I am starting to panic

coasterqueen wrote: I think I'm in panic mode now. With 4 weeks away and I'm not near ready for this baby I'm really freaking out. Not only that but my body is freaking out. My body is reacting completely different this time around from last time. I have severe pelvic pain to where it's almost difficult to walk, I didn't have that the first time. I'm having real contractions for the past few weeks but they are sporadic. Although I've had 4 or 5 tonight but not anything worth timing, this is the most in one night so far. They are really annoying me too and I've been very very agitated tonight because of them. I feel like I'm crawling out of my skin.

Doc is definite I won't go early and I'm sure I won't but my body is doing things that I never felt with Kylie and it keeps freaking me out making me think she's going to come early.

I NEED her to stay in there a bit longer. I'm still very very sick with this chest cold and I can't breath very well let alone imagining trying to give birth right now. I don't have the nursery done, I don't have clothes washed, insurance stuff done, etc, etc, etc and I have been so sick and crabby that I haven't spent very good time with Kylie and want to do this yet.

Did anyone feel like their body was doing something the second time it didn't feel the first? I'm actually freaked out. I almost feel like I've never had a baby before just by what my body is doing. I'm almost scared because this is all unknown to me since before at 40 weeks I just went in, they induced me and 30 hours later I had to have a c/s because my body wouldn't do what it needed to do.

MommyToAshley replied: Awee, sweetie. I have always been told that every pregnancy is different and feels different. I am sorry you are having such a rough time.... it sounds like you need some pampering and some time to just relax. Don't worry about the nursery, the baby probably won't even be in there for the first few weeks anyways. YOu could always finish it after she is born, it is more important to take care of yourself right now. Hope you are feeling better soon.

mummy2girls replied: Oh hun i know what you are feeling. Jordan pregnancy was very easy... but with jenna it was unreal! I had that pelvic pain that you have. I couldnt walk and when i did i heard and felt a clicking sound down there, i couldnt lay flat in bed, and getting out of bed was a nightmare, I had painful BH at 35 weeks and that was annoying. and i started to dialate at 35 weeks also. I hope that she stays in as long as you want her too but i also hope you have her in the next couple of weeks so you dont have to go through that pain.

amymom replied: All my pregnancies were different. Please take care of yourself. Ask for help in getting all those things done.

Good luck to you. Prayers and well wishes going your way

loveydad replied: Hon calm down adn relax. Someone people who have REALLY preemie babies do it, so it can be done She'll be alright, I hope she waits too till youre at least not sick anymore!!

I think you'll be alright. I'm not an expert but I remmeber Nicky's mom I think swore she was going into labor for about four weeks and she didn't have him till later.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: Every one of my pregnancies was so different. It felt as though I had never given birth before. What you are experiencing is perfectly normal. Try to relax and let your body do what it needs to do to prepare for this baby! I hope you feel better soon and spend some quatity time with Kylie before the baby is born!

A&A'smommy replied: (((BIG HUGS))) I'm sure its just your body preparing itself to let megan out!!! I wish I could say more but the next time I have a baby I will be going through exactly what you are! ((((HUGS))))

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Don't panic....it's probably normal. But DO get your stuff ready!!!!

I had Zacharie early, just by a few days.... but I'm just happy we'd finished all the shoping etc the day before....Now that I think about it, we went shopping for 4 hours (walking) and washed all the clothes etc.... that's probably what brough on the labor!! lol

Good luck!

Alice replied: I didn't have the experiences you're describing, but, as everyone has already said, each pregnancy is different.

As to all the things you haven't done yet: the only one that's really important is trying to kick the cold. So get lots of rest and take care of yourself. In doing that, you can spend some quality time with Kylie: relax and snuggle on the couch, hang out while he plays, and so on.

All the rest is just STUFF-- it will get done when it gets done. The baby won't notice a bit of it. Don't make yourself crazy about the stuff; in the long run it really doesn't matter at all.

For the record, before we adopted Brian I embroidered a beautiful blanket for him. I had lots of time and no kids. When I was pregnant with Julia I was still working full time and already had a toddler, so I finished it shortly after she was born. Do I need to tell you that Kira's is about half done, and she's TWO??? Maybe I'll finish it before she's old enough to know she never used it as a baby! Or maybe I'll pass it down for her to finish for her own kids. Who knows?

The point is, again, it's just STUFF; don't let it make you nuts. Take care of yourself and Kylie, and get to the rest when you do.

Take care!

mammag replied: I agree with everyone else. My first three were similar but with Keegan it was different from day one. I had myself convinced something bad was going on or that maybe something was wrong with him cuz it was sooo different. But everything turned out just fine.

Just do a little bit of the "stuff" each night and you'll be ready in no time.

Kaitlin'smom replied: I dont know what to tell you but ask or help in getting some things done so your not so panic.

oh and you have a call buddie right

angelhair replied: its alright to let things get unfinished. the nusery can wait for the baby will not care which room she sleeps in. just pace yourself and do what you can do. the most important job right now is you taking care of you and getting what you need and if it means laying down and getting rest instead of something else then that is ok. you are important to!!!!! love dee

kit_kats_mom replied: Interesting...I swear I replied to this last night. Hmmmmmm

Anyway, I know exactly what you are feeling. I had that pelvic pain and contractions for the last 3 months of my second pregnancy and the panic...let's not even go there K? LOL

Seriously, try to relax as often as possible because you will not believe the chaos that is about to enter into your life. It's nutso for the first few weeks until you and Meghan start to communicate and get into a routine. Totally wonderful chaos but chaos none the less.

Keep in mind that she will probably sleep a lot at first and you will have that post delivery high for a few days so you will probably be able to catch up on whatever doesn't get done before delivery. KWIM?

Cuddle with Kylie as much as possible now. I've found it hard to get much cuddle time with K for the first month or so. she delt with it well but I felt bad about it.

She will be here in no time and you will wonder what you were worried about. LOL

DansMom replied: So much good advice above (especially about not sweating the nursery---it can wait if it has to, and baby won't know). I just want to add my hugs, and how excited I am that you're so close now.... it's normal to feel anxiety about preparations and a lot of physical discomfort about now. I hope you kick this cold quickly!