I'm in shock.... - Family's reaction to new baby...

MyLuvBugs wrote: So, we sent out Valentine's to let everyone know right, and didn't hear anything for the longest time. Well, DH finally called his mom, and she was excited just hadn't been home to get the mail. Ok I understand that.

So, since his sister lives with their parents still, I totally expected to get an email from her.......NOTHING, so I sent her an email yesterday afternoon asking if she got her Valentine.....

She finally writes back a couple hours ago saying... "Yeah, thanks. Oh and congrats. Hope Steven (DH) gets a job soon".

WTH?

But then I get one from MY sister whom I'm totalllly NOT close to, and she's TOTALLY excited to have another cousin for her kids to play with, and just kept going on about how happy she is for us.

Are pigs flying? Is the devil wearing ice skates? WTH? THe one sister I didn't expect to hear anything from showers us with good wishes, and the one sister I expected to be happy for us, is all blah about it, making a crappy remark about my husbands job situation. I'm so confused.

mckayleesmom replied: Erika...are you and your husband happy about it? Then thats all that matters....ignore the negative..you can live without it.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I agree with Brianne...but I do find it rude how your SIL put that. It's quite judgemental of her...sorta like my BF's recent comment to me about whether we'll be okay having a second child? Don't let it get you down sweetie. A baby is a blessing regardless of what's going on in your lives (job or no job)...some people unfortunately don't always see that. Your SIL has a lot to learn IMO!

jacobsmama replied: I agree you don't need the negativity but I would be upset too.

kimberley replied: ITA dont let anyone rain on your happy time

Bee_Kay replied: All that matters is how you and your DH feel about it.... that's it !!! If you're happy, then to heck with her reaction!

A&A'smommy replied: thats odd!!! I would um be really confused too!!!

coasterqueen replied: Could they just be worried about your situation and afraid to really say the truth and so they are avoiding talking to you about it?

I know when my cousin was in a difficult situation and got pg there were not a lot of happy campers in our family. People have a hard time seeing the good in something, you know.

I say as long as you and your Dh is happy, who cares what others think. Seriously, people find something wrong in everything. Everyone was excited that we were pg a second time, but not excited when they found out we were having another girl. You can't please everyone, only someone......yourself....your DH.

C&K*s Mommie replied: ITA with Brianne, and everyone else. l

Mom2BNTN replied: I wouldn't worry too much about what my family thought as long as my husband and I were happy about the pregnancy. It may be difficult to be very happy right now due to your husbands job loss, but things do happen for a reason so believe that and keep the faith that everything will work out the very best for you both in the end. Your families will eventually come around and be just as happy as you are right now!!!

~Roo'sMama~ replied: Hmm I thought I replied to this before. I must be going crazy.

I'm sorry not everyone is excited as you are. I'd be hurt and confused, too. Even if they mean well, it still burns. I hope they come around soon!

CAMSMOM1 replied: Oh I know how you feel. When I "thought" I was pg, last month, all my Mom could say to me is, "I hope your not pregnant, you are to overweight, you need to lose weight before your second baby!"

If it's not money, it's your weight, your marriage, your house......they always will find something negative to comment on, and why it's not the right timing.

I have learned all to well, that you can't please everyone. I can assure you, even if your DH had a good paying job, that your SIL or someone else wouldn't have the reaction you wanted. It's sad that people have to be like that, but there's always one in every family/friends.

Like everyone else said, you and your husband are happy. And there is no such thing as an accident, when it comes to being pregnant. God has a plan for your life, and your baby's. He will provide for you, and take any burden from you.

Don't worry about things you can't control. I'm sure once you're SIL sees her new niece/nephew, she'll be just as excited as you are.

MyLuvBugs replied:
I totally agree. Babies are a total blessing, and DH and I are extastic about this baby. I just posted this b/c I was totally amazed by how wrong I was on the reactions from our sisters. It was like total opposite of what I was thinking. KWIM?

I know that some of them are probably worried, I'm one of them. I want him to have a job too. But, I wouldn't change having this baby for anything. And you're SOOOOOOO right about my SIL having a lot to learn.

MamaJAM replied: I'm sorry that the sister you are close to is being such a twit about your pregnancy.
But to your other sister for realizing how WONDERFUL it is to have a new family memeber on the way.

luvmykids replied: I'm glad your other sister suprised you with her happy reaction. I know it shouldn't matter what everyone else thinks but it's still a big fat bummer! Hope they catch up and get excited for you, if it helps at all WE are all excited for you!