I'm having a crappy day.

~Roo'sMama~ wrote: Dh has been super down about something for a couple of days, partly because he hates his job and can't quit because there isn't anything else that would pay the bills, and I think the other part is because we're broke and he's worried about it. But whenever he's depressed it makes ME depressed, and today he left for work 2 hours early so he could take pictures on the way (he's got a really nice camera and wants to get into photography) but part of me is thinking he just wanted to get out of the house.
Plus the house is a disaster and I was going to clean today, but I think my morning sickness is coming back - either that or the *flu* I had a few days ago is really hanging on. I was gagging while trying to clean up the kitchen, and I'm just feeling really queasy and dizzy.
Sorry I just needed to vent... Dh won't be home for another 9 and a half hours and I'm going to go absolutely mad.

coasterqueen replied: ((HUGS)) Sara. I'm having a crappy day too but mine is just pg blues. Sorry your day is going this way.

Do you think your DH is just getting "cold feet" because he will be the breadwinner and you will be staying home after this baby is born? I could only imagine having to bear that burden alone and it would terify me. Shoot it terrifies DH and I about bearing the burden together being able to pay the bills and afford children.

Maybe sitting down and getting him to talk about it might make him feel better and in turn make you feel better.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Awwww! Sweetie. I've been there so many times. Maybe you should cook a nice meal and just straighten up the house a bit. He doesn't have to know you didn't deep clean. Sometimes they just like when it looks 'neat.'

I hope your day gets better! Scotty won't be home for 6 or more hours. It makes the day long. Pop in a good movie and relax for a little bit.

texasp3 replied: Here's to crappy days! Okay... trying for a little humor, hoping it isn't falling flat like the rest of my day is!

Ugh... Gabriel ruined my sleep last night, I've had a splitting head ache all day, he REFUSED to take a morning nap even though he was so tired everything made him fuss.. after using every trick I've learned he finally went to sleep a little after NOON. I started my diet the same day my period hit (BAD planning) ... and I'm so blue about everything I can hardly hold my head up.

I know it's just a day... I just need some sleep (haven't had unbroken sleep in over a year) and to get past this hormonal day... but ugh! As I told a friend this morning.. sometimes being a girl just sucks.

And I miss my DH... he's been gone 2 weeks and won't be home until Friday night. Most days I'm FINE with our long distance thing we've got going... but on days like today, the thought of him NOT coming home at the end of the day really makes me want to BAWL.

Boys r us replied: Oh hun! I'm so sorry you're having a bad day!

I know when I am upset or feeling blue, I like to get out of the house too. I t doesn't have anything to do with not wanting to be around DH, just I need to get out and be alone. SO try not to take it personally that DH left for work early!

mammag replied: Oh, I'm sorry! I know how you feel. When dh is down I get down also. As far as the house... I agree, maybe just tidy up. When I was pg and having a hard time I'd do 15mins in one room then go lay down for 15 and then repeat that until the house looked tidier. You could even do 5/15 whatever you can manage. You'd be surprised by what you can do in 5 mins. The deep cleaning can wait.

I hope both of your spirits are up soon.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: Thanks... at least I know I'm not alone!
I am going to try to make the house tidier - my problem is I let it go so long that it takes a lot of work to just get it tidy without doing any deep cleaning.
Karen I've wondered if maybe Dh is starting to get scared about supporting me and a baby by himself. He definitely doesn't want me to work after the baby is born but it might still be worrying him. I tried talking to him before he left today, but he tends to clam up and not tell me what's really going on.
So I guess I'll just try to make the house look half way decent and then watch a movie and drown my sorrows in a big bowl of ice cream.

5littleladies replied: ((((Hugs)))))Sara-Sara!! I'm sorry you are having a hard day. I know how hard it is for you when Scott is down, but I don't think it will last long-it usually doesn't. And for the time being, take care of yourself, try and get the house picked up-I know, Yippie , but I really think you would feel better if you did, and if you need to get out of the house you know you can always come over here. Most importantly though-try and pray for Scott. God can do more for him than anyone can.

coasterqueen replied:
((HUGS)) Sara.

I am thankful my Dh is a big help with the housecleaning or ours would be too much to clean.

Men do tend to clam up and I don't know your DH well, but to me it seems that talking to him if at some point might help reassure him that you are supporting him. KWIM? Like maybe just saying "hey I know this is going to be very difficult and a lot of burden on you and I just want to let you know I'm here for you and am supporting you while you financially support us.". KWIM? It might make him feel less pressure knowing that you are there for him too. I'm sure you do but sometimes men need a good swift hit to the noggin to get them to understand it. At least with my Dh that can be the case, lol.

~Roo'sMama~ replied:
Thanks... you're right. I can't believe I didn't think to pray for him... I guess I was just wrapped up in the thought that it's my fault that he's down.
I hope you're right and this doesn't last long!

Maddie&EthansMom replied:
This is so true! It is so wonderful to pray for your spouse. When Scotty is having a bad day/week/month (car business ) I tell him I'm sorry he is going thru a rough time. When he has assured me it is nothing I have done, I tell him "I am praying for you." or "I'll say a little prayer that your day goes better." It is like music to his ears. It reminds him (if anything) that God is ALWAYS in control of the situation and he immediately feels better.

I'll say a little prayer for you, too Sara.

loveydad replied: Sorry Sara! FEel better!

Emilysmom_709 replied: Feel better soon