I can't stand SNOTTY KIDS

mckayleesmom wrote: The responsible mother in me says to ignore them and just let them be snotty.....But the mother in me when her 2 year old gets her feelings hurt wants to slug the little brats.

There are these 2 little girls in our neighborhood that are maybe 7 and 8 and Mckaylee always says hi to them and they never say ANYTHING to her.....Would it kill them to just humor her and say hello back. Sometimes if Mckaylee sees them walking by she will run over and say hi to them and start following them and they will whisper back and forth to each other and walk as fast as they can to get away from her....She is not diseased. If you would just say hi to her...she might just leave you alone. These are also the girls that thought they would come sit in my yard the other day...not to play with Mckaylee, but because Mckaylee had sidewalk chalk that they could use....I DON'T THINK SO...I collected Mckaylees chalk and had her come use it with Zach on our porch. These girls wouldn't even talk to her while trying to steal a 2 year olds toys...

I don't know why they think they are so special anyways...one of them hasn't changed her clothes for 3 weeks as far as I can tell.. ...OMG...that is the evil mother in me.

Am I the only one that gets an evil side when it comes to my kids being treated badly? I really wanted to water my lawn with them on it the other day.

Also, one of the little girls use to talk to Mckaylee when she was friends with the oldest CHILDREN OF THE CORN....But since Mason moved away..she has this new friend and I guess they decided to be snobs.

mckayleesmom replied: On a funny note....Mckaylee is starting to realize it when people are rude...Yesterday we were walking in the hospital and she said hi to a little girl and the girl refused to respond..even when her mother asked why she wouldn't say hi...Mckaylee said hi a couple more times and finally Mckaylee yelled "hey, you mean, you didn't hi me back"

luvbug00 replied: I have NO tact when it comes to other kids being mean to my child.. I would have watered the lawn .. and there were kids in our apartment who were like that to mya and I would say " she said HELLO!! " with the eveilest look immaginable..

Bee_Kay replied: Kids can be downright cruel at times.

When Ty was about 5 years old, he was playing with another friend behind our house (there are some woods and then a baseball field and playground beyond those woods).
My daughter came running into the house and told me that a couple older boys were also there and threatened to hit Ty with a baseball bat.

I don't know where my legs got that speed but I was out the door and over there in a flash.
The words that came out of my mouth (I am ashamed of it now) would make a truck driver blush. I scared the bejeepers out of those older boys and since then, they've been nothing but nice to Ty.

I just dont know about some kids. If my daughter were to EVER treat Mckaylee that way..... I would put her right in her place and force a face to face apology, not only to Mckaylee, but to you also.

mckayleesmom replied: Well...I just look at it now as a learning experience for her. Whenever they don't respond and she comes up and asks about it I just tell her "some kids are not nice, and you always be nice to other kids"....and she says "ok mommy, I'll be nice to my kids"


But I still want to slug them ...I just keep that part to myself.

Bee_Kay replied:
Uh huh.

I'm right there with you. If only some parents knew what I really thought of their children or what I'd like to do to them sometimes ! LOL

luvmykids replied:
Kyles can't stand to be ignored and will say "Hey, I am talking to YOU"

Theres a bratty little girl in our neighborhood that for some reason my kids adore, she's 5 and when they say hi she ignores them and they keep on and she gets this evil look and says "I don't want to say hi I don't even like you" Gets my blood pressure up.

redchief replied: Lisa's always despised kids behaving like that too. She comes home from school and always has a story of a spoiled brat in school.

Me? I teach eighth graders. Eighth graders invented rude, snotty. All of my students know from the first week to leave their snottiness at home in my class.

Bee_Kay replied: Ash is 14 now.

I don't know... there is something that happens to girls (and maybe boys too) when they reach teenage years.

One day, they are the best of friend, the next they hate each other. I've seen it so many times, its insane.

The two best friends I had in highschool, we are still best friends to this day.

Ash got along fairly well with this one girl at school. Then, out of the blue Ash heard that this girl started a nasty (and perverted) rumor about Ash. Ash confronted the girl... and without notice, this girl slapped Ashley across the face. Ashley proceeded to pound the heck out of this girl. (Keep in mind, Ash is one of the biggest girly girls around). So, it shocked the heck out of me, when Ash got home from school (shaking) and told me what happened.

