How do u usually make up after a fight?

TANNER'S MOM wrote: I was just wondering? My husband agreed to drive me to work this morning, and I was nit picking him the whole time about doing stuff around the house etc.

What can I do to really make up w/ him but let him know I really feel like he needs to help more?

kimberley replied: just be open and honest. maybe start by apologizing for nit picking then express to him that you are overwhelmed and could use his help in a calm manner. and be specific... most men need that. if it is dishes or help with the kids or dinner... say that. i know with DH, if i am not specific, he won't know what to do and ends up trying to help me with something i don't need help with and gets under my feet. but if i ask him to watch the baby while i cook or take out the garbage while i feed baby... he is more than willing to oblige. hth.

5littleladies replied: I think it really helps to say "Honey, could you....." and not "You never.....". That makes a huge difference in my house. That way they don't feel like they are being accused of something.
As far as making up-I usually end up apologizing ( I am the less-stubborn one by a teensy bit ) and giving him a big ol' kiss and hug Lame huh?
I could you what Dh's idea of making up is but this is the wrong forum.

favre4fan replied: i would apologize for nitpicking and just tell him how u feel and make suggestions about what he could do to be more helpful.

kit_kats_mom replied: I'm terrible about admitting when I've made a mistake. DH knows that if I iron his shirts or cook his favorite dinner that it's my way of apologizing. LOL

A&A'smommy replied: ugh I always feel REALLY bad if I act like that I usually end up crying (not purposly) and opologizing a LOT, then he gets over and tells me that I'm weird

coasterqueen replied: Well my husband knows me very very well and knows that I never admit when I'm wrong. I am getting better, a bit...the last year or so...but for the most part I'm never wrong.

He is usually the better person and just breaks the ice by doing something silly or acting like I never was not nice to him.

Josie83 replied: Jason and I don't fight that often, but when we do we are both quite good at admitting that we are wrong and explaining to each other what has annoyed us. He gets so upset if he thinks he has upset me too, that usually I forgive him anyway! and then there's usually one other thing that gets us okay again . . . xx

jolene555 replied: i wouldn't know - he's always the one who needs to apologise.

My2Beauties replied: I just sincerely say I am sorry if I was being a butt earlier and I love you and give him a big old kiss and he usually goes you big meanie......I love you too! Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwww and then we make up!!! I love that man!

gr33n3y3z replied: I'm terrible about admitting when I've made a mistake also ....... But I try to do nice stuff for Ed like talking to him for starters or I will get in his face and give him a kiss But I still have to say I'm sorry and it has to be the right way or he will just say Your just saying that lol

darrylswifeskylersmom replied: darryl usually apologizes before i do!
then we end up having make up sex!
LOL