SIGH*

As far as your DH, I think it just takes them time to adjust. Although, my DH still hasn't adjusted to parenting a child, even in the late of night, and Kylie is 15 months old.

There needs to be some mandatory class that they take to make them understand what exactly are their responsibilities!!!!

A&A'smommy replied:
LOL wouldnt that be wonderful!?! oh well...i guess things will get better in time..and hopefully before i have a mental breakdown!!

Alyssa is really feeling bad now and her cries arent real distinctive they are all the same her body movements for each cry are all the same, so im having to go through the list of what it might be and i end up crying before i figure it out. Im sure you have all went through this and we all hate it!!! My poor baby girl...she is actually asleep right now which is good for both of us..except im affraid to get because i might wake her and im starving!!!! i guess i will try in a few minutes...thanks guys for listening!!!

mummy2girls replied: Oh jessy...I know what you mean...jennas dad was like that and he was like that for 10 months...UGH!!!!!! I would go over to his place on the weekends when jen was first born to have some relief and help with jen at night and boy that didnt last. The first night he let me sleep for 2 hours as he tended to jen. and the following weekends he did that. But then after about 3 weeks he stopped. And i was dealing with it on my own. Waking up with her every 2 hours, changing, feeding, and everything!!!!! But he has completely changed. he helps so much now. And i can actually leave her with him for the day and i can have the day to myself...AHHHHHHH.

As for the tylenol...i dont think it keeps babys up....she just probably feels good and wants to play...LOL

CantWait replied: For the first couple months, there would be frequent times when Anthony would get up at 2am or so and want to play. All I could do was play with him and usually within an hour he would be tired and want to nurse again and fall asleep. Just last night he woke up at 5:00, ate and wanted to play

A&A'smommy replied: i know for sure now its not because she wants to play she feels to bad to sleep unless im holding her then she sleeps. I feel so bad for her after the last time i posted she woke up and CRIED AND CRIED it was all i could do to keep from crying too...but i finally got her calmed down and she fell asleep in my arms and i held her for an hour and half to two hours while she slept then i laid her down to get a few things done and she woke back up, right now she is in her swing starring at her mobile she LOVES the teddy bears!!!! anyways im exhausted and i believe she is too...