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Boys r us wrote: kids do you plan to have?

What drives your decision behind this?

MomToMany replied: We already have 5. We want 6. I'd have a dozen, but DH says 6 is enough. I think the best things you can give your children is lots of love, and siblings. I have 5 sisters and 1 brother. I've always wanted a large family.

coasterqueen replied: Well we've always agreed on 2 children, but after having Kylie I said I wanted 9, a baseball team . Dh said we would *see* about having more than 2. After dealing with this m/s this time around I'm not so sure myself.

Boys r us replied: We plan to have one more..Actually I was happy with two, but DH is driven by the number 3!

Reason for my decision? I'm perfectly happy with 2 o 3 children and I feel like that is a good number that we can amply provide for both emotional and financially.

Josie83 replied: Right now, i don't know if I want any more at all because jason and I are so happy with Cassie, but this could change. I had two brothers and two sisters and Jason has three brothers, so we both come from big families, but I quite like the idea of just having one. Jason wants four, tho, so we'll see! xx

booey2 replied: Well in a perfect world I would be a stay at home mom with at least 4 children,kinda like the even numbers. However that being said, I work fulltime out of the home and find that having to do the majority of childrearing after a full day at the office is really trying at times, so we are thinking of calling it quits after my two handsome boys.

jolene555 replied: i have always wanted 6, and barry didn't want more than 1. i talked him up to the possibility of 4.

kel replied: we plan to have 2 kids.firstly in this country(south africa) the government schools are quite bad,so private schooling is a must for us.it is very expensive and although we live very comfortably we would only be able to put 2 kids through school and varsity.i also want my kids to have the BEST that we can afford and 3 kids would be stretching that limit..
i also do not think that i would be able to divide my time between more than two kids,i want to beable to have time with dh and we battle to find the time now ,so i cant imagine more than 2 kids...
and being pregnant more than twice would be a nightmare for me..

A&A'smommy replied: I want four lol and here is my reasoning so Jeremiah will go with it 1 it will be lonely 2 is not enough 3 one will get left out and 4 is a perfect number

MomofJandB replied: We have 2, one boy and one girl, and we're done! I like having two. I'm a SAHM. They are growing up (4 and 8) and their activities take so much time! My DH works long hours, so it's all up to me. I feel I can handle the running around with and taking care of two, but any more and I might resent my hubby's long hours!

momof2girls replied: We have 2 and are done, I had my tubes tied If I could afford it Id have 10 but I dont feel I can save for college for that many kids.

megsmommie replied: Since I was a kid I have always wanted 4 kids. 2 girls, 2 boys. I don't know why. I have two boys now, so, all I need is two girls.

kit_kats_mom replied: kids do you plan to have?

Well, I planned on one....but I'm going to have two soon & that's ok since I was kind of on the fence about it anyway.

What drives your decision behind this?
(for 1)
1. because DH and I are both onlies and are familiar with that family mode of operandi.
2. Because after giving myself totally to AP'ing Katherine I felt really drained & sometimes resentful.
3. I don't know if I have the patience for more than one...heck, I have my days were one is too many!
4. I want to be able to spend my time/money/energy on bringing up once good kid & give her many of the things that I did not have. Like decent schooling, one on one time with mom & dad, vacations, non-homemade clothes etc.

(for 2) which we had discussed, just not finalized the decision...which still scares me.
1. So that #1 can have a playmate & confidant besides old mom & dad (who will wear out very soon at the current rate LOL)
2. So that we can have even more love in the house.
3. To see how far I can push myself until I am institutionalized.
4. So the kids can have an aunt/uncle for their kids & hopefully cousins too. That's one thing I'm sad that K will never have for real, only extended.
5. The hope that they will love and respect each other and be there to comfort one another when DH and I are gone.
6. The hope that they will love and respect us enough to take really good care of us when we are older. LOL
7. The desire for lots of grandkids stands a better chance with more than one kid.
8. The world was made for families of 4. Most tables seat 4, most cars seat 4, ticket packages come in 4's. If we had any more, we'd have to get a bigger car.


I sometimes wish I was wired differently when I see big happy families but I'm a little more selfish and a little less maternal than some of you guys I guess. I'll just keep plugging along with my two & try to do my best. I think DH will be getting the big "V" after this one is born.

My2Beauties replied: I"m not sure if I want another one neither, I have 1 with DF and DF has another 8 yr old girl, so it's like I have 2. Right now with me having school 3 nights a week and stuff it's hard with just 1, but once I"m out of school and if we're financially set,I 'll have another, giving me 2 and DF 3. He wants a boy so very bad!

