I need to know what you all think - Help

Willbedone wrote: Hello all,

Wanted to ask something jsut because im not to sure about my standings.

First of all my girlfriend has an irreg. period, her last on started on the 18th of june. On the 27 of june we had unprotected sex, using the withdraw tech. We never finished do to the fact that there was what could have been a clump of sperm at my tip. To my knowledge i have never been that "WHITE" before so i assumed it was my GF. Well, just about a week before my girlfriend should have her period or so i would think she got sick, we had jsut came back from a vacation. Now today is July 21 and she hasnt had her period yet. I have been scared so i have had her take 3 tests. all three have been negative. She has also been under a lot more stress as well as still getting over being sick. Now, there are no signs of symptoms jsut her being tired from work and such. It has been 5 weeks so i dont know if i should stop worrying or what. I dont think she is, but i would like some feed back.

Let me know your opinion Please!

she doesnt use birth control or anyting like that!

RYan

CantWait replied: Well that's all it takes is a little drop, and you wouldn't have seen it if you were inside her. Precum is all it takes. I'd say until she gets it, there's still the possibility that she may be pregnant. Is she worried? If so, I'd have her go get a blood test done to rule it out. On the other hand, it could be from stress and from her being sick.

Best of luck, and hopefully if she's not pregnant this is enough of a scare to get you to be more protective.

Mommy2Isabella replied:

jcc64 replied: Based on a 30 day cycle- her period is only 3 days late as of right now. That's hardlly catastrophic- lots of things can make a period late- and right at the top of that list is stress. 3 pregnancy tests and the obvious anxiety you are both experiencing probably isn't helping to that end. If her last pd was on 6/18, she would have most likely been ovulating on or around 7/3- so the event in question probably occurred far enough before that to render pg unlikely. I don't know what that white stuff was- could it have been yeast from within her- in my experience, pre ejaculate doesn't look like a clump.
Having said that, I really need to question why you are not using any birth control if you are so afraid of conceiving. My dh and I have used the withdrawl and calendar method successfully for the duration of our 25 yr relationship- but it requires alot of discipline, care, and planning ahead. Back when I was completely unprepared to raise a child, we simply avoided having sex AT All if there was any chance I might be ovulating. If you can't live that way, this is not the method for you, and I would seriously consider other alternatiives. There's lots of info all over the web about bc- and a trip to Planned Parenthood or a dr sounds like a good idea for you guys. Good luck, and I hope everything turns out the way you want it to.

CantWait replied:
Jeanne, I have to say that was much more informative and TONS more tackful. I almost could care less lately how tackful I am. You certainly have a way with words.

ashtonsmama replied:


But you need to get on some birth control before she does get pregnant, unless you want a baby! Pulling out is NOT birth control. At all. Not going to prevent pregnancy, that's for sure! Good luck!

ashtonsmama replied:
Marie. I've been being so "speak before you think" lately, I feel bad I'm not being more sensitive, but you said it just fine!

redchief replied: I agree with the above. Ryan, do you mind my asking how old you are? If you do mind, please feel free to say so.

mamasbigbaby replied:
Ditto.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Hi Ryan! I'm glad you could come here for some advice.

My husband and I have also always used the pull out method. Even when we were dating. But we knew then just as we know now that pregnancy could result from it. So that is something we accepted every month if I was late. Fortunately, we never had any surprises from it...we actually had to try pretty hard for our first born after we were married for some time.

I was late a few times before we were married and my (now) husband was certainly scared, but excited at the same time. But he loved me and knew eventually that we would have children together. I suppose that helped ease his concerns a little.

Becoming a parent is life changing, but nothing to be afraid of. If she is pregnant, be there for her. I'm sure she's more scared than you are right now. And know that both of you had something to do with it. The "But I pulled out" line isn't a good thing to say. As the others have said, pre cum also has sperm in it. It seems like it would be so hard to get pregnant if you think about what all comes into play. But really, you just need a fertile egg and one healthy sperm and you have a baby. And the 'clump' you are referring to could very well have been cervical mucus that some experience while ovulating.

If it turns out she isn't pg...you two may want to look into other methods of birth control if you don't plan on spending your lives together or starting a family right now.

I'm not sure what to think about the tests she has taken. I say a blood test needs to be done. They can do these at the free clinic with no questions asked (if you guys are under age).

I'm also curious of your age.

mamasbigbaby replied: Yes, what is your age?

Willbedone replied: Im 20 and yes i have made countless mistakes in my life this, has been a huge eye opener, im not ready i have a handful of dreams i want to get to, not to mention i just got to USC and im excited...So this happening wont happen again jsut not having sex will be fine with me. I dont want to ruin her life nor my own. I love my Gf very much and i can deffently see me with her for the rest of my life but at this point and time i am not ready to be a father. so the answer to your age question im 20

gr33n3y3z replied:
Good idea
both of you should fill all your dreams and see where you both stand in the future
Good Luck to you both