I think I want another baby

jacobsmama wrote: I have really been thinking about it alot lately. DH says that he is ready when I am but I'm not sure I am. I really wanted to lose weight first but I'm not sure that is going to happen quickly

My cousin had a babygirl who is now 2 months old and I love holding her! It makes my heart beat fast and my belly do flips.

Does this mean I am ready?

The only reason I would say i'm not is because I will be a SAHM after our 2nd baby and I"m not sure I"m ready for that??? KWIM? Also Sometimes I feel overwhelmed with 1 and to think having 2???

I think I really want a baby.

~~*Missi*~~ replied: are you really ever ready to have a baby.... meaning no matter how great of mothers we are we are still going to worry and have doubt. Be overwhelmed. I know I would love to have a baby right now on top of Sabrina.

Only you can know when you are ready. Holding a baby has always made my heart race and belly do flips.... Just give it time... don't try but don't prevent when it happens it happens....

HTH

jacobsmama replied: that is a good Idea to not prevent. It took me abou 7 months with Jacob so maybe I should. thanks I know I'm ready just don't know if I"m ready?? KWIM

~~*Missi*~~ replied: yes yes i know what you mean!

since sabrina we have "left it in god's hands". We don't prevent but we don't Try. Well we practice LOL just i don't chart etc....

it took me 2 yrs with sabrina and then I got preggo twice quick since her that didn't end well (obviously)...
this way if you don't prevent and in 6m or so nothing has happened you can seek a doc's advice.

your son is how old? Sabrina is 16m and I think she will be at a good age to welcome another addition. Not to long has she been the "only" one and she will be into preschool and playgroups by time a new one comes along that she won't be so occupied with the baby. Ya know

CAMSMOM1 replied:

OMG...I really did a double take when I read your post! I swore that was me writing that! I have the same exact feelings you do right now.

My brother just had a baby, she's 2.5 months old now. Everytime I hold her I just melt. I think it would so great to have another baby, especially a little girl. And my maternial instincts kick in when I'm holding her, and I think...I could do this! And then I get home with Cam and he throws a fit or something, and I wonder...maybe I'm not ready!

And then I have the same issue about my weight. I really, really, really wanted to lose weight first before I get pg again. I need to lose a good 50 pounds, at least, before I get pregnant. I just don't want to be overweight and pregnant. I want to be able to enjoy my pregnancy, and not worry about any health risks with it. But like you said, it can take awhile, and I'm not sure if I'm willing to wait either.

And I would probably have to be a SAHM too. I'm like 50/50 on that. A part of me wants that, and another part of me would miss my job and independance. But there's no way we could afford double daycare costs. But then I think about how nice it would be staying home with 2 kids.

As you can see, I'm going through the same thing! I feel so torn about it. But, Justin & I are not on birth control. Like Missi said, we aren't TTC but we're not preventing either. I feel that when it's God's timing, it'll happen. I just feel like I need so much to do first. But then I see my niece and I want to try ASAP! LOL!

jacobsmama replied: Ann I think we have alot more in common then we know! haha

Thanks for sharing with me, I'm glad someone understands my madness

CAMSMOM1 replied: jacobs

I know!!! I was thinking that when I read your reply to my post on the relationship board. Then I came on here and read your post and thought...wow...we're two peas in a pod right now! It's comforting to hear someone else is going through the same thing with me. Thanks for writing & sharing this post!

Ann

CosmetologyMommy replied: My son is only 6 months and I am ready. I guess the big reason is because my siblings and I are very far apart in age and I had a hard time being close with them. My sister is 7! So I want my kids to have that close bond. And daycare is very expensive! I had Aidan in daycare while finishing cosmetology school and for 4 days a week it cost us $295! I think that everyone is right, do no prevent and I hope you get another little miracle. Have you asked your son if he wants a baby brother or sister?

C&K*s Mommie replied: BEST WISHES!!

jacobsmama replied:
He turned 2 end of January!

Cosmetology mom--
We have asked him and he says yeah sissy but i'm not sure if that is just b/c of my new cousins baby or not. He did love and hug on her abby and didn't get jealous but that is just an hour or so at time.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I can certainly understand your reservations. There is no harm in thinking things thru, but imo the more you think about it, the more you can talk yourself out of it. kwim?

I dont' think we are ever truly 'ready' for kids. Something will always come up if we try to plan for them. Both of my kids were planned, and yet all I could think when I saw that line on the pg test was "I'm not ready for this!!" Scotty was less ready than I ever could have been. We'd still be waiting if it were up to him. Of course when the babies arrived I knew it was meant to be and I couldn't imagine life without them from that moment on. And neither could Scotty.

I think you are being very smart about it. Are you ready to stop working? Are you ready to have two kids? How will Jacob handle it? How independent will he be and can you handle 2 kids who aren't very independent.....

Good luck with whatever you decide. I know you'll have a beautiful baby when and if you do decide to add to your family

booey2 replied: Well I could have written your post say about 5 years ago when we decided it was time for #2. I too had weight to lose and knew it would take a long time to do it so we decided I could work on it after the next child and I am still working on it. I agree that we never "think" we will be ready but I believe you are only given what you can handle - with that said, go for it and have fun trying.

My3LilMonkeys replied: ITA with the others - don't prevent and see what happens!

Bee_Kay replied: I also go through things where I would love to have another baby.

My dh and I decided years ago that we had enough children (money was tighter back then) and we chose for him to get a vasectomy.

There are times when we really regret that decision though and I wonder what it would have been like to have another child

If you are comfortable with the decision to not use any protection, the I definately say GO FOR IT

Crystalina replied: I am also in your boat! I want another really bad but by butt is so huge right now and that's pretty much what's holding me up. The way I'm going now I'll never have another one if I'm waiting on losing weight. I don't know what to do.

kayla's mama replied: ITA with everyone else.....If it happens it happens and it was meant to be.

I am catching baby fever and I really want another but I'm still trying to talk Jason into it

na81 replied: I know I'm the newbie here, but when I read your message I had to write. I was in your boat a couple of months ago. My daughter had just turned a year old and I was ready for #2 and we discussed it and he said he was ready if I was. Well, I wasn't too sure because I still had 45 lbs. to lose. However, we decided if it happened it happened, we weren't going to try, but we weren't gonna prevent (like the others said). Well, guess what? I just found out that we are gonna have baby #2!!! At first I was upset because I don't want to be that "fat", but now I see how happy he is and it makes me excited!!! I say do what feels right, if you are ready, go for it and have fun trying!!!! As someone on here told me a couple of days ago, you will have plenty of time to lose the weight after the second baby is born-you will be chasing one and taking care of the other! Whatever you decide, I wish you the best of luck!!!! I am looking forward to hearing what happens- will be waiting!!

jacobsmama replied: Thanks everyone! I think that I"m going to finish out the BC i'm on and then see what happens Thanks for all the support! I think Jacob is ready to be a big brother!

NEWMOM05 replied: I probably won't help the baby fever when you see my siggy, but I agree with everyone else don't prevent and see what happens. It took us 8 months after we stopped preventing and now we have our first. Good luck and share the news when you are.


Peggy