Inlaws?

CosmetologyMommy wrote: How many of you absolutely do not get along with your inlaws and tolerate it for your dh/so? Maybe not all of them but one or a couple?

luvmykids replied: I get along with all of them pretty well, but when it comes to my DH's grandmother it's all an act. She's pretty old but still very active and is always dropping by at the worst possible moment and then telling me how she did it better, faster, etc.

And she's one of those people who's really good at the underhanded compliments ... she tries to make it sound like she's being nice but she's really chopping you at the knees. For example, on Christmas Day:

Her: "What did you do to your hair?"
Me: "Just got it touched up a bit"
Her: "Well it looks nice if you're into those colors"

What colors? Dark blonde, light blonde, light brown? She acts like it was green!

Or this one:
Her: "I love these kids so much, they're so great, blah blah blah. You're doing a great job, considering."
Me: "Considering what?!"
Her: "Oh, you know, well, nevermind. You're doing fine for now."

fashionmumofboys replied: My ex-mother-in-law I got along with her to a certain point. At times I would just go along for certain things, but she always thought her daughter could do everything the best. My ex-father-in-law had a good sense of humor and got along with him.

My now DH parents are both deceased so I don't have any inlaws, which I think makes matters easier in a way.

MamaJAM replied: I really do like FIL...he's always nice.
BIL/SIL are cool - they just go with the flow of things.

MIL I really don't like. I put up with her for the sake of family....we used to be very close but there have been issues in the last bunch of years and I lost respect for her - not to mention she really hurt me a while back and, try as I might, I just cannot forgive her.
DH's grandparents are also among those I cannot stand. I put up with them because they are elderly...but, given a choice, I 'd have no contact at all with them. Thankfully - we only have to see them 1 or 2 times per year.

C&K*s Mommie replied: I get along with my IL's (both sets), and Chris gets along with my folks. My parents get along great with Chris' parents ~ but they really only know his adoptive father and his mother-- they do not know his biological father and his new wife that well. His mother and adoptive father are the two that I call my MIL/FIL.

Hillbilly Housewife replied:
ditto.

FIL is alright - he gets led around by MIL.

The worst is that my mom has no backbone... so the outlaws are always suckering my mom into doing things with/for them... and then I hear her about it after.

Like - my MIL sat in her car outside my mom's house, from 5:30 until 7am because she wanted to "catch" my mom before she went to work - because she wanted to paint my mom's living room.

My mom only mentionned in passing that she had found the right colors for her living room...and since MIL had a day off the next day, and she knew my mom usually left for work at around 5:45.... she parked and waited. Sucker for her - my mom wasn't going in to work until latert, cuz she was going to court... so at 7am my mil knocked at my mom's door to see if she was home. My mom was home.. and couldn't tell MIL no.... she tried!!

anyways... my mom's always telling me to suck it up and be nice to my MIL... but then she gets something done to her, turns around and bi**es about mil to me

it;'s hilarious

moped replied: I love my inlaws and DH likes mine - it's all good

scattytart replied: i HATE my mil, on my wedding day she came to see me before the ceremony, she looked at me and said "oh did they get you the wrong size dress, or did you think you would lose weight " i asked her what she ment and she said "well darling lets just say you look pregnant" since then i have not had a serious chat with her, i avoid it, just to keep peace ill will be nice. She hasnt seen my son yet, i really dont think i could control my anger if she says anything about my baby.

MyLuvBugs replied: Oh oh!! me Me! Right here!! My SIL is weird, and my FIL means well, but still weird. However, i LOVE my MIL. She's just one of the nicest ladiest. however, we have had a couple moments where she just says something that aggrivates me. But other than that she's awesome.

My SIL and FIL were cut from the same cloth though. They have NO emotions. I'm so not kidding you. They have the blandest humors, and are sooooo snobby it's ridiculous. We get along, but my DH and I can't stand to be around them for long periods of time. my DH even said the other day he doesn't know why his mom stayed married to his dad for all these years. Now that's sad.

MyLuvBugs replied:
You're DH's Grandma and my SIL sound like the same person. i get comments like that ALLLLLL the time from the SIL. The best is:
"Well, I definately don't think mom is ready for another grandchild just yet. But that's just me..." (said 3 months ago)

followed closely by:
"Well he always was a cry-baby!" (talking about my DH just 2 months ago)

OR

"Thanks for the books for Christmas. I suppose they'll be interesting to read." (that was her thank you card for her christmas presents this year.)

zdk753 replied: I guess you could say I get along w/ my FIL. He lives 12 hrs. away & I have only seen him 3 x's in the 8 yrs we've been married. When we talk on the phone though he seems like he would be a real nice person. My MIL on the other hand I hate. I talk to her if I have to, but for the most part I avoid her.

3xsthefun replied: My MIL- I really do like her. But there times that she will get on my nerves.

My FIL- Well lets just say I don't care to much for the man. I'm pretty sure he doesn't care to much for me either. I really don't want go into it about him. He is just a strange, strange person. There are very few people that like him.

BAC'sMom replied: I love my FIL he's the sweetest man ever! He did a wonderful job raising my husband. No comment on MIL I would just myself in a ton of trouble.
Read between the lines

MAMACARLA replied: For the most part I tolerate.

punkeemunkee'smom replied: We all USED to be very close but then some things happened with SIL and we no longer speak to any of them. They did not even acknowledge Tay this Christmas and also missed her b-day. They only live 6 miles away BTW. It is sad she asks about them every once in awhile but for the most part remembers the blow up with my SIL (very public and ) The saddest part is the last phone convo Tay had with MIL Taylor was told she was being rude about her cousin and her and mommy were not nice- - so Taylor will say Grandma is still mad at us... It breaks my heart but it has been sooooooo much calmer around here minus them!

My3LilMonkeys replied: I love my ILs - they are great.

DH isn't really crazy about my parents. I don't really blame him - there are times I can barely tolerate them myself!