I'm so not ready - for Avery to grow up!

stella6979 wrote: So my cousins are up from Arizona and I decided to keep them for a night to give my Aunt a break and I can not believe some of the things that came out of brittany's 10 year old mouth. I mean really, is it common for kids that young to already be interested in and talking about sex? I remember being 10 and although I knew what it was all about, it certainly didn't consume my brain. Why oh why do kids feel they have to grow up so fast nowadays?

mckayleesmom replied: Holy cow. I remember knowing what it was...but it wasn't something I would have brought up to an adult in the room.

stella6979 replied:
Ya, I was really caught off guard and had no idea what to say.

Swood75 replied: It might just be me thinking this,but I think it is a "girl" thing..I think girls are growing up much faster these days (physically & mentally)which is scary..My DS is 9 and doesn't ever say anything about it etc..

DillsMommy replied:
That seems young to me....

MommyToAshley replied: Wow.. that seems really young. Boys still had cooties when I was that age.

Ashley is going to grow up in a plastic bubble. And, she's not getting out until she is 30!

stella6979 replied:
We say the same thing about Avery.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Ditto.

I don't think it's young for girls to have crushes on boys, but I do think it's young to be talking about sex in THAT way!

Danalana replied: I was talking about this recently. When I was a kid, I didn't even think about boys til about 4th or 5th grade, and I certainly wasn't thinking about sex (even though I knew what it was). All the kids I know are SO interested in the opposite sex...some are in kindergarten! It bothers me, actually. What happened to being a kid and just thinking about kid stuff?

holley79 replied: We are in that age where girls are much much younger and either sexually educated or already active sexually. It's really sad.

MoonMama replied: HOLY SHEEP! I don't know what I would have said.

Crystalina replied:
Izabella was showing me her class picture one day and she said, "this girl likes this boy, this boy broke up with this girl and is dating someone in Mrs. so & so's class.....I mean, my jaw dropped. And she's in first grade! What do these kids do on the playgrounds nowadays? When I was a kid it was a race for the door to get the swings first.

A&A'smommy replied: yikes.... I hate this I don't want my girls to grow up ever!!!

Sam & Abby's Mom replied: Its a pet peeve of mine,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,its OUR SOCIETY ! Look around. Look at the TV commercials that air now vs the TV commercials that aired when we were kids. Look at the clothes they sell now VS the clothes they sold when we were kids. I realize its up to every parent to 'parent' their kids by deciding what they watch on tv and what kind of clothes they wear,,,,,,,,,but society really makes it hard. Abby is only 2 and I shudder when I think about what things will be like when she's 10 and how I'm going to balance good parenting without keeping her in a bubble. I think its gonna be tough.

Crystalina replied:
You know what REALLY ticks me off to no end??? That darn KY Jelly commercial that comes on right in the middle of the day!! That is so not called for.

stella6979 replied:
It seems like ALL commercials these days have some type of sexual content or half naked people in them.

punkeemunkee'smom replied: We are dealing with a situation like this in our very close friend's family... There is a 8 almost 9 year old with a huge fasination with sexual content. It has now progressed so far that child protective services is involved and they are sure that she has had something happen to her....I know it is a hard and horrible thing to think of but is that a possibility with her?

Crystalina replied:
It's not always true but it is a very strong sign. I know a child that did have something happen to him and he always talks about sexual content. That's so sad.

stella6979 replied:
Hmmm...I'm not really sure. They live in Arizona and this was actually the first time I'd ever met them. She didn't say anything about herself, but she made comments about her friend that's in 8th grade and how she's been having sex with her boyfriend when his Parents aren't home. How they go swimming and then take showers together and how he's always asking for more.
The only thing she said about herself was that she was dating some boy named Kelton and that they kiss and hold hands, but that still surprised me. She's 10 for crying out loud.

holley79 replied:
Thanks for putting it in words Abbie. I wasn't sure how to put it out there.

The world in which we live.

stella6979 replied: Oh, I'd also like to add that she informed me that she watches all kinds of horror movies which always have sex scenes in them so maybe that's why she's so curious? She told me she even watched Hostile and anyone who's seen that knows it's more of a soft porn than a horror flick.

punkeemunkee'smom replied:
I have sadly suspected it for several years and the family did not want to seeit. There is alot of behavioral problems there and I told Bill and then her aunts and Dad when the sexual things started being said that most kids will try to normalize it. That is the only way they can figure to reach out. Her mom is absolutely NO help though and has blocked all her Dad's attempts to get her into counceling...when she gets in trouble her mom pulls her away-we suspect it is her uncle (mom's brother) or step-dad that just left but since we couldn't get anyone to listen CPS had to become involved....it is a nightmare!

Crystalina replied:
That's horrible. Sounds like mom either doesn't want to see it or is protecting someone.

punkeemunkee'smom replied:
Being exposed to pornagraphic material will absolutely peak their intrest. Alot of kids will blame a 'friend' and at the same time be asking the question (even if it is not spoken) Is this normal? Does this go on everywhere? It is such a sad thing but while I know kids are growing up fast these days I also know A LOT of kids who are exposed to the same commercials and things that don't have it affect them in that way-KWIM?

punkeemunkee'smom replied:

That is my suspition. You really couldn't be around this child and not know something is WRONG! Taylor has not been allowed to play with her for a few years and if we are all ever together I or Bill are always within 5 feet of the group!

stella6979 replied:
That's what I was thinking too...about the "friend". I wasn't exactly sure what to say, but I did inform my Aunt who is her Grandma so I'm sure she'll have a chat with her Parents when they get back to Arizona.

Crystalina replied:
That's a very very good thing. The child I'm talking about was "touched" by another child in a house full of people.