I have HAD IT with this lady! - ... is this ever gonna end?

JessC wrote: Ok so I posted last couple of days or whatever about chris's CRAZY Mother yeah anyways....

Well today... He was at his moms house and I went to call him on his CELL phone because I didnt want to come into contact with her and he had a migraine and BEFORE I get the chance to say... Are you ok Chris?
... I hear his MOTHER in the background saying....

"TELL YOUR LITTLE FIANCE THING, THAT YOU WILL CALL HER BACK LATER... SHE NEEDS TO STOP BEING SO ANNOYING AND SUCH A B***H!"

This is crazy! I am starting to think that I am being hated totally buy her. I can't figure what I EVER did wrong ? Except be nice to her! I feel so bad.. all I was doing is trying to figure out where chris and how his day was.

So after that... I was so FURIOUS that I said to chris, why does she do this? And all a sudden I hear a "Click" (he had hung up on me?!)

I was so mad at this point that I threw the phone down in my car and said to the phone "TELL her to mind her own business!!! " I am seriously thinking about telling her this. I can't stop her... I dont know what else to say!? Chris says that she likes me as a person but if she was to like me why would she say all this bad stuff to me.

I am so confused. My mood as been going down the drain.

What do you guys think is going ON?

Boys r us replied: It's hard to say what's going on for sure...but I will give you a new point of view to think about..again, just a possibility, but is it possible Chris has different conversations with or in front of his mother than he'd have with you? In other words, his mom only knows what she's told, KWIM? Maybe he's feeding her a line of bull about certain things between you. B/c from just my own experience, people don't usually talk bad about someone whom another person in the room wouldn't talk badly of. For instance, one of my brother's has a girlfriend that I'm far from fond of, when I'm around her or just around my brother, I wouldn't dare say anything bad about her. But when it's my SIL or my mom I'm talking to...she gets blasted, b/c I know they feel the same way.
To make a long story short, I just wonder why she feels comfortable talking about you that way in front of Chris?

3_call_me_mama replied: Honestly I don't know what to say would exactally be the matter but she appears to not think before she speaks! . I can't believe the way some people treat others. You would think that she would want to treat you great since her son cares about you. SHe should want to make him happy and therefore offer blessings or SHUT HER MOUTH! APparently she never learned the expression, "if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all!" HUGS to you. Hope it improves and don't be too hard on yourself. She apparentlyhas issues too big for you to handle. Keep your chin up!

gr33n3y3z replied: I would just ask her what is her problem to her face and see what she says to you.

aspenblue1 replied: I can tell you my MIL thought I was the devil until I married my husband now she loves me. but for 6 years she made my life horrible with him and he stuck up for me she just couldn't stand loosing her baby boy. I would definately ask her what her issue is.

MommyToAshley replied:
I have to agree, I think a lot of times Moms think they are losing their baby boy and no one would be good enough.

But, that is no excuse. You should not be treated that way. It might be a good idea to confront her, but I also think that Chris needs to take a firm stand on your behalf. And, if that doesn't work, I would cut off all contact with her. You haven't done anything to her and you deserve to be treated with respect.

I am sorry you have to deal with that!

JessC replied: Yeah I guess it could be a reason.

He is the baby of the family! DUH! LOL

Ok I need to just talk to her!

A&A'smommy replied: UGH I'm sorry hun!!! (((((HUGS)))) I wish I had some advice but I think everyone else had something better to say than I ever could!!! Personally I would be pretty hurt to so you have a right to be upset right now!! (((((BIG HUGS))))

3xmommy replied: I think it's best to let sleeping dogs lie. My husband's mother hates me... even though she lives in Colorado and we've only met once. When I was in the hospital in a coma, she told my husband that she wished I'd die AND our new baby. She's just a bitch, straight up.

Sometimes people are donkies and there just ain't a thing you can do to change it. Your fiance is her baby and she probably feels as if you're taking him away and that she won't have him anymore, or she'll be all alone... her nest will be barren.

I'd honestly just ignore her and avoid her at all cost. Talking just won't help with peeps like that. :/

-Di

JessC replied: 3xmommy, I am sorry!

I guess you have it worse than I do!!!
I guess I shouldn't complain!

I would NEVER wish death on anybody...... thats just so rude of her!

kimberley replied: ((hugs)) i am sorry she is being so awful to you. i have the same problem with MIL not wanting to let go of her baby boy either . only difference is she is nice to my face . at least if she was mean i wouldn't feel bad confronting her and be seen as the instigator. but your MIL is clearly the instigator here. i would definitely let her know that you are going to be in his life for a long time so she better get used to it or she won't see her grandchild! .

~KARA~ replied: My ex MIL was like that untill I divorced her son!! Now we get along better than ever!
I still have the reoccuring problem with my current Mil, but its only because I was married before and had a choild with him. Even though mil isnow on her 3rd marriage in 6 years!!
Just flat out ask her what her problem is. Try to keep calm when you do so cause I know I didnt and it could have gotten me in to alot of trouble!!

Good luck!!

Kaitlin'smom replied: eekkk how terrible of her, what has he said about this? Thankfully I never had this issue. I would talk to him then her.

DansMom replied: I think Nichole may have something there. I can't help wondering what kind of conversations are going on between him and her that you don't know about. Is he having doubts and confiding in her, maybe? It's not unusual to have doubts before marriage, and she may be exploiting that or overreacting to that.

If her behavior is not a result of something he's saying to her, then her reaction to your phone call is so out of line, so extreme, and so unpleasant that I suspect she's mentally ill or addicted. Is she by any chance an alcoholic? People in my life who have been that hostile to innocent people were either drinkers or bipolar.

Either confront her or get away from her entirely. Don't let her abuse you like that---it's inexcusable. And if he doesn't support you, he needs to be confronted too. This is a lot for someone your age to have to deal with! I hope you can find some answers or some relief from her hostility.