The next day the girl apologized to Ashley and has been nothing but nice to Ash since.

So, that being said.... when I insinuate that I'd like nothing more than to backhand some of those little snots.... I wasn't referring to young children! I am not THAT mean LOL!!!

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I know what you mean. I hated being treated that way when I was little. My next door neighbor (even though she was younger) was so mean to me. I do my best to make sure my kids aren't treated that way and if they are, they know how to handle it. I was constantly tramped all over and had my feelings hurt a lot. I wonder what made them want to treat me that way?

luvmykids replied:
Me too, all through first and second grade this mean little girl always said she hoped I'd get bone cancer and die.

mckayleesmom replied: I think it irritates me more because they are older then Mckaylee and Mckaylee doesn't even realize they are being mean most of the time....Shes only 2 years old. Half the time she thinks they are her friends.....She has the mind set of a typical 2 year old....See a kid...your friends....I usually just try to steer her in the other direction and to play with someone else.

Bee_Kay replied:
I know, that as an adult... I still (like Monica) remember the mean things that were said to me.

I wonder if people that were mean to others when they were young, remember the things they did/said when they were children that really hurt someone else???

ediep replied: I thnk the middle school teacher in me would have come out and I would have said something to those girls...."don't sit there if you don't want to play with her, she's only 2" or "excuse me, but thats my daughters chalk"

I ahve confronted older kids at the park when they see Jason approaching a swing or something and they run fatster to get the swing first. I say "excuse me, but would you mind giving him a turn soon" usually they just jump off and tell their mom, but I don't really care.

punkeemunkee'smom replied:
We went through that with Taylor at dance. She hugs everyone and will say 'Hi friends!!! ' 2 of the bigger girls would gather together and whisper and laugh at her. At first Taylor did not understand and thought it was a new game until a couple weeks ago she came out of class and said "Momma what means wierd? Those girls say that I am weird... " I said as loud as I could (both the moms were right there) They are rude and NASTY girls and they say you are wierd because they don't understand why you are SO SWEET! Play with the other nice girls and let the MEAN ones play alone!" Tay said "OK! I don't want to be friends with them anyway!" and ran back into class to play with the other 6 girls who are friendly....The mother of one of the little snots acually said when Taylor left- " Sam thinks Taylor is wierd because she wants to hug her and she says she is too excited all the time. She also tells them let's pretend we are princesses and that IS ODD! And I know she says she has animals and pets that are imaginary and that even freaks ME out!" I was BEYOND . I said in the calmest voice I could muster---'Well now I see why Sam is so hateful-she has learned it from you!" You could have heard a pin drop in that waiting room She said she can see that I am one of those mothers...


It is so hard to see your child get their feelings hurt and I know this sounds horrible but I say the next time they are on your lawn-WATER AWAY!!!!

Bee_Kay replied:
Yep... prime example of why some girls are such little snots.. it is LEARNED behavior.

My daughter, Ash would NEVER EVER treat a younger girl that way. She is wonderful with little girls and plays right along with their imagination.

Bee_Kay replied:

BTW-- ITA!!

punkeemunkee'smom replied:

Ed~ I agree with telling them to leave it at home. I think that it being accepted as that is how kids act is wrong! I was not a snotty teenager-my friends were not snotty teenagers-you know WHY? Because our parents would NOT accept that from us. They told us that we were better than that. They EXPECTED more from us and only ACCEPTED more from us! Did that mean that it was always fun to play with the younger kids or speak with the elder members of our church? Not always at first BUT I will tell you what- I am THANKFUL now that I did and there are lessons I learned and a respect that I received that more than made up for a few minutes of irritation in the beginning!

C&K*s Mommie replied: with everyone here, that it hurts me to see my child hurt when they are rejected. At the park, or at Chuck E Cheese, or even church. Even here at the house, when one gets up, then the other gets up later whoever was up first will be happy and say "Hey..... " , and try to give hugs to the other. Whichever girl was last to get up will walk right past her to me, instead. I just tell them that C/K just got up and is not awake yet. Eventually they give hugs and say hey back.
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On a funny note: When I read this was at the same time out of the corner of my eye I saw Russell in your siggy had his little fist up like.... yeah I am gonna slug you too!

mckayleesmom replied:
LOL

Bee_Kay replied: BTW -- about the watering the lawn thing....

