I'm so mad...I have tears and I'm about to - hyperventilate!

Boys r us wrote: Okay..so my SIL and I swap babysitting favors for each other once a month.

She's already watched my kids the beginning of the month and this weekend is their anniversary, so she's been saving her free babysitting for this weekend..fine no problem! We agreed on that!

Well earlier this week, we emailed and I told her that Braedon wouldn't be here tonight b/c my IL's had him all weekend
and Tanner wouldn't either because he was having a sleep over. So we both agreed that Sunday would be the better day for them to go out and me to watch my nephew. That was the end of it..nothing more said. Rick and I made plans..being that we were KID-FREE of our OWN children tonight..we invited our friends to go to the lake with us.
So..just now my brother calls and he's like hey what's up? I said nothing..what are you doing? and he said..oh I'm just calling to see if you're still up for watching chase tonight..I said, Jamie...Heidi and I agreed that I would watch him tomorrow..THAT WAS THE PLAN and he was like..yeah I know, but we changed our minds..and I said well Tanner and Braedon won't be here.
He said yeah I know.
and I said...and Rick and I already have plans, but Oh well, I guess I'll cancel them now and he says.."oh okay"

I can't even breathe I'm so mad!! so tonight, I'll have NO KIDS of MY OWN...but I have to cancel my plans to watch someone else's..that's the most retarded thing I've ever heard of.."uhm yeah, so my kids are all somewhere else tonight..you think you could bring yours over for me to take care of?"

I wish he hadn't caught me so off gaurd..I just didn't know what to say b/c he's so stupid, he can't even get a hint..or tell that I was SEVERELY P*SSED!
UGGGGGGGHHHHH I WANT TO SCRATCH HIS EYEBALLS OUT!

What should I do??????????????

~Roo'sMama~ replied: That's a bummer! I don't know what you should do... I would have done the same thing. I'm always getting caught off guard and can't say no! I hope you figure it out ~ sorry I'm no help.

ferocity302 replied: I'm so sorry hun, it's happened to me too.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: OH NO!!!!!! I'd call back and tell him "Hey, I can't cancel my plans...SORRY! See ya tomorrow!"

TeagansMom609 replied: Ha! I would have said, well sorry, Ive got plans, and I said I would watch him tommorrow and thats that! Sorry you got stuck sitting at home, thats a real bummer.

Jamison'smama replied: DON'T CANCEL YOUR PLANS!! Okay, didn't mean to yell No way, they can't just change their plans and expect you to drop everything. You set a date with them, scheduled other things and if this babysitting swap is going to work, you have to keep to your original plans---would you expect her to drop everything and watch your kids in the same situation?

gr33n3y3z replied:
I would do the same lol
Since you did talk to your SI about this

MommyToAshley replied: That is just crazy for them to change things at the last minute like that! I'd be furious.

But, I have been caught off guard many times and can't say no. My brother is infamous for calling and saying "what are you doing... wanna watch the kids" and this was before Ashley was even born. You would have thought I would learn, but I still get stuck saying yes. I wish I had more backbone when it comes to family.

ediep replied: yikes! I would be so mad too! Actually its really rude of them to expect you to watch their kids when yours aren't around. Wouldn't it be more fun to be there when tanner and Brae are there? I'd call back and see if they would just stick with the original plan of Sunday

Boys r us replied: Thanks for all of your advice/sympathy!! I needed it!!!

I was literally so shocked and furious when I was on the phone with him that I couldn't even think straight. But after I wrote this post and then sat and stewed about it and called my mom(yes I'm a big baby) and my mom said, call them back and tell them that it is ridiculous for them to expect you to babysit Chase when you don't even have your own kids. She was mad when I told her that my brother KNEW I had plans and he was still pressing for me to do it. Anyhow..I mustered up the courage to call back and talk to my SIL and I said,"What is it that you guys are doing tonight?" and she said.."oh well we didn't have any definite plans..just dinner and a movie or something..." and then I went into it with her telling her that I thought we had made plans on monday for me to watch Chase Sunday..and she was like, yeah we did..I said, well All week long, I've known that I was going to be free on a saturday night with no kids..and I have taken advantage of that and made plans. I'm sorry but I can't watch him tonight, I'll be happy to watch him tomorrow as planned.

So whew, I feel so much better!! She was actually really cool about it and said that she had told my brother all week that they were going out on Sunday and then for some reason he got it in his head that he wanted to go out tonight instead and then he said he was going to call and ask me if I would watch him tonight..and I said, "well, you know there would have been nothing wrong with him calling to ask me if I could tonight..I know sometimes plans change..and it would have been no big deal for him to SEE if I was available..and if I didn't have plans, I wouldn't have cared less if I watched him tonight or tomorrow or whenever..but he didn't call and ASK me, he called and made it seem as though we already had plans for me to watch him tonight..and basically, he didn't ASK me anything, just said ya'll we're bringing him over at 6!"

It's all worked out now..though I'm sure they're probably irritated at me!
Dee Dee..I know exactly what you mean about your brother..this same brother used to sucker me in ALL OF THE TIME to babysit for them..then everytime they asked, I just started telling them no everytime and I think they got the hint!

A&A'smommy replied: I'm glad you got it worked out sometimes guys do NOT think

uwishucudfly replied: I'm glad that everything worked out, and that you feel better!