Kaitlin'smom replied: well when I was a kid I wanted 6 then as I got older I thought 4 was more pratical, well after i was married for a few years I honstly did not thnk I would ever be a mommy, so I am very happy with my daughter and would not change that for anything. as for more I dont plan on it, I think DH does want one more.

however after reading some of kit kats moms reasons for 2 I see some really great points, and I am not totaly apposed to another but I would rather just stick to one.

KatieLeigh79 replied: When I was younger I did daycare for 9, so I swore I wanted 9 and then after I met Todd and he told me he wanted 1 - I figured we would settle on 3, then JR was born and all heck has broke loose with his attitude, now I'm not even sure I can handle 2 without curling up in a ball and twitching... I'm thinking come Nov I will still agree to start TTC #2, but just keep hoping it doesn't happen for a little while longer seeing I still can't handle or control the temper tantrums and attitude he has on his own right now - and who knows, after 2 maybe someday 3 will be wanted but I'm not sure how many we can afford with diapers as expensive as they are and the cost of living - always considered I'd do foster care to someday so maybe we will try for another, if we are blessed stop at 2 then when they are a little bigger look into being foster parents as I've always felt like I should do something to help other people being my parents were so awsome and I'd hope all children actually had the chance at being young before they are forced to see how cruel the world is.


....Just have to keep myself out of a nut house before I even get to TTC #2! (the reason I say this is he is "supposed" to be taking his second nap until 3:30 and since I put him down is standing in his bed screaming "BYEBYEBYE MOMMAMOMMA" and occasionally I hear *Thud* when he tries to find something else to throw out of the crib.. and this is a daily battle, and one of the smallest.

3xsthefun replied: We have 2 kids right now, after Kaitlynn was born we thought we just wanted 1. Maegan was not planned which is a good thing. Because I don't think my husband would have ever want anymore kids. I thought that we were done with 2 kids, now we are not sure. I'd like to have atleast 1 more then we will be done.

Edit: Neither of our kids were planned but that is ok, I don't know what I'd do without them now. So that is pretty much the reason why we got he number of kids we have.

Lollie replied: Well Hubby and I want about 4 kids....but at the rate were going maybe we'll end up with our own rugby team lol!!

amynicole21 replied: I'd like 3 (or more!) - DH wants 2. I had such a wonderful experience growing up with an older sis and I imagine having another sibling would have been twice as fabulous I could never have made it without my sister - my parents were nut cases and I depended (and still depend) on my sister for a smidge of sanity. Also, I love the genetic crap shoot involved in having babies. I'd love to have 3+ just to see how different they would all be.

paradisemommy replied: ok we have 1 right now - and want either 2 or 3..on the fence at this point. we have our son, so if #2 is a girl then we *may* be done, but the more i think about it, i think 3 would be a good number, but that would be the maximum that our finances could comfortably support.

ita with amy though..i would love to have another boy just so i could see what he looks like and how he compares to taven!!

MomToJade&Jordan replied:
LOL!!!!!!! Cary you crack me up! I think I agreed with every reason you worte there especially #3 under the reason to have #2. I really do keep telling DH that they are going to have to put me in the nut house if we have another one. It always seems like everyone is always demannding things of me at once. Adding one more to that equation might just push me over the edge.

But seriously we do want one more. DH has one older brother and I have two younger brothers. It was really great being brought up with siblings. We are currently ttc, but that is probably going to have to stop pretty soon if we don't get pg. We are going to PCS to a new base next year and I really don't think I want to be moving either really pg or with a newborn. Our reasoning for having only 2. We are a military family and DH has plans on being a lifer which means having to pull up stakes every 3-4 years for the next 20-30 years. It's going to be difficult enough to move just us let alone a whole brood of children. I think 2 is a good number I know I can stop at that. I think even if we were rooted in one spot I wouldn't want any more then that.

mummy2girls replied: I wanted 2 kids. I did have Jordan but i lost him:( Then came jenna:) I am really scared to even try for a 3rd but im still single and not even married so that may change

Elle replied: Well, I've always wanted 5 kids and fortunately DH agreed (we would have started a little later, though) So after these 2 are born, we'll "close the factory", because there's no way we can handle more children

Mom2Boyz replied: We've decided on 2, maybe 3. If the next one is a girl, we'll more than likely stop there, but if it's a boy we get to try one more time.
If it was up to me, I'd have a whole housefull, but there's no way we could afford more than 3.

5littleladies replied: We are planning to have 5, and after that (long in the future) I'd love to adopt from another country. I love kids and have always wanted a large family. I would probably keep going forever if I could.