I just lost my mind - just need to vent
mckayleesmom wrote: Don't need any negative feedback....just a vent...I already feel like crud. Im bawling as Im writing this...so if I ramble..sorry.
Earlier tonight I got the kids out of the bath and went to find their clothes...come back and they put vaseline all over my couch....OMG...I just totally lost it. It wasn't just a little vaseline...it was one hole cushion...plus some on the base of it.I told them both to get in bed...naked or not, I could have cared less. I stormed into each of their rooms and broke one of each of their toys while they watched. Im just sick of them ruining my stuff...I also said some not so nice things in front of them. .I feel like I am going to have to start doing an eye for an eye methods with them...They just don't get it. Just when I thought I was done with all this crud.....I so reached my limit on this stuff with Mckaylee....I don't think she put the vaseline on the couch, but I know she was involved because I caught her with the vaseline earlier and put it up high...so she got it down again. I can understand that kids do kid things, but Mckaylee it took forever for her to learn to not do those things....Now I feel like Im starting all over again with Russell.
I feel like I have reached my limit on sanity. I wish I had Family nearby because tonight I would have dropped the 2 of them off at their doorstep. Sometimes I feel like they just seek things out to do that they know will drive me over the edge.....
Right now Im upset about my couch, Im upset that I didn't control myself in the situation, Im upset that I said mean things to them.
Is it too much to expect a 3 and 4 year old to respect things? I guess it is... 
moped replied: Sorry girl, i am having a yucky day with jack too........ 
is your couch scotch guarded? Call and find out - they will fix it!
I hate when the day ends bad and then we get to spend hours beating ourselves up over it and the kicker is that they have already forgotten about it!
mckayleesmom replied:
I know....I just feel horrible for losing my cool. They are both peacefully asleep and Im still sitting here bawling my you know what off.
It is scotchguarded, but I don't know if they will cover vaseling. I just got over the permanent marker thing.
moped replied:
Well they are over it now and you should too - but trustme I know just how you are feeling - I am kind of feeling that same way right now without the crying......Jack didn't want to say good night to me because Tom got home and now he is all about tom
mckayleesmom replied:
Russell fell asleep yelling "I hate you mommy" to me over and over again......
moped replied:
Yuck....but trust me he has forgoten about it and he will wake up all good in the morning.........just try to let it go for now.
On a side note, I do think you should break or throw away toys when they do things like that.......eventually it might just sink in.
I throw stuff away personally....
mckayleesmom replied:
I usually just pretend like I threw them away and hide them in a closet....but this time I was so angry...I snapped and snapped their toys right along with my temper......
Maddie&EthansMom replied: Bri I'm so sorry. I totally know what you are going thru. I don't have much more to offer, but I do understand. Don't feel bad. They will be okay in the morning and so will you. Make yourself a nice, strong cocktail and soak in the hot bath.
Teesa®© replied: We've probably all been there. I've broken a toy or two. I even threw out DS's fav stuffies that he can't sleep without. And cried all night till DH got home in the morning and demanded he take me to the dump so I could plead my case to the, ummm... Dump Dude [??? lol] and try to get them back [it was garbage night and DH took it out before I could get the stuffies back]. He let me cry out the whole story and calm down a little before telling me he'd already rescued them 
My children don't seem to have any respect for my things [they rarely touch DH's]. I had to put a lock on my door, but they'll walk right into my room at night when I'm in there sleeping and just take whatever they want. It seems the more you tell them not to, the more they do it 
I just started walking into their rooms and if they're playing with something, I just say I really like that and take it. They don't do it so much any more, but still do on occasion.
mckayleesmom replied:
Thats how I feel....I feel like they purposely zero in on my things or things that are important to me.......I waited 5 years to get new couches and its like they are going out of their way to destroy them.
TrulyBlessed replied: Your not alone, I have had those days and I have been pushed pass my limit and done or said some not so nice things. My girls have been doing things like this lately to my stuff as well and it bothers me because they are not respecting our things. It's almost as if they are bored, so they get destructive, but to me it's still not an excuse.
Please don't beat yourself up, we have all had our moments.
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PM me if you ever need to talk hun.
mommy~to~a~bunch replied:  Wow. Kids I tell ya  . Mine haven't done anything that bad before. I hope that the vaseline comes out.
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luvbug00 replied: I hope today goes better!
amynicole21 replied: I've so been there. My couches are hideous - pen and other nasty things all over them. I want to replace them, but can't risk having NEW ones messed up either.  We all have our off days with parenting. Don't beat yourself up.
PS - here's the stain removal guide for vaseline.
http://www.pioneerthinking.com/stainremovers6.html
my2monkeyboys replied: Just wanted to say, been there and absolutely done that.
We all crack sometimes, esp when we haven't had any kind of break for a while. Is there a sitter in your area you could get for just a couple of hours? That may give you some free time to decompress.
And don't worry about the kids, they are no doubt perfectly fine!!
I have a similar problem with Will not respecting my things as much as DH's too. I have had to get tough with him about it, even when I really don't want to.
Being a mom sure is a tough job.
coasterqueen replied: Hun, I've been there so many times. I've yelled and said mean things that I really didn't mean out of anger. Megan pushes my hot buttons way too much. She destroys everything and then when you try to tell her why it was bad or ask her why she did it she says "because I wanted to" with a huge smile on her face. That child has destroyed so many things in my house.
Just relax as best you can and start today a new day. That's how I do it. We are human, and we are going to do things we regret or maybe shouldn't have done - we aren't perfect.
My2Beauties replied: Bri, hon I am so with you on this There have been too many times that I have seriously lost my cool with Hanna and I feel awful afterwards, but just like McKaylee she seriously knows how to push my buttons. Hanna's thing is literally just not listening and doing the total opposite of what I say, literally. Just this morning I lost it with her and then felt awful. Please don't feel bad, it happens to the best of us. I hope Amy's link helps you get the Vaseline out and that the kiddos have pretty much forgotten about it by now...I'm so sorry! We're only human and everyone has a breaking point, unfortunately Try not to let this put a damper on your day today. If I were you I would let McKaylee and Russell know that you will continue to break/throw away their toys if they continue to disrespect your things....it will sink in. I have done this and believe me, it works. They don't like having their toys taken away.
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sparkys2boys replied: Oh Bri, I am so sorry this has all happened We as parents all lose our temper some time, and say and do things we don't mean and they haunt us for days after. It's normal, the same as Russel saying he hates you, it was said out of frustration and anger, the things you did and said was the same thing. Don't beat yourself up over it. It happens to all of us, just some of us will admit it and some won't
A&A'smommy replied: Dang its hard being a mom sometimes!!!!
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