I am so frustrated

ian'smommy wrote: Letting Ian run around naked didn't work... He ended up peeing in his little recliner.... Every morning he gets out of bed and plays (not loud enough to wake me up) and when he poops in his diaper he takes it off and it gets smeared into the floor, etc... I am going to start setting my alarm to wake up earlier to be aware of when he gets up so that I can try to avoid that problem. We have to rent a rug doctor this week to get the stains out of the carpet since we are trying to sell our house.
I put him in big boy underwear today and he hasn't been doing too bad. I have however been setting the timer on the stove for a half hour and taking him to the potty whether he thinks he needs to go or not. He has gone everytime. Now he is in his room for his quiet time. I am still going up every half hour. I stretched it to 45 minutes this last time, and instead of calling for me, he pooped in the underwear, took them off and I had to pick up the little present off the floor again. I am getting so frustrated. I tried telling him he'd get a treat if he kept his underwear dry and clean and it isn't working. He clearly hates to be wet and dirty, I am just out of ideas. He will be 3 on Friday. I was hoping by now it would be getting a little easier. Any ideas?

Kaitlin'smom replied: my sitter used to give her son a small treat after each time he went potty, (a few jelly beans, his favorite candy) once he no longer had accidents during the day she cut back until no more treats

me we are just lettingher lead the way right now she has been getting really good about going pee in the potty, and a few times poo, slowy for us.

Sunflower04 replied: Sorry I can't help. My DS will be 3 in a month and he is showing no signs of potty training. Hopefully he will stop putting the poop on the floor.

Insanemomof3 replied: Tristan hates to be wet or messy too. But he doesn't seem to tell me he has to go until AFTER he goes. It is frustrating, but just keep at it!

Candee replied: It's a baby thing. Babies love mess, so learn to deal with it. It'll be fine.

Candee
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Ryan (3-2-05)

MommyToAshley replied: I am sure he will get the hang of it eventually....just like all the other frustrating phases, this too will pass. I just hope it passes for you soon.

Hang in there!

ediep replied:
what?????



Anyway, Iansmommy....I wish I could help, but jason is behind Ian at this point in potty training. Good luck!!!! My sister used to throw a few cheerios in the toilet and tell my nephew to hit the targets! Maybe that will help!

Insanemomof3 replied:


Glad I am not the only one that felt that was kinda wrong.

Haferers7 replied:
Aside from sleep potty trianing has got to be on of the toughest parenting issues! My 3 boys were all trained around 2 1/2 but I have many friends with boys (who do tend to be later than girls) who found it a real nightmare to train them. I really think that some just aren't ready at almost 3. My suggestion would be to completly forget about trying for a good month or two (to let the two of you put the issue away and let him forget about it for a while) and then start fresh in a couple of months. As soon as it becomes a power struggle you've lost the battle. If you are getting frustrated at all with him(who wouldn't be??) then he'll pick up on it and it may become a real power struggle.

Good luck and try not to let people make you or him feel badly that he's not trained yet. Almost 3 is not really late...and so what if he is?? He will be trained eventually!

As for the "deal with it" post....she hasn't potty trained yet I'm assuming (with an infant and an 18 month old). She'll get hers!!!

Heidi

Josie83 replied: It must be so frustrating. Instead of rewarding him when he DOESN't wet his pants )(etc), I would concentrate more on rewarding him for what he DOES do - like when he does go in the potty. Apart form that, try not to lose your head!! Good luck and keep us posted! xx

ian'smommy replied: Thanks for all the support... He had 3 accidents the day he had on underwear. The rest of the day he stayed dry... He peed in the potty every half hour. If I waited any longer than that to take him, that's when the accident happened...
He's been in pull-ups since because I got a surprise that evening.... Shortly after putting him to bed there was a knock on the front door and it was my mom and sister... They live 800 miles away, but they decided to come and surprise us. They came for Ian's birthday (which is tomorrow)... It was a nice surprise even though I'm horrified that my house isn't as clean as I'd like it to be. Usually when I know they are coming I clean like crazy.. So anyway, I haven't been so on top of the training since they arrived....

Yeah that one post caught me a little off guard. It seemed pretty blunt for someone who hasn't even hit that stage in life yet. At least now I know that I'm not the only one who thought so...

Anyway, thanks for the advice... I appreciate it...

MommyToAshley replied: Glad to hear he is making progress again. I am sure once things settle down, he'll pick back up on the success.

Good job, and hang in there!