I am soo sad.. Please pray for my Children. - Death mentioned

TANNER'S MOM wrote: This morning at 7.. I got a call that Britttany and Justin paternal Grandpa.. died in his sleep about 15 minutes before. Justin was actually with his Dad.. but Brittany was home. I had to get my baby girl out of bed this morning, and tell her she had lost her Grandfather. It was so sad.. I am still broken hearted to see my children hurt so bad. They have never lost some close to the them.

I took her to Grandparents house. He was still there they hadn't taken him out. The whole ex's family was there of course. I felt sorry for them. I hate death and I hate the loss of a parent or husband. I hated seeing there pain. Someday we will all feel that pain. That is what is so scarey and sadly human about it.

I felt odd being there but Brittany was crying she wanted her Mama. She went in the house and then she collasped and I carried outside and she crawled up in my lap like a baby and just cried forever.


Justin was alot more reserved. I am not sure how to read him. I worry that he is holding it all in.

I felt out of place even though I was grieving for the whole family also. And to be honest a bit sad. He was my father in law for seven years, and yesterday was his 48th wedding anniv. You got to respect that. I got my kids settled and feeling like they could handle things, and I left. I didn't want to intrude on their grief as I am an outsider now.

But I am sitting her aching for my children and the pain I know they are feeling. I want to be so close to them. This is so hard on them, and I fear they feel so alone. How do you handle this? This is one aspect of divorce that is so hard.

Please pray for them. God Bless my children and their hearts. I hope God eases their pain until I can hold them again

moped replied:

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I'm so sorry for your loss! My thoughts and prayers with you and your family!

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Oh Mel. I'm so sorry to hear that. Your post brought back so many memories of when my Nanie died, although I was a lot younger than your kiddos. I will say a prayer for them. I'm so so so sorry, hun.

MoonMama replied: I am so truely sorry for your loss, many thoughts and prayers coming your way. I wish there was more I could do.

HuskerMom replied: I'm so sorry

punkeemunkee'smom replied: OH NO!!! I have been trying to call you back...stupid phones-call me! I am praying for the kids!

aspenblue1 replied: I am so sorry for you loss.

A&A'smommy replied: Oh honey!!! Sending LOTS of Prayers their way, and yours too!!

CantWait replied: I'm sorry for all their loss. No advice, just prayers, positive thoughts and hugs.

Crystalina replied: Sooo sorry.

BAC'sMom replied: Sorry Mel I will keep your children in my thoughts and prayers

sparkys2boys replied: Mel, I am so sorry. I cant understand why you feel like an outsider though hun?? Your kids are hurting and need you so please dont feel like that. I am sure that everyone knows and can see that you are upset also. You cared for this man as much as anyone did too. I hope the kids are doing ok Prayers are going out to everyone

mom21kid2dogs replied: Sounds like you handled it so perfectly in a hard situation.

I'll be praying for the kids and you during this sad time.

MommyToAshley replied:

I am so sorry Mel. Your post made me cry. I can understand your struggle to be there for your kids and not intrude on their grieving. But, you are grieving too.. and I am sure they know you are sincere.


You all are in my thoughts and prayers.

Insanemomof3 replied: So sorry Mel. I will keep your kids in my thoughts and prayers. That is so hard.

mummy2girls replied: (((HUGS))))

I am so sorry to hear this:( It will defenitely be very hard on the kids for sure:( Justin is probably goign through the shock stage. It hasnt hit him yet thats why he is so melow. BUT once it does hit it may get bad or he may take it ok...

When I lost my grandpa i was devestated!!! And i was 20 when he died!

TANNER'S MOM replied: Thank you everyone for your kind wishes.

I think Justin finally really cried when they took him out of the house.. Brittany called me and we talked through it.

I have been calling her every free hours and check making sure she doesn't need me.

She is going to spend the night with her Grandma tonight. She wants to feel close to her and doesn't want Grandma Freda to be alone.

Thank you everyone.. your prayers warms my heart and brings a tear to my eye.

My3LilMonkeys replied:

Old Mom Hubbard replied: It is hard and sad to lose anyone we have shared life with and felt close to. I hope there can be comfort knowing he went peacefully in his sleep.

I found comfort knowing my grandmother passed on in her sleep many years ago. Although I miss her at times I know she went to another higher place and in peace she left. I miss my grandfather and the pain of his loss is great becuase his passing on took years while he suffered greatly.

I know now the loss is great but I hope you find comfort and peace and recall the good times shared.

Calimama replied: I'm so sorry! I'll keep you guys in my prayers tonight.

cameragirl21 replied: So sorry, Mel. Thoughts and prayers to your family.

amynicole21 replied: I'm so sorry, Mel. I'm glad they have so many people there to help them through it, though.

Danalana replied: I was 13 when my grandmother died. she was my best friend and it was the hardest thing to deal with. My mother was very sad about it and she and my father had been divocred for 11 years by that time. She didn't come to the funeral or get involved, but nobody would have thought anything of it if she had. I'm praying that everyone involved has peace with this.

redchief replied: I'm sorry for your family's loss, Mel. I know you don't feel you belong close to the family, but I can't help getting the emotion across that you are feeling this loss too. It's obvious that you had much respect for your ex-father-in-law if nothing else. I also feel empathy for your children who must be feeling pretty lonely right now. It sounds as if they are taking comfort in each other, though, and that's a good thing. I pray for you and your family in your time of loss.

C&K*s Mommie replied: I am so sorry for the loss, Mel. My prayers are with the children and his family now.

ediep replied: so sorry for your loss

thoughts and prayers are with your family

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I'm so sorry Mel. Big hugs and prayers for you all.

luvmykids replied: I'm so sorry The loss of my grandma was one of the most profound things I've ever experienced, many thoughts and prayers for all of you

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gr33n3y3z replied: thaughts and prayers for your family
it is very hard

booey2 replied: prayers for you, your children and family.