How many kids do you want and how far apart?

xKirstyMaex wrote: I was just wondering how many kids everyone was hoping for and how far apart and also how many do you think is too many?

I personally want 3 children (2girls and a boy would be nice!!)
I already have 1 who is 10 months and am working on next one a I want them close together 1 or 2 years between each one. DF broke the news to me the other day he wants 5!! I would go mad! but some people can have 5 and be perfectly happy. I'm not 1 of those people! I think that more then 6 kids is too much but if the parents think they can divide their time between that amount of kids right then thats great! So what do you think?

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: Aaron is happy with one, but I want one more. But I want at least 4 or 5 years between them. I want Logan to be walking, talking and potty trained. And I got along better with my brother who is 5 years younger than I am, than my sister who is 2 years younger.

MyLuvBugs replied: Well, the plan was 3 kids 2 1/2 years apart. But that's not really working out like we planned. lol Now we're having our 2nd, and the space will only be 21 months. We're hoping that between 2 and 3 we'll have at least 2 years. But things don't always go as planned.

danahas4monkeys replied: We have 4! 2 girls 2 boys I want one more, dh says no lol then he says maybe so we'll see. There is 13mths between 1&2 then a loss and 6yrs between 2&3 and 22mths between 3&4 and another loss. our youngest will be 2 next month so i want to get crackin. We arent preventing well actually have never prevented lol but not charting and all that we did before. if it happens it happens! in all honesty if i could i'd have 6 kids lol! big families arent for everyone my mil is always on me how we have 4 kids as if i didnt know how many people i'd had in my uterus! my sil lives with mil and has one child and you'd think they had 15 kids the way the carry on lol! i have 6 brothers and sisters and could never imagine life with a small family. as for ages the sister next to me is 10mths 22 days younger than me lol for a little over a month we are the same age, and the biggest age difference is 13 yrs between me and my youngest brother. i say if you want a big family go for it if you dont then dont but dont let anyone else dictate how many or how few kids you have nobody lives your life but you!

Dana

MyBlueEyedBabies replied: we are having 3.
The first 2 are 15 months apart and then from 2-3 it will be approx. 31 months apart...not sure which spacing I will like better but I really do like the 15 months

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I always wanted 3 kids, 4 years apart in age. However, after having 2 kids, DH and I both agreed we were finished. We have a boy and a girl and they are 4 years apart in school.

Since we send them to private school, I think 3 would be more than we can afford.

My3LilMonkeys replied: We currently have 2, 21 months apart. I would like 1 more I think (hopefully a boy) but not until Madison is at least 3.

A&A'smommy replied: I want 3... actually I wanted four but dh wouldn't be able to handle that so I'm compromised anyway I want 2 girls and a boy but who know and I would like for them to be 3 years apart we will see I guess!!

luvbug00 replied: although we'd be fine with just Mya. I'd like one more and have them be five years apart. my sanity couldn't handle 2 in dipers.

amymom replied: Well I wanted a football team!!! But we got two. They are 6 years apart and that is perfect! Or at least it better be, cuz its what I got

Seriously, I would have loved to have had a bunch of kids but we didn't.

C&K*s Mommie replied: We are through right now with having children. We have two that are 17mos apart. In the future we have put the thought of adopting in the back of our minds until the girls are a little older. I always wanted 2 at the standard 2-3yrs apart. But I am happy that we had them close together.

MamaJAM replied: Our plan when we got married was "5 by 30" -- meaning 5 kids by the time I turned 30. We _almost_ made it....our 5th child was born a month after my 30th b-day.
We tried to 'plan' the distance between them....but dealt with secondary infertility.
Our kids ended up:
DD#1 - 4 years later - DD#2 (fertility problems)
DD#2 - 2.5 years later - DD#3 (basically as planned)
DD#3 - 3.5 years later - DS#1 (fertility problems)
DS#1 - 12 months later - DS#2 (as planned)

akelly replied: We want two. Not sure *exactly* why hubby wants two....for me part of it is I didn't like growing up an only child. Hubby would have LIKED it. But since I'm going to be 37 when I have number one, we'll be working on number 2 as soon as we can I guess!

Amy

MomToMany replied: #1 & #2 are 22 months apart; #2 & #3 are 4.5 years apart; #3 & #4 are 28 months apart; #4 & #5 are 23 months apart. I like them close together; no more than 2 years apart. The reason why #2 & #3 are so far apart is because I was on that darn Depo-Provera shot after #2 was born, and that really messed things up. I'll NEVER take anything with hormones in it again.

If it was up to me, I'd have a dozen. But DH won't go for that, so we are having 6. The 3 boys are from my 1st marriage, and the 2 girls are with DH. I'd like to have a boy so DH gets a boy of his own. But I think the next will be another girl, which I'd be absolutely thrilled with!! I hope my mom's dream she had the other day comes true; she said I had identical twin boys ! I could only hope for that!!


ETA: I'll turn 30 later this year .

MamaJAM replied:
DH and I always thought we'd have 5 daughters. Though I had constant dreams that we had 4 girls- then twin boys. My dreams were close -- we had 3 girls then 2 boys exactly 12 months apart (they aren't twins...but they do share a b-day).

MomToMany replied:

That's really neat (but I imagine bad in a way too??) that they share a birthday. My 2 older sisters are 1 year & 1 day apart, so pretty close to sharing a birthday.

