I'm mad at my hubby - just needed to vent out

MIMommy99 wrote: okay.
My husband is in Iowa visiting his family because thats where hes from.
Well, He's suppose to stay till friday and I asked him to come home thursday.
He said hes not going to and I'm so mad at him. I feel like crap, I've got my wisdom teeth comming in. He got mad at me and hung up the phone.
I with my 6month old whos teething and crys alot now and I'm a little stressed.
I took the week off of work. I'm just really mad at him right now

MommyToAshley replied: I am sorry he wasn't more understanding, especially when you are in pain and dealing with a 6 month old!

Take this virtual frying pan, sounds like he deserves it!

I hope you are feelign better soon.

aspenblue1 replied: I am sorry that he is being that way.

I hope you feel better soon!Q

MIMommy99 replied: I think I'll take a frying pan to him when he gets home. I know he's excited to see his family but, It's no fun for me

DVFlyer replied: You've got wisdom teeth coming in? Interesting. I never knew that was an adult thing. I thought they came in much earlier. That must be a pain.

A couple of questions if you feel like answering:

Is it inconvenient (i.e. plane ticket changes etc?) for him to come home early? Is this usual behavior for him? Has it been a while since he's seen his family? What do you think is the reason he wouldn't want to come home early to you?

ammommy replied: I'm sorry you aren't feeling well and things aren't working out the way you planned. Did he say why he couldn't change his plans?

MIMommy99 replied: I thought wisdom teeth came in ealier also, Guess not for me.
They are all in except one that is starting to come in.
He's excited to see his family and hasn't seen them for awhile.
I think he knows it will be awhile till he can see them again and is trying to
stay as long as possible. He usually is very nice when I'm in pain. He usually takes care of me, but I'm sure its cause hes so happy to see his family. His brother is his best friend. I guess I'll have to rough it out. No fun for me though

A&A'smommy replied: awww I'm sorry that sucks and i do understand the stress of doing it alone ugh...(((HUGS)))

DVFlyer replied: It sounds like this is not normal behavior for him so I'd grin and bear it... this time You seem to be taking his feelings into consideration. Good for you!

PascosGirl replied:
I used to get upset with my hubby for being what I felt was inconsiderate. So one day, I decided to treat myself to a trip to the day spa. I left the kids with him (for about 9 hours) and when I returned, he was very happy to see me!

I hope you feel better though. When he gets home, you need to set aside some time for yourself.

GavinsMommy replied: Sorry he won't come home. That's a bummer especially with the teething and your wisdom teeth...

Heavenly replied: ok I'm NOT making excuses for him.

this is something my dh once said to me when I got mad because when I'd get sick, he'd work or go somewhere.

some men really think of it as ..
well what can I do ?
they don't realize (I'm NOT male bashing)
being home helps !

He might think the baby wants you more when she isn't feeling well than him.
and how can he make you feel better ?

I explained to him, every little bit helps !!
yeah he can't take the pain away.

but being alone w/ a bay, is stressful enough w/o adding that she is teething.

sorry he's made you mad.
Hopefully he'll make it up to you.

MIMommy99 replied: You know, that is very true. He said to me " what can I do if I'm there anyways?"
HE said " You'll still be in pain if I'm there or not." Men just don't understand.