I am watching Oprah - with my mouth hanging open *spoilers*

punkeemunkee'smom wrote: I am watching Oprah waiting for Tay to get ready to go to Dance and I am in shock and disgusted! The topic of the show is a man who murdered his twin 5 year old daughters... ... His wife is on the show talking about how she forgives him-he was depressed Oprah just asked him why he did not kill himself and he replied he promised his wife he wouldn't-so Oprah asked the wife If she wished she had asked him (in hindsight) not to hurt the children and the wife just kinda himmed and hahed and said she wishes nobody had died and said she loves her husband and still loves being married to him I am sorry I suppose it is a really nice thing to be so forgiving and I know we have discussed the question of could you forgive..... before ( I couldn't and wouldn't the harm of a hair on my child's head) BUt to take it a step futher and say you still love the man who murdered them....WTH???? I know I will probably get bashed for saying this but ANYONE who could harm a child (Let alone 2 of their own) doesn't IMHO deserve air let alone forgiveness

holley79 replied: What was he doing on Oprah? Why isn't he in jail or were they on satellite TV? That is just nuts. There is no way I could LOVE a monster like that. I would have a hard time forgiving but I would never ever forget and never ever even think to say the L word to him.

TANNER'S MOM replied: Well I was all excited about watching Oprah and my satelite went on the outs.. I can't imagine! And like you I would not be the first to forgive. I know the bible to says to forgive but I would find it hard to be do at that moment. I mean the person who hurt our children aren't doign the Christain thang either..and let alone my own husband... He might find a short rope and a tall tree.

redplaydoh replied: Gasp... I can't even imagine. I don't think I could forgive honestly nor stay married to a man that harmed, let alone murdered my/our children. But I'm not in her shoes thankfully...
I'm curious, is he being punished for this? I'd love to know the outcome.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I absolutely agree! I don't care if your depressed or not, that does not give you the right to harm your children. And it's sad that a lot of people do get to that point and don't ask for help! I've been there, I know the feelings all too well, but instead of acting on those thoughts and feelings that I was having I GOT HELP! I'm crying right now, those poor girls, it's just so unjust!

Cece00 replied: I didnt watch it but no, I couldnt forgive. No matter how depressed someone is, there is no excuse to harm a child.

gr33n3y3z replied:
I agree with you 100%

My2Beauties replied: I didn't get to see it, but I'm glad because I'da probably been bawling. I could never and I mean never ever continue to be with my husband if he murdered my children, I'd think the same of him as I do anyone else who takes a person's life in cold blood, let alone a child.

lisar replied: Okay if someone was to hurt either of my girls. They better hope that the cops find them before I do. Cause I would kill them.

luvmykids replied: Sorry but IMHO someone who could do that is more than depressed.....and no, I doubt I could forgive that much less still LOVE him She needs mental help as much as he does.

mom2my2cuties replied: I think in a sense, until you are in that situation, and are married to that person - you can't really say how you would feel.

All of you know the position I am in with my ex husband. And while I am angry beyond words, a part of me feels compassion towards him. Not because I forgive him for what he did, but because I was married to him and that isn't the man I remember. I think for my own sake, and my own sanity, I have to hang on to the image of the man I knew. Which is what it sounds like this mom is doing.

CantWait replied: I watched, and I couldn't believe how nonchalont (sp) she was about the whole situation. She goes from crying and showing where her babies died to defending the man who killed them.

Defending him because he was depressed, hello, ya, but he knew he was having those feelings and choose not to share them with his pyschiatrist.

Jolyn replied: I haven't watched it yet but for him to say he didn't kill himself because he told his wife he wouldn't is just stupid. He didn't kill himself because he is a coward. If you were so depressed that you killed your own children how do you stop and control that urge to kill yourself?

I too do not think he deserves to be breathing right now.

Those poor kids.

mom2my2cuties replied: Also, I wanted to add - Personally, I don't think I could have stayed married to the person who hurt my child, nor would I ever admit to loving them - And I don't think he killed these children out of depression. I think there is a lot more to this situation and story than what was shown on TV - this mom I seriously doubt is as loving toward him as she seemed to be - There are bound to be feelings of anger, rage, resentment and hate that she feels and felt that she needed to put up a great "front" for others.

I also think this mom is suffering from A LOT of guilt - Just from the sounds of it.