I am so confused.....

ediep wrote: we are really working on potty training with Jason...but we don't have many successes. I have no idea if I am not doing it correctly or what???

anyway, he was doing what we call the potty dance everyday....saying I have to go on the potty, we bring him then in 2 seconds he wants to get off because he is scared, he gets off then it starts again...he says he has to go potty.
we try to keep him on the potty a little longer using books, toys, songs, incentive candy....whatever...sometimes he'll sit sometimes he won't

Then he had a stomach bug a few weeks ago and there was a setback. He stopped the potty dance for a few weeks.

Now we are back to him asking to go on the potty, maybe once a day, but once he is sitting he is too scared to go.

DH's grandma made me feel like its my fault he isn't fully trained yet...she says all her kids were trained at 1...huh? then she tells me that potty trainning is 100% the mothers effort, not the kids....

what should I do? Help? any advice

Kaitlin'smom replied: is he using the big potty or a potty chair. sometimes the big potty can be overwhelming. Dont worry Kait is not fuly trained yet, she is makeing great progress but we are still having trouble with #2 in the potty. I am not worried either she will in her time, and so will he.

ediep replied:
he has a little sesame street seat on the big potty. Do you think I should go out and get a potty chair? Do you think it willmake a difference?

My mom told me to just get the seat....she said the potty chair isn't necessary. I don't know?

luvbug00 replied: My friend had the same problem with her son and she tried what I was taught to do because Mya was the same way ( except she never did pullups) . Ditich the dipers & pull ups and put on the undies. The kids hated getting wet so they went straight to the potty on their own. For them it was a last resort for us pull ups were just too expencive and dipers where getting old...lol

Hope you find somthing that will work for Jason!!

Jamison'smama replied: We tried it in 3 day steps. I stayed home for 3 days, had her wear big girl pants and sat the potty chair in the living room (she was scared of the big potty even though we had a little insert thing) I would set the timer for 15 minutes and ask if she wanted to go--sometimes she'd sit and sometimes not. I had a box of dollar store reward toys for the first day--everytime she'd go, I would give her a reward. I attempted the 3 day trial 3 times before she was interested. The first two times I gave up after day 2 because she indicated she just wasn't ready.

Eventually she got it and she decided to change to the regular potty---her dad used to put her on backwards so she could hug the tank if she was scared of falling in.

Hang in there, he has plenty of time and it is all about his readiness and not your "fault".

jdkjd replied: Sounds like your mom might not be the best to listen to on this issue.

I would get a cool little potty chair - the cool thing is that you can take it with you to the park or wherever.

Bailey loved the chair and was intimidated by the big potty.

Jamison'smama replied:
I agree about the potty chair--I got one with a lid---(walmart) so I could take it in the car and we used it several times--perfect when making long car trips even after they are potty trained.

mckayleesmom replied: My mom had 5 kids and she sat us all backwards on the potty...it made it less intimidating if we could hold onto the lid.

Kaitlin'smom replied: Try a potty chair, he might like that better. Kait does not mid the big potty but sometimes she still likes the potty chair, it has a lid and the top can come off to sit on the big potty.

coasterqueen replied: Kylie had to use the potty chair at first too. She was very intimidated by the big potty and was afraid of falling in. She said it was a long way to the water.

I agree, get him a cool potty chair. Maybe put it in a different room than where the regular bathroom is at. That might take his mind off of things and relieve some pressure. Put it in a more friendly atmosphere where he has some toys, books, etc around him (like you have been doing).

When he's doing the potty dance do you know if he's having to go poo or pee? It seems more kids are afraid of the poo issue and if he had a stomach bug and was poo'ing a lot he might just be a bit afraid in general right now.

Just keep trying, he'll get it. There is a kid at Kylie's sitters who is 4 years old and still isn't potty trained, but he changes his own diapers and cleans himself when he poos in it. YUCK.

I'm suprised it's not a rule that he has to be trained to go to preschool. Around here they can't til they are trained.

coasterqueen replied:
My mom did this with me after I fell in once and it scared me to death. She said I did much better once I was turned backwards.

ediep replied:
I thinks its poop that he has to do when he is doing the potty dance


There is a rule at his school that they should be potty trained if they are in the 3 year old class, but they don't really inforce it because Jason is almost a year younger than some of his classmates. I guess they are give hima break for a while.

ediep replied: he isn't afaid of the big potty, he sits on it sometimes for 10 minutes, but he is afarid to make his pee or poop in it.

maybe I'll go to Target today and buy some little potty chair today and see if that makes any difference

MommyToAshley replied: I think the potty seat is a good idea. We got one that could be either a small potty or fit on the seat. At first we used the little potty chair, and then Ashley wanted a potty seat. Now, she doesn't like the seat either and just sits on the regular potty.

Have you tried letting him stand when he has to go pee? You could put cheerios or something else in there as targets for him to hit.... it might make it more fun for him.

By the way, I wouldn't let your MIL bother you, I think potty training is not going to happen until the child is ready... no matter what you do.

It's funny, I was going to post a "I'm confused" potty question and then I saw your post, but I will start another thread.

ediep replied:
I have tried letting him stand, even watch DH first, we tried the cheerios target...no luck yet

I just got back from the store with a little potty chair...we'll try this for awhile

Thanks everyone

Kaitlin'smom replied: good luck with the potty chair