I'm annoyed with the twins' teacher

luvmykids wrote: Maybe I'm too sensitive but I think she's mean and can't figure out why she's a Kindy teacher

The first few days of school she barked at the kids a lot and was kind of sarcastic...teaching them to line up she'd say "That's not a line, does that look like a line to you?" or "Excuse me, whose class are you in? Mine? Then get with the class and stop daydreaming" and things like that...she just has a "tone" I don't like, kwim? But I ignored it because I thought she was just trying to lay down the law right off the bat.

Anyway, our pears are ripe and we picked a ton last night. Colt wanted to take her one today. He put it on her desk and when she saw it she said (in her usual snotty way) "Ummmm, what is this?" Colt told her it was one of our pears and that he would have brought an apple but they aren't ripe yet. She just stared at him for a second and said "Ooooooookey dokey" and put it back down. Didn't say thank you or anything. Maybe she doesn't like pears but GEEZE lady!

I guess I just expect Kindy teachers to like kids and she doesn't seem to, it's not just mine, she's like that with all of them and they all look at her with that little bit of uncertainty, kwim? It just really bugs me

MommyToAshley replied: I don't blame you for being annoyed, angry, and concerned. I'm sorry.

I don't understand why people like that teach kids. Is it too late to request that they transfer to a different teacher? I think Kindergarten is so important... it sets the tone and I think has a lot to do with whether or not kids will like school

grapfruit replied: Oh man, I would be mad. That's the worse kind of person. Those are the kind of people that can squelsh learning forever. If they were a little older I'd say alright ignore it, but not at this age. I agree, step up and say something.

And for the record if somebody said that to me in that tone, I'd tell them off. I'm such a nice person.

Insanemomof3 replied: Geez, I would be asking for a new teacher. I hate people who are like that with kids...quit daydreaming? its a kid for goodness sake! And we spend time teaching kids manners, they learn by example...if the teacher doesn't say thank you what is that telling the kids?

grapfruit replied:
And it's the ones that daydream most often are the most imaginative, creative and intelligent. Who knows what adventure that child is having. Yes, they need to learn to channel that to learning, but don't stomp out the day dreaming...

luvmykids replied:
Yup, it's too late because the other class is full and they won't swap the kids from the other class, they'll only move them if space is available. The kids seem to like her ok, I don't want to put stuff in their heads so I haven't made a big deal about it with them but I've asked if they think she's mean or nice and they say nice. I asked if she yells at the kids, etc and they say no.

It's strange because parents of older kids who had her have said she's a good teacher, just not warm and fuzzy. But to me it's not just a matter of warm n fuzzy, she seems annoyed all the time.

I'm going to ask some of their classmates parents if they've gotten the same impression, I've just been waiting to get to know them a little better so I don't get myself in trouble

grapfruit replied: So where do you hear how she talks to them? She's like that when you're around? Is she old?

DansMom replied: I wouldn't like what you describe at all. I have seen teachers use sarcasm as a teaching tool, but I think it works better with older kids. The pear thing alone is bad to me---Daniel's feelings would have been hurt, I'm sure. Maybe kids get used to her style, and maybe she's both edgy and fun, but I can totally see your concern.

lovemy2 replied: Oh Mon - that stinks - for sure a Kindy teacher but ANY teacher IMO should probably like kids.....poor Colt - was he devastated?? Anyone you can talk to about it at the school?

luvmykids replied:
I'm at the school a lot...I hang around for a few minutes when I drop them off, eat lunch with them about once a week plus I'm on the PTO so I stick my head out of the office when I hear them going to recess, etc.

She's young, I'd guess her late 20's?

I took Colt his lunch today b/c he didn't want what they were serving...she had the pear with her so I guess she was going to eat it I asked Colt if she said she likes pears or doesn't and he said she told him she was going to have it for lunch. I don't know if she ever said thank you though

eta: Colt didn't seem nearly as bothered as I was, I think like Tracey said the kids have maybe gotten used to her, that might be why they don't think she's mean, they just realize she is how she is maybe?

I've wondered too if she's just high strung, she always seems rushed or stressed. They have a jam packed schedule and I'm sure it's not easy to get all those slow pokes moving sometimes but it's the same for all the teachers and they seem a whole lot nicer, kwim?

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Personally Monica, I think K teachers SHOULD be warm and fuzzy! That should be a requirement of being a K teacher if you ask me. *sigh*...I'm sorry she is this way. She probably is a good teacher, but she should not be a K teacher from what you described. Kindergarten is a grade all it's own. Sounds like she should be teaching middle school, not Kindergarten!!! She's probably use to having older kids...is this her first year teaching K? I know when some teachers start teaching the older kids they have a hard time coming down to a younger child's level if they switch grades. That's the only thing I can think of. Kindergarteners need that warm and fuzziness their first year of school though. Perhaps she'll get better once the school year gets going more. Not saying thank you would have bugged the tarp out of me. How hard is it to say thank you??? Shouldn't she be a proper role model for proper manners? GRRR. I hope she gets better, I'd be annoyed if this was Tanner's teacher. Thank God he has a really bubbly and warm&fuzzy teacher.

A&A'smommy replied: um omg!!!! She should be a high school teacher she is WAY too mean to those little kids.. and a class of high school students would put her in her place!!!!!


Poor Colt she could have at LEAST said thank you!!!

Brias3 replied: That does seem to be odd personality characteristics of a kindergarten teacher and trust me, I'd feel the same way as you. Ryan's first grade teacher was similar to this- the kids liked her alot, but I always felt she kinda had a bug up her butt about something!

I'd say just stick it out- as long as the kids are ok with her. However, I'd feel very inclined to see what others opinions of her are as well!

ediep replied: I would be upset too, I also feel Jasons T1 teacher is a bit condesending and even a bit unfair. His kindergarten teacher was soooo sweet and kind though.

jacobsmama replied: I would also be upset..Kindergarten is their first year in big kid school. That experience should be awesome. If she is making it any less than awesome, she doesn't deserve to be teaching those small children.

JMO.

Calimama replied:
That's what I was going to say. Kindergartners are SO young still. Save the sarcastic comments and cold tone for the 9th graders who don't appreciate warm and fuzzy.

luvmykids replied: This is an old post But thanks for backing me up

I'm thrilled with their teacher this year....she's very old fashioned in the sense she's no nonsense and very firm but in such a loving way. She's one of the rare teachers that truly inspires the kids to want to do their best

jcc64 replied: I was scratching my head reading this thread, thinking aren't Monica's kids out of kindy by now???? And then when I saw a post from Dan's mom, who hasn't been here in forever, I realized it was a yr old. How do threads like this regenerate, I've always wondered?
And curiously, how did the year play out for the twins, Monica?

Jamison'smama replied: Oh how funny. I read all the way through this...it also seemed familiar to me, especially the fruit part. Almost one year ago exactly. Then I agree, I almost posted a second thread to Tracy (dan's mom) excited to see her back.

How did they end up liking Kindergarten and how did that teacher turn out to be?

luvmykids replied: They ended up doing very well, their teacher never really improved though. She had started making some rotten comments toward the end of last year "I am SO outta here", "I should NOT be teaching small children", "I am beyond burned out" but alas, she is back again to initiate another class of Kindy's A little birdie told me the office got more complaints about her than any teacher in the schools' history....it was a little disheartening to see how little good that did

I think most of the kids really tuned her out. At the end of the year I saw a lot of eye rolling and shoulder shrugging from most of the kids in the class and not many of them greet her now when they run into her in the halls or lunchroom.

Calimama replied:
Oh man I didn't even notice the date.