Hypothetically, If Ash EVER treated your daughter like that, and you got her with the sprinkler..... LOL.. I'd probably call you up and thank you!!!

luvmykids replied: Colt was telling me last time they went to Moms Day Out that there were some boys who flat out said "I don't like you" or "You can't play with us" It broke my heart and I thought, how do kids that young even know to say that stuff? My kids assume everyone is their friend, I know they'll have to learn/accept that everyone won't like you but I truly think it hurt me more than him!

CosmetologyMommy replied: is it possible that they think they are too "mature" for mckaylee because they are 8 and she is only a "baby" in their eyes? they should still say hi to her though.

mckayleesmom replied:
exactly.....I don't expect them to play with her, but I expect them to at least humor her and say hello.....would they die if they did? Nope.

Bee_Kay replied: If I were you.... I would have no problem walking right up to those girls and saying something like "Aren't you going to say Hi to my daughter?"

Or

Bring Mckaylee up to them and say to them "I don't believe you heard my daughter say Hi to you" .... or "Did you hear my daughter say Hi to you?"

Maybe its just me, but that is how I would probably play it out.

So, if they continue to be little brats, you can point out to Mckaylee that they aren't very nice.

I really have no problem with confrontation, especially when it is something that hurts my children.

mckayleesmom replied:
I would rather just open up on them with my water hose....is that still an ok option???

Bee_Kay replied:
Absolutely !!!

MyLuvBugs replied: Oh I hate that. Do parents not teach manners to their children anymore?!?!?! Honestly!! She's 2 years old. Humor the little kid and say hi......

I too get evil. Usually at parents, but sometimes at kids. One day at the store a lady (kinda ritzy) said in kind of a snotty tone, "oh what a lovely little boy" as my daughter is sitting infront of her with a PINK dress on!!! I said..."Why thank you, My daughter is quite lovely." and walked away rolling my eyes. I totally shouldn't have done that, but I just couldn't help it. I guess we all have the "protect your young" still engraved in our beings.

BTW: I totally would have turned the sprinklers on. lol

ilovemybaby replied: The only times I have been mad with someone elses kids is when we visit my husbands best friend. He has three girls. The youngest and the oldest are great with Abby. But the middle child. She has to take crayons off Abby because she thinks she shouldn't be using them. One time she had this large toy on the floor and she put Abby down right in front of it and told her to go to daddy and preceded to push her. She of course fell over the toy and landed flat on her face.

And because it is my husbands best friends daughter I just sat there and thought "you little brat". It isn't easy seeing your baby get hurt. This girl is 5 nearly 6 and she doesn't even think before doing those things. She was told to put her toys away if she isn't playing with them. And that was it. How about "why did you put her down right there and push her?" Surely she must have realized what would happen. Um, ok maybe she is too young to think before doing things. I don't know... it just really pissed me off.
The thing is she may be only 5 but she gets hardly any if any discipline. All three kids are not disciplined and they walk all over their grandmother especially.
She just got the oldest (who is only 11) a mobile phone. I think mobiles can be good for safetys sake. But she uses it ALL the time. She has $20 on it and uses it all in a week. On texting her friends (and my hubby, even late at night) of course.

ilovemybaby replied:
I hate it when people do that. It's like they are color blind or something.
I used to get that when Abby was a baby all the time. Wearing a little dress or something pink and they would ask "is it a girl or a boy?" Um what do you think moron?
One time I had her in a blue dress. It was a Peter Rabbit sailor suit. And this lady called her a boy. Ok, but boys have not worn dresses for a LONG time lady.

I sometimes wonder if these people are just like my MIL who thinks boys can wear pink too.

Nina J replied: I can't stand seeing kids be rude or mean to Emily, or any other child. It just makes me wonder why? Is it so hard to say hello? There is a little girl in my neighbourhood who refuses to speak or talk to Emily and a few other kids, she's 6 or 7 and it's seems like if she talks to the other kids she'll get struck down and die. It's crazy