I think I like Dh's new plan - about moving

mckayleesmom wrote: Dh called me a couple minutes ago and asked if I would like to go live by my mom in Arizona...get an apartment or something. See...the new job that dh is getting is only for 1 year. During his year there he will be gone 2 weeks..back 4...gone 2...back 4...because he will be traveling all over the US teaching other recruiting stations how to get better at recruiting. He gets to keep the frequent flier miles. So he can use alot of them to come to Arizona for most of those 4 days off. Plus I could get a job and have my sister babysit for free. This will allow us to save money up. Right now we live paycheck to paycheck because we pay way tooo much out of pocket for this house. Our BAH is almost a thousand dollars here and we still pay out of pocket. My mom even offered to let me talk to her landlord about staying at her place and her moving to her boyfriends. She was planning to move anyways and her rent is only 300...thats alot of savings especially if I get a job.

mammag replied: Sounds like a plan! $300!!! That's great! Keep us posted on what you decide.

mckayleesmom replied: I will keep everyone updated. I know it sounds bad that we won't be living in the same state, but right now its like Im a single parent. He goes to work at 6 or 7 in the morning and rarely gets off before 9:30 sometimes midnight before he gets home. The 8 days a month will be more then I see him in a year. I know that he knows my family will help me and the past 2 years he has felt guilty and stressed about me being at home alone with the kids. I think its also a way for him to get some peace of mind knowing Im safe by my family if something happens while he is out of town. My gallbladder incident really shook him up.

mammag replied: I'm sure it will be fine. Both of my sisters have been seperated from their husbands for a year and did fine. I hope he gets to visit often.

My2Beauties replied: So this means you won't be moving near me ???

Well it sounds as if it's definitely for the best! I say go for it!

mckayleesmom replied: Im pretty sure I will still get to meet you sometime LeAnne. Im sure that at least once I will leave the kids with a relative and go visit my hubby....

atlantamomof2 replied: That's sounds like a wonderful plan!! I hope your move goes well.

kimberley replied: that sounds like a great idea! good luck with the move!

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Actually, we did something similar and it worked out great for us. Marie (TexasP3) also lives in a separate state from her DH and it actually works out better for them than if he lived at home. Like your DH, mine works late as well. So, in some ways it is easier not to have to worry about cooking, picking up after one more, kwim? That sounds awful, I missed him terribly and we WERE able to see each other on the weekends, but you get what I"m saying.

I say go for it!

mckayleesmom replied: Thats another thing,,,with the new job..he won't even be in the same state most of the time.

loveydad replied: Sounds like a great deal!

Boys r us replied: I think that sounds liek a GREAT plan!!!!! I hope it all works out for you brianne!!

Kaitlin'smom replied: sounds liek it mgiht be better for you to have family close than to be alone ina a new state with your DH gone all the time, and you can always visite each other oh and get cell phones with no long distance and free family talk that way you can talk all the time its how I fell in love with my DH we talked all the time on the phone when we were dating

Best of luck and hope what ever you decide htat it goes well