I dont want anything to do with my Father... - I just need a hug....
Lollie wrote: Hi mommies!
Im so upset...  Iam crying as Im writing this.....
I went out with my hubby and some friends last night.My mum said I should go out cos I deserve a break.She babysat Bri who was asleep anyway....
Anyway,we went out and when I came to fetch Bri at about 4:30 am...he called me and slapped me!!!!!Yes...you read right!Hubby was in the car so he knew nothing of this.My mum was furious and told him he had no right to...She told him that if he cant respect his kids he must leave!!Now my Father is blaming my mum for ALLOWING me to go out!!WTF is with that!!!
After he slapped me I just walked away and told him that he mustnt ever lay a hand on me or my little sister again...its not the first time he's done this!!!!! I just want him to stay away from me....the way I feel right now,I dont want anything to do with him...Hubby is furious as hell and told him what he thinks of him!!!So none of us are talking to my father....Tomorrow we have a family visit from a Priest in our church....
Im just so upset and I just wanted a hug....
ediep replied: oh my!!! That is horrible!!! I want to wish you the best of luck in that tough situation. Maybe your priest can give you some guidance.
redchief replied: The last person you probably want a hug from right now is a dad, but I saw your post and it broke my cold old heart. I'm not going to go into how it was wrong of your dad and all of that; you already know that. I do, however send {{HUGS}}
kimberley replied:  oh dear, i am so sorry that happened to you.  many  coming your way.
Josie83 replied: What a horrible idiot. I can totally sympathise with horrible parents, that makes me so mad! i would have socked him right back. I hope you're okay xx
Lollie replied: Thanx for the hugs!!! 
Yeah Im ok but still upset...Josie..I really did wanna sock him back but I was scared that he'd push me or something.I wasnt gonna take that chance in my case.Hubby wanted to but I told him to leave it.
My father and I arent speaking and at the moment I dont even know where he is!!!He was a total jerk and I dont want him near me or my kids!!!!!!!!!!!
amynicole21 replied: OMG, Lollie! That is awful! I can't believe he would treat you that way  I sincerely hope the priest lays into him and shows him how wrong his actions were!
MommyToAshley replied: (((((((((HUGS)))))))))
How horrible! I am so sorry that happened to you. I think you are doing the right thing keeping your kids away from him, I'd be scared to have them around him too. I hope the Priest is able to give you some guidance.
Here's some more HUGS!
Maddie&EthansMom replied:
I am so sorry. What a total jerk. I would agree that you need to stay as far away from him as possible and do not let Bri anywhere near him, either. Gosh, Lollie. I just feel terrible for you. What a horrible situation for you..and your mother as well.
~Roo'sMama~ replied: That's awful!! I'm so sorry... I would be afraid to have my kids around him too. I hope the Priest can give you some good advice!
heavenly_1970 replied: Sending hugs your way! I Hope everything blows over really soon...take care & I will pray for you & your family! 
coasterqueen replied: wow ((HUGS)). Did he give you a reason? He should have not done that to you!
That would be something my dad would have done just because I came home at 4:30 a.m.  He thinks me staying out past midnight now that I have a child is being selfish and not a good parent. Course I can't even think of the last time I went out or even stayed out past midnight. 
A&A'smommy replied: (((((BIG HUGS)))))) I am SOOO sorry you got treated like that he had NO right hit you!!! And what is wrong with you staying out that late anyway your an adult and your mom volunteered to watch her we as mothers need a break every once in a while!!!!!!
Lollie replied: Thanx Ladies!!Love you!!
Im off to church now then we having the meeting with the Priest.I'll keep you posted......
~hugs~
Lollie replied: Thanx for all the hugs and kind words and thoughts....
I'm back from church and the meeting with our Priest.....Im glad we had it.
We told the Priest about the whole situation and that this has been going on for a while...my Father even denied physical abuse in the past but my mum quickly told the Priest that he's even slapped my younger sister.Then my father still had the nerve to say that he doesnt regret doing it...I wasnt brought up to come back from a night out at that time of the morning!!!!!!!!The Priest told him that as a parent he cant tell me what to do..he can onloy be there for me to guide me...he mustnt expect me to live up to all of his expectations..I have to discover life for myself...Im no more a little girl that he can dominate.
We are having another meeting some time soon..the Priest is going to personally work through all this with my family and the abuse.My fatehr doesnt see himself as an abuser...he see's himself as a FATHER THAT WANTS WHATS RIGHT FOR HIS FAMILY!!!!!What a load of shit....So the Priest told him that when you hurt someone...it doesnt send across the meassge that you love them...you just damage them emotionally..and that he's wrong.
Well,he said lots of other stuff as well to help us,whish I truly appreciate...now we'll see what happens.
Thanx my friends..you are the best!!
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Kirstenmumof3 replied: I'm so sorry you had to go through that! What your father did to you was wrong! I don't blame you at all for not wanting to speak to your father right now. I am so glad that you and your family spoke to the priest about all of this and that the priest is willing to help your family! I hope things will change!
aspenblue1 replied: I am so sorry your father did that. I am glad the preist is trying to help hopefully your father will see what he has done and change his actions.
MommyToAshley replied: Thanks for keeping us posted, I am glad the talk with the Priest went well. I hope your father can get the help he needs before he causes any more damage or really hurts someone.
We're here if you need to vent or want to talk!
Kaitlin'smom replied: (((BIG HUGS)))
Boys r us replied: I'm sorry Lollie!! I hope that time will heal these emotional wounds and open your father's eyes!
My2Beauties replied: Lollie, I am so sorry that you have to deal with this, especially now being pg when your emotions are on a rollercoaster anyways! Pg or not what he done was wrong and it is physical abuse! You are a grown woman and you have the right to have a night out once in a while as long as your child is being cared for by a competent babysitter! It's not like you left her alone and went out!! This makes me very angry and I hope that your dad comes to his senses and realizes that he is wrong and is only hurting his relationship with his children when he smacks and hits them!!! Big huge hugs to you and I hope everything turns out OK. For now stay away from him, give yourself time to speak with him once you've cooled down or it will only turn into a shouting match!
Love ya!
DansMom replied: I'm so sorry this happened to you!!
due_any_day replied: (((((huge hugs))))))
Lollie replied: Geez..you Ladies really know how to make a girl cry!
Thanx again for the thoughts and prayers....We still not talking.I tried to take the first step to make up today and he completely ignored me.Well Im so emotionally drained....Im just gonna leave it now.I have to think of me and my kids.
I love you all!!!
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