I need advice on dd hair

mom89 wrote: Hi.
My dd is 11 and I was wondering if someone could tell me HOW I can get her to remember to brush her hair everyday? I always have to remind her everyday(especially on school days)and its quite bothersome having to do so. She has at times gone to school without brushing and she doesn't seem to care. ugh
Btw,she's part tomboy--even tho she likes to wear makeup and even wants her hair curled(haven't done that yet)but yet I always have to remind her. I've even threatned to chop her hair off real short-but of course,that doesn't work.
I'm at my wits end-help!

kimberley replied: haha i was the same way as a kid and it drove my mom nuts. we had a morning ritual hair battle. she threated to cut it off, i beat her to it and buzzed it right off (i had hair down to the bottom of my back). she was mortified and i eventually grew it back. good luck i hope you figure something out.

5littleladies replied: You probably just need to keep remind her everyday. A pain in the rear I know but I remember being that age and thinking that brushing my hair was just a waste of my time. My mom had to constantly remind me. And there was nothing tomboyish about me. She will hit an age where she will just do it on her own and it's probably not too far around the corner.

5littleladies replied:
Holy cow Kimberly!!! You sure had guts! I'd love to see a picture of that!

mckayleesmom replied: Maybe have someone watch your kids...an older teenage girl perhaps and have her do some primping with your daughter...My little sister was like that and she didn't change until I started helping her instead of making fun of her.....My mom did the chopping the hair thing too,,but it still didn't work...She is now really girly. Shes 20 now and she didn't grow out of it till she was about 16.

mom89 replied: LOL! Yea I forgot to mention I was the same way-ha! a taste of my own medicine
She will,btw brush it when she's say,going to her friends house=cause she KNOWS it has to be done if she wants to go.

mom89 replied: LMAO Kimberley!!!!!

mckayleesmom replied: sometimes an outside older girls influence can help too.

mom89 replied: Hmm..an older girls influence...but we don't know anybody!!! OK,going out to track down a teen right now

MichaelsMommy replied: I have 11 yr old daughters too. One of them is very vain and brushes
all the time - the other.. not so much. I found that she was not brushing
her hair becuase she would rather not deal with the pain of the tangles -
it wasn't that she was really forgetting. Since then I have bought detangle
spray and some new /easier/ brushes and she has gotten better about.
Other than that all I can suggest is to say on her, the constant reminders
will start to stick into a a habit soon.

kileyjae replied: Well, DS2 spend more time perfecting his hair style than I do! LOL

All good suggestions. I know when I had long hair (as a kid), I hated brushing my hair because of all the tangles too.

Is she in Middle School yet? There is a lot more emphasis on looks in MS. (For better or for worse...LOL)

I do not remember if my DD went through this or not.

My sister has a boy, and she put a list of things to do before he went to school on his bedroom closet, and one list for the bathroom., right on the mirror.

Good luck.

mom89 replied: Hmm..a list. I might try that! Because I REALLY hate sounding like a broken record every morning. lol