Is This Tacky?

Boo&BugsMom wrote: A friend of mine at church has an 8 month old precious, most adorable little girl. Her mom is concerned about her not being able to sit up yet on her own. I was thinking about getting one of those Bumbo's for the baby for when he is older and I thought, since they really don't have a lot of money (not like we do), that she could borrow it until we need it. By the time our little one is old enough for it, she should be done with it by then. I want to help them out, but we don't have the money and all to buy them one of their own, but I don't want to look tacky and give them something just to take it back later. If it were you would you be appreciative of the offer or would you think it was tacky?

stella6979 replied: Coming from someone who has borrowed many things from their SIL, I don't think it's tacky at all. There were a few big things we didn't get at our shower and couldn't afford at the time, so my SIL offered to let us borrow whatever we needed until she needed them again. So long as they know you are just letting them borrow it, I think it's a great gesture and would be much appreciated. If she's 8 months now, I doubt they would need it for very long anyway.

lesliesmom replied: I think it would be a great gesture, not tacky at all. Since my kids are in daycare and have been there for so long (almost 6 years) we know all the families and tend to do that amongst ourselves. Pass along clothes, items, things like that. And I'm sure your friend would understand what you're doing and appreciate it all the same.

coasterqueen replied: No, I don't think it's tacky at all. I think it's a very kind gesture.

Cece00 replied: I dont think its tacky, I think its very generous. I've borrowed stuff from friends before, knowing I have to return it. For certain items, it really is the way to go.

holley79 replied: Bumbo seats are awesome and I think it's a great gesture. If you know her well then she shouldn't have a problem with it.

Crystalina replied: Maybe you could tell her ahead of time. "Hey! I'm going to buy this (whatever) and you can use it and just pass it to me when your done." Your not going to wrap it are you? If it were wrapped I may wonder but if your just going to hand it to her that's differant. But if you are really close and she's fine with it then do it. I'm thinking you're really not sure which is why your asking. I have friends I could do that to and friends I wouldn't. kwim?

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Well if you can afford to buy it now, buy it.

Then take it out of the packaging, and call her, and casually mention that you found your bumbo seat, if she wants to borrow it for a few months...

Boo&BugsMom replied:
I like that idea! No, I wont wrap it, then I think it would be tacky. I will take it out of the box and everything. We aren't "best friend" close, but I feel I am close enough with her that I feel comfortable loaning her something like that. I consider her a friend and not just an aquantance (sp?), if that helps. I do see her outside of church and not just at church. I don't have a problem loaning anything to her, she's very responsible, I just don't want to be tacky.

Calimama replied: I don't think it's tacky at all! What a sweet gesture!

luvmykids replied: Not tacky I'd just say hey, we bought one of these but aren't going to need it for awhile, do you want to use it in the mean time?

A&A'smommy replied:
I agree that is exactly how i would approach her!! That is very sweet!!