How many times a month

My2Beauties wrote: ...does your DH/DF/So go out with the fellas??????

OK this gets on my last nerve. TOnight while I am up to my elbows in beauty shop, truth or dare and baking cupcakes with 5 pre-teens, Brian is going to be out on the town with the guys? He has this "rule" if that is what you want to call out that he gets to go out with the guys at least once a month. Am I making a big deal out of this because this really gets on my nerves. I think the reason why is because it's the end of the world if he goesn't get to go out with his friends but when it comes to going out with me he says stuff like I really am not feeling it tonight or I could care less if we go out or not, but my God let one of the guys ask him and he whines about it for a week!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He makes me so mad! I hate when he goes out for some reason! Also I can go out too but my friends aren't as dependable and trustowrthy, they break our "dates" all the time and good luck even getting them to go out, we all have kids and they unfortunately have losers as the dads who won't take care of the kids!!!!!!

I think all in all I am just having a bad day! Yesterday Brian p'd me off to no end because of his attitude (I don't know what crawled up his butt) and I took Desiree shopping for her slumber party last night and she showed her butt in every store we went to! When I came hom at 8:00 finally from shopping Brian falls into a peaceful blissful sleep on the couch by 8:15 and I'm left to give Hanna a bath and put her to bed (which she didn't do until 10:30)!!!!!!!!!! When I asked him to get the groceries out of the car (I put my foot on him and shook him) he goes what's your problem you have an attitude.........

Please let me know this isn't just Brian that does this?

Boys r us replied: Yeah Rick goes out about once a month with the guys.

I don't mind...I do the samething..probably more than once a month with the girls!
I think it's important to remember that just because you're a couple it doesn't mean you have to lose the individual you were before couplehood happened!

coasterqueen replied: Actually Ryan just doesn't go out with the guys that often anymore. He was doing "movie" night every Thursday over at his friends house but that was after Kylie went to bed. If he does do anything it's after she goes to bed anyways the majority of the time.

Josie83 replied: It depends. Quite often we'll go out together as we have the same circle of friends. but I would say about two or three times a month he goes out without me and vice versa. i don't mind him going out at all, btu he's so funny he generally spends most of the night texting me or ringing to check Cassie's okay! Er yeah, she's still in bed, still asleep, still breathing! xx

TANNER'S MOM replied: This is a big issue at my house. I wouldn't say that Randy always goes at with the guys per say, but he does do all kinds of stuff. He works shift work, 4 days on and 4 days off. What pisses me off is that on the 4 days off he is running around all day doing this and doing that. At his leizure! No kids to watch , they are all at as school. Like today, he is working on his four wheeler, painting it camo and stuff at his buddies house! Well, the reason this pisses me off is b/c I work 40 hrs a week in town, plus farm work raise 4 kids and get two days off a week and spend that doing laundry..mopping floors etc. It wears me out!

Yes I understand completely!

favre4fan replied: I can't complain too much. Iain has his poker night every other friday in our garage usually and he goes out to play poker once in awhile. I really have nothing to complain about except hes really messy but he does all the cooking. Only thing I don't like is that he doesen't always understand girl stuff .

My2Beauties replied:
That's just it! If he doesn't go out with the guys he has something to do, he plays poker around the corner on Friday or has to walk around there for an hour to see what is going on, meanwhile I am stuck at home! He doesn't get it, his own family has even told him to calm down but he doesn't get it! He says he goes crazy if he stays in the house...how in the hell (excuse my french) does he think I feel then? He also plays sports and I'm glad tha the does but he plays them a lot on Tuesdays he bowls, on Sunday he plays basketball, a couple of weeks ago his softball every Monday night ended, at one point in our relationship he played a posrt 5 nights a week! Before Hanna it was fine because I could go and cheer him on (especialy to the outside flag football games in the winter) but with her it means I am stuck at home with her while he is out having the time of his life...NOT FAIR!!!!!!!!!

You guys I am sorry today is just not my day! I dont' normally vent but I had to today!

favre4fan replied: rArgghhh that would aggravate me U definately need nights out too that is not fair!!

TANNER'S MOM replied: Don't feel bad! We all have these feelings, and then feel guilty because we think it means we don't want to help our families and be with our kids! We get tired and taken for granted and that is what makes go crazy...

They don't get it!

~KARA~ replied: My dh dosent! He went out 2 nights before we got married and did something he new I was totally against. He now knows not to go out with out6 me cause he will get in to trouble. Plus his friends kinda deserted him after we got married. He was the first to get married and have a baby. He will occasionaly go for a beer with a few guys from work but thats only after they have a good week, which is few and far between!

A&A'smommy replied: OMG yeah I would be pissed too, you DEFINILTY need some time out too. Put your foot down and tell him that you need some time out of the house too. Make some kind of rule that if you don't get to go out thee times a month then he doesn't get to go out either! Its not fair for him to be able to go out all the time and you to stay home being mommy, cook, and maid!

3xsthefun replied: Rob goes over to his friends garage every Wednesday afterwork. I don't mind it to bad they just hang out over there and talk and maybe work on a truck or something. I don't know if you'd really call it a guys night out or not. I guess so.

They do go out maybe once or twice a month doing other stuff besides going over to the "Garage"

Maddie&EthansMom replied: My DH doesn't have friends. Seriously. He has no hobbies or interests. He works and comes home. He holds it against me if I want to go out and do something on his time off. You have to understand that DH leaves here at 7:30 in the morning and gets home around 9 p.m. (used to be later...more like 11 p.m.) and he does this 6 days a week. There is no time for friends or family. I would like for him to find a hobby, but we see him so little as it is that I just don't see it happening. He has no desires to have friends or hobbies, either.

Lollie replied: Hi...

Devlin goes out with the guys about 3 times a month...he says he sees them at rugby practice and so theres no need for him to see them more than that.

I also go out with my friends about 3 times a month.Hehehehe...as Josie mentioned,Devlin also calls us all the time no matter where he is to check that we ok...and that I havent gone into labour yet!!!

ctymom replied: My DH has gone out in a long time. He just doesnt feel like it half the time. He used to go out from time to time but he feels guilty alot b/c I'm at home. Neither one of us drink anymore so bars are 'no fun'. He used to go to karaoke every week, but hasnt since I was pregnant. Never wanted to leave me alone.


Pamela

dreamweaver82 replied: Michael never goes out seeing that when he gets home he's extremely tired. Sometimes he has his friend Paul come over but that's about it.