I need to vent for a min - MIL comment on Facebook

3xsthefun wrote: Ok, now I think I know why some people don't have their mother or mom in law as a friend on FB.

I had a thing on my face book that said " i wish i had my toes in the water and a$$ in the sand with a could beer in my hand." Well my friend, hubby and sis in law made a some comments last night. I was kind of playing around nothing to stupid I thought.
I did say a cuss word Yeah bad, bad me.

Anyways, my mother in law may a comment this is what she said.
Ought to be ashamed to write on here the way you and Tracie are doing. If your kids said those words they would get there mouth washed out with soap. Shame Shame That goes for Tracie too.

Do you think she is right? I don't think she should of said that to me. Talking to me like I am here kid. After all I am a adult. I just feel she should of not said anything if she did not like we said.

I'm trying really hard to keep my mouth shut. Because I really do like her and all.
Maybe I should just delete the whole thing.

Sorry. edited take out the bad word.

bluebear replied: I assume it wasn't said negatively. Adults and children say different things.

I wouldn't worry about it.

boyohboyohboy replied: I saw your post and I didnt think there was anything crude about the way it was written.
I think your MIL shouldnt be your friend..I dont have family as friends on my list..however that being said, since she is your MIL and she isnt going to agree no matter what you say, I think since it bothered her I would delete it, but I would also say something to her ..maybe that it might not be a good idea to be friends on there if your statements upset her??

I thought it was fine.

A&A'smommy replied: I have seen MUCH worse on fb... I would just blow it off. Do you have any kids on your fb? if not then your talking to a bunch of a adults and you have the right to use adult words!!!

amymom replied: It is difficult to read someone's 'tone' in the written word, that is the danger of chats, IM's, texts and FB. She may have said it in jest. not sure.

All in all though, I would just delete it.

youngmomofone replied: I would delete it and her . I know that using the word a$$ is offensive to some, but I think that the way you wrote it, it was innocently used! Sheesh.

I had dh's cousins and two of his sisters on my myspace before I deleted it, and I hated not being able to say what I was really thinking because I didn't want them to run off and tell on me.

I do have a FB now and don't have any pictures or identifying information on there (because of dh's civilian and military jobs, he doesn't want me to ever post any pics; plus I have ppl from hs on there who hasn't seen me since then and Im too embarrassed to show my fat a$$ on there) to where more than likely they wouldn't know it was me. It feels nice to be able to post whatever the heck I want without worrying someone would take it the wrong way and run off and "tell" on me (his family are bunch of tattletales; mil would call him and b*tch him out if I said anything bad "ONLINE").

Swood75 replied: I don't see a problem with it (It is a GOOD song!!!) if it were me,I would leave it..You are an adult and can say/do whatever you want.. If someone has a problem with it then they can just get over it..That is just the way I am though..LOL..My mouth tends to get me into trouble sometimes

Boys r us replied: Oh good grief!!! and ya know..I've been faced with what to do when certain people add me as friends...do you ignore it and hurt their feelings or add them and feel like you have to watch everything you say. I have some ultra conservative christian friends(nothing wrong with that...otherwise I wouldn't be their friends irl) but while I consider myself a christian, I am far from conservative..so it definitely makes me get a little antsy about what I say. However, I just decided, this is MY page..like it or don't..not my problem! If I offend you by my choice of wording..then defriend me!

mom21kid2dogs replied: You can always suggest that she hide any comment from anyone she finds offensive. Many older people aren't aware they can do that. I have a couple of friends that I hide because our computer is in a public space in our home and they aren't appropriate for O to see.

My2Beauties replied: All I have to say is I would hate for her to see my status updates!!! I have a potty sailor mouth! It's my page so i can say what I want, I'd say something I don't think there is anything wrong with what you said. To me a$$ is not an offensive word. You didn't drop the "f" bomb on her! Boy I sure do that so like I said, I'd hate for her to se emy page LMAO!

coasterqueen replied: I saw that! I was wondering if she was being "scolding" or kidding. Ah, just ignore it.

I have to be careful what I say on my page because I have board members as friends. I didn't want them to be, but they asked and I felt cornered to say yes. Lets just hope they never figure out I'm on here during the day.


((HUGS)) and just ignore her.

3xsthefun replied: I think she was actually getting on to me. It really did get me fired up last night.
I really don't want to say anything to her. But I just keep thinking who is she to say what I can write on my wall.

I have decided I'm not going to delete. If she does not like it then I'm sorry.

I know she has never heard me cuss in front of her before. But geesh she didn't have to call me out on it.


Edit to add, I really like that song to. But I don't think that is part she was talking about. It was the comment I made to my sis in law about Rob.

If she does say anything else I will block her from reading my wall.

Maddie&EthansMom replied:
I've had this same problem. And I'm pretty conservative.

Someone will always have a problem with what you do or say. The only way to avoid that is to say nothing at all and well....

What bugs me is the friends who put their kids on there that are 8 and 9 years old and then ask you to "friend them." I was afraid of saying something about Santa Claus this Christmas--not knowing if they still believed in him.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: I wouldn't delete your post, but I would probably delete the comment she made. It would bug me too... it's not her place to tell you how to talk, and your kids don't see it because they're too young to be on fb.



Oh I know Aimee that bugs me too!! I had a friend request from an 11 or 12 year old and I am not going to add her because I don't want to watch what I say all the time! I don't really use bad language on my page but I still don't want to have to be careful of what I say on there because a 12 year old might see it.