ETA: I'm going to try the pendulum prediction thing again & see what it says!

MommyToAshley replied: We have one daughter right now and not sure if/when we will have another. I go back and forth on the issue but we need to make our mind soon!

mommymonster replied: I have two older children 7 and 8 boy and girl, they are 14 months apart and I would like to have 2 more also about 14 months apart

CosmetologyMommy replied: I want 2 kids only and I want them close so after I graduate from school and Aidan is almost a year we might start trying.

PrairieMom replied: We originally wanted 2, 3 years apart, but now that I am prego with #2, I can't imagine never doing this again. I think I will wrok on DH for 3 3 years apart. And since we are family planning, it will go boy, girl, boy, so the girl wont' get middle child syndrome.

CAMSMOM1 replied: Orginally we wanted 5 children. But after having our son, I couldn't imagine having five, wow, power to all the Mommies with a big family.

My husband wants one more, a girl. I would like to have 3. So we'll see. He wanted them close in age, but our son is going to be 2 yrs old, and we don't plan on trying for another year. So hopefully it'll be 3 years MAX between our 1st and 2nd.

I like the idea that Cameron will be potty trained, sleeping in a big boy bed, and in preschool, before we have a newborn. That would be a little much.

But in my fanatsy world, if I was a SAHM, had plenty of money, I would have 4 children. 2 boys & 2 girls. But of course, that's just a dream.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: We wanted none to begin with....but then we were blessed with our son. We deciuded to have our daugher (middle child) and so #1 and #2 are 16 months apart.

We didn't plan #3, so #2 and #3 are 22 months apart.

We aren't planning on more for the moment - but I'd really like to have more, later on. Hopefully twins.

I'm open to adoption too.... my body would likely handle that better anyways. Less weight to gain.

Edward's Mommy replied: Chris and I want a lot! We want as many as we can. 5 at the least. He wants to try for #2 when Edward's a year and 1/2. I want to wait 2 and 1/2 years. So.....But we want a lot of kids. I've always wanted a lot for a specific reason. My reason is so they have more than two people to depend on should something happen to Chris or I and we're not here anymore.

~~*Missi*~~ replied: I want 2-4 live births. I say that because I do technically have "four children" since well I was preggo twice and miscarried both times.

I really really would like them no more then 2 years apart. I would LOVE LOVE two really close if I can have twins since then they would be close like that too.

I love kids and want a bundle but i settle with 4!

mummy2girls replied: i wanted more..but after my losses im really on the fence... it would be nice to have anopther girl though...may be a pipe dream! because i am still single and 30

PhiMuMommy replied: i want either 3 or 4..

i have a 2 almost 3 year old. and i want the next one as soon as i get a stable relationship (and ring on my finger)

then i want the others basically 2 years apart from eachother.

calbury replied: We have 4 ... 3 girls and 1 boy and there are 3 years between each. I found this age difference really good - by the age of 3 they're usually out of nappies and a bit more independent, so I found I had that little extra time to deal with a newborn.

I'd like 2 more - my son would really love a little brother - and my dh is happy about having more, so we'll see what happens ...

paradisemommy replied: we're having either 3 or 4 depending on the sex of our next one (when it happens)..if it's a boy then we'll go for a 4th but if it's a girl then we are done..we figured this out because of the rooming situation

oh and there is almost 3 years exactly between 1 and 2..in fact, i had the same due date but both were c-sect. so i tried spacing them out as much as i could - ended up being 5 days..

coasterqueen replied: I would LOVE LOVE to have another one, but Dh doesn't really want another one . We always agreed on two, but I find myself wanting one more. It's weird because 1/2 of me really wants another one and the other 1/2 doesn't due to financial reasons (which is Dh's reason solely), going thru sleepless nights, etc. So I'm conflicted. But Dh is certain. So who knows.

luvmykids replied: We have 4, the twins who are almost 4, and then Macie who just turned 2, the actual age diff is 20 months, and DH has a daughter who is 11. We were planning on being done after the twins but didn't take the necessary precautions if you know what I mean! But now we really are done, I had my tubes tied b/c we didn't want anymore and didn't trust ourselves!

Once in a while, when everyone is behaving, I get the little longing to have another one and wish I at least had the option, but in the long run we have our hands full. I so admire moms who can handle more but I'm not one of them!

MM'sMama replied: We want 3 and we have 2

1 son who is 4 and a half yrs old
and one daughter who is almost 5 months old and a 3rd would be nice maybe in 2 or 3 yrs.

BAC'sMom replied: We have 3 ~ and we are officially done. #1 and #2 are 3 1/2 years apart. #2 and #3 are 4 years apart.

3xsthefun replied: I would love to have another. I want a little boy. But I'm not sure if it will happen. We have 2 now and they are little over 3 1/2 years apart. If we have anymore, I'd like get pregnant before Maegan turns 3. But the way things are going right now I don't think it will happen.

DLR-DKR~ Mommy replied: I have 2 boys 7 & 9.. 20 months apart. Im done!! Sometimes when I see a little baby girl, I think I want another one. Then all I have to do is think about the sleep loss, dirty diapers, teething, all the things that go along with it. I realize Im better off to be done, my boys are pretty self suffiecient at this point and it would silly to start all over.