I need to vent......

nashsmommy wrote: Okay, I am so upset right now....

My mil is so annoying.........We have told her right from the time she found out I was pregnant (or my DH has told her) that he does not want anything second hand when it comes to certain things for Nash.....(he doesn't mind second hand clothes) He means stuff like high chair, crib etc.
Okay we haven't got Nash's big boy yet....we put his mattress on the floor to let him get used to no crib.........We told her the other day that we were ordering his race car bed this week........She just showed up here about an hour ago with a PLASTIC bed she bought for 20 dollars........I mean this thing won't even hold his mattress...let alone him.
So I politly told her no thanks and to keep it at her place for him when he comes over......and that Nash's race car bed will be here in a few days........
She flipped out at me.......Told me I'm spending all of Marks hard earned money.....and that she'll throw the bed away before she'll put it in her house. She made the comment that Nash has enough stuff at her house that there is no more room for a bed....
OKAY IF I'M NOT MISTAKEN HE HAS 2 TRUCKS & A TABLE OVER THERE...........SHE HAS A THREE BED ROOM HOUSE AND A BASEMENT.......NO MORE ROOM MY A**.......

Sorry but I was angry......Feel better now I got it out.........

gonna add that the plastic bed was very very flimsy............it wasn't heavy plastic

kimberley replied: yikes! sorry she was so rude to you. i am sure she meant well but her comments were uncalled for. i am starting to thing all grandmas are nuts

nashsmommy replied: Oh she did mean well....(In her own way).....This is the thing she does......we say were going to buy him something.......she goes off her head.
Like the car seat incident.....we bought a new one she wanted us to buy a car seat off her cousin for 25 dollars......the car seat was almost 10 years old......when it comes to a childs safety I'm not fooling with that.
When she saw that we DID buy a NEW car seat she never spoke to us for a week...............The best week I ever had.


I just spoke to my FIL.......He said she put the bed out on the side of the road to be picked up in the morning by the town. I mean come off of it, she new we were ordering his bed.
Another thing about my MIL, She'd pinch a penney if she could.

I love her dearly but, theres times I'd like to shake her.

mammag replied: Well, heck, if she doesn't want it in her house why would she insist that you should want it in hers.

My MIL used to do stuff like this. Once she bought the kids those big rocking horses on the springs we had way back when. They were huge and took up so much space but I took them so she wouldn't feel bad. Well, we recently threw them out (5yrs later) and she got all bothered. She wasn't mean about it but I can tell it hurt her feelings. I told her she could keep them at her house and she didn't want to so .........

A&A'smommy replied: OMG what a &)(*)(* I'm telling you our guys mothers have it out for us Don't feel bad about not wanting second hand stuff we decided that we didn't want to do that either except that sometimes we had too when there was no money for what we needed anyway I'm glad you stood up and said no he deserves to have a cool big boy bed!!

loveydad replied: See my mother is normal. She's a little strict and old fashioned, but it's my wife's mother who's insane. (she hates me)

atlantamomof2 replied: Sorry you have to deal with that kind of rudeness from his own grandmother! I can understand being thrifty, but let other people do what they want! I think it would have been nice of her to keep it at her house for him. The CURB?!?! Come on....

gr33n3y3z replied: thats why I never told anyone what and when I was buying anything

MommyToAshley replied: I am sorry she treated you that way. Maybe you will have another week of peace.

kimberley replied:
i know that feeling!

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Lol Oh my you and I could swap stories for hours I bet!!!

While I don't mind second hand stuff - like clothse, high chairs etc.... the car seat and the crib mattress we bought new. The high chair and our first stroller we pulled off the curb, washed them, recovered the material on the stroller and the plascit cushion on the high chair.... like new. and free!

Now my MIL will bring us these really grody stuffed animals...they need a wash, and a button sown on, or a tear fixed.... and the list goes on. Ew.

ANyhoo.... I can relate!

Kaitlin'smom replied: so its okay for your home but not her's ummm dont think so. how rude I am glad my mIL is not like that sure she gets stuff at yard sals for Kaitlin but it books, and cleanable toys I have never had a problem with things from her. Heck its grandpa who would spend all his money on her if he was allowed

Mandasmomma replied: I totally understand the "parent" deal right now...I have my own vent thread.

Anyway - we felt the same way - and then we were pretty lucky to have and get everything we needed before anyone did anything like that. However, we keep getting junk toys and so forth - too many ... things that are even too old for my daughter - and I cant stop it, no matter what I say, it still comes.

I feel for ya - it was rude, but I am sure she meant "well" by it - all the more reason to get fustrated when she wouldn't put it in her own home - but wanted you to keep it.

nashsmommy replied: update on the MIL.......Haven't been on in a few days ...computer trouble

Well anyways she hasn't spoken to me since......Nash's Auntie mentioned to my MIL about Nash's new bed and how nice it was, etc.
She flipped out at Auntie.......saying "I do not care about that bed and I do not wish to hear about how nice it is.......that child is being tooo spoiled and if I had custody of him he wouldn't have half of what he got"

So I tried to call her and talk to her like we were adults and not 5 year olds......she wouldn't take my calls.......if she answered she would pass the phone to my FIL.....Okay the woman is 62 years old......What is her problem.
I know she meant well by the bed thing but she also knew how me and Mark are about those things......we told her 20 times over before.

Mark came home last night and told me that his father wanted to buy Nash a tricycle.......Okay thats fine with me.......Marks mom flipped out and said "you are not buying him anything.......you have to run it by HER first." (meaning me)

So Mark is going over there after work today to try and talk with his mom........I hope it works.

Mandasmomma replied: IKES

I hope things work at quick - for HER (meaning you) sake!!

nashsmommy replied: Update on the MIL:
Okay so Mark talked to her.....her reason for not wanting to here about the bed is that she thinks we spend too much money on Nash.

For one its not her business how much money we spend but oh well.
so thats fixed for now.