I'm so upset with bil

mammag wrote: I'm so upset right now with my bil. He got orders to DC and they are driving tomorrow from Illinois to DC. They will be going on 70 and will pass the exit to my house (3miles from my house) and he won't let her stop even for a quick meal. I haven't seen her since last summer and she hasn't even met my Keegan. How can he be so mean?? I am even in the process of planning a vacation to DC to visit them which he knows. That's not until Sept. so I really wanted her to get to see him as a smaller baby. I just don't understand how he can't see how mean that is. Plus I now look like a big idiot because I started crying on the phone when she told me. I couldn't help it.....it's breaking my heart.

I really want to see my sister. She is going to ask again tomorrow. I told her I'd even just meet in the parking lot of the store right off the exit.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: You are NOT an idiot!! I would be upset, too. Why in the world wouldn't he stop?? That is craziness!! And you are so nice to offer to meet them in the parking lot. There is no reason why they can't come to your house and visit awhile and see Keegan while he is still little.

You poor thing. I'm so sorry!

amymom replied: I'm so sorry
Hopefully, they have reconsidered. They need to take bathroom, food breaks Couldn't they use one of those at your house!!!
You have every right to be upset. I hope they reconsider.

mom21kid2dogs replied: Hey, I'm going to be up in the Brice Road area today! Wanna go throw some tire spikes on the road~he'd have to stop then!

Seriously, that's just plain mean I don't know why anyone would be like that to family~ugh!

Boys r us replied: Awe that made me cry when I was reading it!!! You're not an idiot...she's your sister!! Oh I hope she changes his mind!

mammag replied:
Good idea!!! Let's do it!

Thanks for your support guys! I'll let you know what happens. She's going to see if we can even just meet for 5 mins. in the Meijer parking lot just so she can see Keegan. If he says no to that I think I'll not want to speak to him anymore.

gr33n3y3z replied: I hope he changes his mind
Or I would think he would have to mean woman on his hands lol

Jamielou replied: Thats just plain mean i hope he changes his mind so you can see your sister...

A&A'smommy replied: OMG how can he be SO cruel!!!! ((((HUGS)))) I'm sorry I probably would have cried too!! I hope he changes his mind!!

JAYMESMOM replied: I hope he changes his mind and lets them stop and see you for more than 5 mintues. I would have cried to. If I was your sister I would be demanding we stop and making his life a nightmare till he did.

Butttt thats just me and I am evil.

I hope it all works out for you.

3xsthefun replied: I hope he changes his mind, so you can see your sister. I would be upset also.

mammag replied: Well, I just talked to her for a couple of minutes. He won't even let her pull off the exit and see me for the 5 minutes. I'm so upset again now. More mad though! He is such a jerk! What kind of person does that. I think I may reconsider my vacation to DC, even though we had planned to go there before they even got orders. I couldn't go and not see her but I don't want to see him in the least! I don't know what I will do. I am fuming right now. I'm also upset that she won't just do it anyway. They are in seperate cars. I would do that because she is an adult and he's treating her like a child being punished. He took her cell phone from her and when I was talking to her he made her get off the phone. The funny thing is I'm the only one in the family who liked him and he does this to me? Now I know the rest of the family was right about him. I'm glad I didn't tell Kristen they were heading through she would have been crying too.

amymom replied:
OMG! I hate to say this but it sounds very much like there is more here than you know. He is purposefully alienating her from her family. Sounds like an abuse situation waiting to happen.


(I am sorry if I overstepped but it was my first thought when you mentioned they were driving seperate cars and the phone thing. There is something wrong, scary. My prayers go out to her. )

Jamielou replied: Im sorry he is a jerk.....

CCTandME replied:
From what you wrote I agree w/ this reply.

mammag replied:
I appreciate your concern. My mom wondered the same thing. I'm inclined to say there's no physical abuse but he definitely is controlling. But then, I never would have dreamed he would do this so what do I know? Hopefully not. I do think there is more going on I don't know about but I just don't know. His rationalization for taking the phone is probably going to be that she had a large phone bill last month and he says she'll talk and get a large phone bill plus he doesn't want her talking on the phone and getting upset while he's driving. Still though, he was yelling at her and made her get off the phone straight away so.... I just don't know.

mckayleesmom replied: I would be up there in a heartbeat to punch him in the nose.