Husbands..... - ARG!

MyLuvBugs wrote: Do you ever feel like your hubby is the laziest piece of *blankity blank* on the planet, and you rather beat him with a stick to knock sense into him instead of look at him?

Just asking.

luvbug00 replied: ahh every day!

seriously, I hope your day brightens if this is any indication on how it's going..

BAC'sMom replied: Sometimes.....after 17 years I think that I have him trained then he'll suprise me.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: My DH does bug me on occasion, but I wouldn't call him lazy.

I'm sorry if you're having a rough time Erika!

MyLuvBugs replied:
thanks, but lately it's been almost everyday where I'm just sick and tired of him being a lazy butt and not helping with anything around here.

Yelling at him only makes him pout which angers me more, doing it myself makes me madder b/c I'm getting so big that it's getting harder to do somethings, And tellling/asking him politely to do something does nothing...all I get is "ok, in a minute" then like 3 hours later he says "did you want me to do something?"

kayla's mama replied: We are married to the same man!!! Jason's fave line....in a minute. Which turns into hours, into days. UGH, it gets me so mad. Then he's gets angry when I go do what I asked him to do. Makes no sense.

Sorry you are having a rough time with DH

Kaitlin'smom replied: hope your day gets better. And yes he does have his moments, where I want to scream and I feel like his mother, but for the most part all is good.

A&A'smommy replied: I'm sorry your going through a rough time now.. but I know exactly how you feel my husband is the same exact way...

C&K*s Mommie replied: Sorry your husband is not being exactly cooperative when you ask him to do things.

kimberley replied: somedays i do but in reality, i know how hard he works most days and what he gives up for us. i learned to stop expecting help so when it happens now, it is a nice surprise.
i am sorry your dh isn't helping out and hope you can sit him down and tell him how much this is bothering you. can you enlist anyone else to come help? i know that will probably leave you still upset, but if he won't do it, you shouldn't have to alone either. what about when the baby comes? does he realize what he needs to do then? could there be control issues? i hope things get better soon.

luvbug00 replied: I'm sorry i didn't mean to tease I just thought you were having a bad day..

I hope your DH shapes up for you so you can relax more.

Cece00 replied: Who doesnt????

Thankfully, its only SOMETIMES that I feel like that.

MyLuvBugs replied:
Well, he doesn't have a job now, so I know he's not "working hard" But that's probably part of his attitude lately....

My parents are 2+ hours away, so I'd only call them if it was something big. My Bro and SIL are just across town, but they both work 50-60 hours a week and odd hours too. Then there's my sister and her husband......UGH, don't get me started....

I think he realizes that the baby is coming and sooner rather than later. KWIM? but that scares him too b/c he doesn't feel like he's supporting us. He also got spoiled when Lorelei was born b/c my parents came for a month to help out, and he didn't get to really "help" with anything b/c they just took over... This time....Mom said it will only be her b/c dad's going off hunting, and she can only take 2 weeks off. So, he's going to have to help. Lord help us.

I don't think there's really control issues, but more depression on his part. I've gotten him some herbal pills to help, but he won't take them and just sits around, mopes, pouts, whines, and expects me to do everything (no joke). He's even asked me to start "helping him" fill out job applications. It's been almost 3 months now, and I've been supportive and encouraging, but I'm to the point where his attitude towards it all is just pi$$ing me off!

MyLuvBugs replied:
It's ok! I guess I'm a little more upset than I thought I was.

AlexsPajamaMama replied: Sorry your man is a lazy bum!

My husband helps out alot considering the fact that he works third shift and sleeps all day. He needs a reminder now and then that I need a break/ day off from my work just like he does.

luvmykids replied: I know things are frustrating for you right now. Hope it gets better real quick, for his sake as much as yours!

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I'm sorry, hun. I hope you are feeling better about things now.

americangirl85 replied: oh heck yeah,every now and then.

moped replied: HA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

NEVER............................

Ashlynn's Mommy replied: YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I do everything. I'm so sick of cleaning up after him. I clean my house all day. When he comes home I have to continually clean up after him. It is so aggravating. I'm the kind of person that has to have everything in order, and if it's not I have to fix it right away. He on the other hand is a SLOB!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

TheOaf66 replied: well as I sympathize with you i am sorry to say that I am not sure you have much hope. I can only speak with what my wife and I go through. She complains about me being messy but in my defense I don't have the vision she does. She can spot a crumb from across the room so I don't see these things, granted I do not look especially hard either. Eventually I have been getting better. What I can recommend is to show him what you are having to clean (if you haven't already) and really let him know how it bothers you and that you need help. If it is presented in a "please help me" kind of way and not a "you lazy piece of (*^)" type of way it will be responded to much better. Hope this helps a bit anyways.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Wow, I could have written that post myself!!!

redchief replied: Yep.

TheOaf66 replied:

Boo&BugsMom replied:

redchief replied: Point of order and celebration is called for. Someone FINALLY used the "I'm With Stupid" Smiley. ROFL

Boo&BugsMom replied: I thought it was fitting since my hubby's post was right above mine! That's what he gets for sticking his tongue out at me!

Brias3 replied: Oh, yes. Sometimes I REALLY REALLY DO

I think the best piece of advice I ever got was from my grandmother right before I got married and that was, "Never do anything for men once that you don't want to continue to have to do for the rest of your life" I swear, it really is true- do it once, they expect it forever. Just the other day, I told DH that he'd better think about packing a suitcase this week since we'll be busy Friday and Saturday and are leaving for FL on Sunday. His reply...Well, can't you just throw a few things in a suitcase for me? Excuse me? You mean, throw more than a few things, since we're going for the better part of three weeks. Mind you, this comment was more or less thrown over his shoulder as he headed out the door on the way to the golf course So apparently, I'm supposed to pack for all five of us. Lovely.

That's really just the tip of the iceberg half the time around here. MEN MEN MEN.

luvmykids replied:
I got the same advice only it was too late, after we'd been married a year and I had perfected the "Really it's no trouble for you honey" routine. I hate to admit this but I used to get up and put his clothes in the dryer so they'd be warm for him when he got out of the shower. Took a long time to break him of that one!

I had no idea that bringing him coffee in bed on our honeymoon would automatically add it to my list of daily chores!

AlexsPajamaMama replied:
No way man!
Thats just a special treat!

TheOaf66 replied: hmmm, coffee in bed, now that sounds like a nice little surprise

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Here's a question for you... my dh's first year in university, he went and lived in Edmonton in a subletted appartment for the summer, to work. His parents stayed in Ottawa... he did have a roomate, a neat freak who was hardly home.

He had to do his own laundry, cook his own meals, iron his own shirts, make lunches etc etc....

Now, he doesn't know how to do laundry? or cook? Well he didn't starve ot there all those years ago... so what gives?

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Keep dreaming!

TheOaf66 replied:
that's all I can do dear

joshsophia replied: I have only been married for 3 years so I feel as though he is still in training. There are days when I come home from work and he has been off for a couple of hours already and yet nothing is done around the house. His comments usually are "I just wanted to relax for a bit"......forgetting of course that mommy rarely gets those moments